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Mrsbdg
Champion August 2017

Fired bridesmaid

Mrsbdg, on March 20, 2018 at 8:35 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 168
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Hey all!

This morning my cousin decided to "terminate" me as one of her bridesmaids. I was already sort of pressured into agreeing to be a bridesmaid in the first place because she is a favorite in the family.

Towards the end of the call she mentioned that she would still be "okay" if my DH and I came but that I was "banned" from wearing the $400 BM dress I literally just got 🙄

So:
If you've been "fired" would you still attend (there would be significant family drama for skipping out)?

As a "fired" BM would you go out and get another gown foresaking your recently purchased dress? (It's super simple black sweetheart spaghetti strap full a-line/bordering on ball gown)


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Latest activity by Amanduh, on June 8, 2018 at 4:57 PM
  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    Did she ask you to drop out because of the dress? Did you pick it yourself? Maybe she’s upset that your dress is so nice
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  • IGotTheD
    Dedicated April 2019
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    Currently I'm living for drama so I say skip and laugh at all the rest of the family.

    Maybe your sister will skip too and you guys can hang together!
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  • Future Louie
    Super August 2019
    Future Louie ·
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    Oh wow, I'm petty enough to still go wearing the banned dress. Either she pays me the money for it or I'm wearing it. Hopefully you can sell it to recoup some of that expense. Not sure if I'd want to buy another dress to go but if it would cause family drama if I didn't, I'd just suck it up and do it as I'm close to my huge family. Would it be worth it to you to potentially cause some big drama?

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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    Wow! Nope I would skip, I am not "okay" with someone just being "okay" that you and your DH still attend. Can I ask why she decided to terminate your employment Smiley angry as a bridesmaid?

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  • Aimee
    Devoted October 2015
    Aimee ·
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    Is she paying you back for this dress??

    I would not go, but that's just me...

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  • Carol
    Super April 2024
    Carol ·
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    Whaaaa??? Why did she terminate you?! I would be so hurt if someone cut me from their wedding after I just purchased that expensive of a BM dress! Did you pick it out or did she? I feel like she should be responsible for paying you back then, although I don’t know if that’s proper etiquette.

    I dont know if i would have the ability to go to go without being salty the entire evening! It makes me curious why she felt the need to cut you? Was she upset by something?
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    It has nothing to do with the dress or money.

    She obsessed with how her pictures are going to turn out and basically told me I needed to "clean up" my look. She felt if she offered to pay she could ask me to change.
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  • Carol
    Super April 2024
    Carol ·
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    Although cutting you as a bridesmaid isn’t proper etiquette either 🙄
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    Nope...but it is super nice so I'm okay with letting it chill in my closet. I wouldn't tell her that tho
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  • Munchkin9218
    Master September 2018
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    Charge her $400 on venmo for the dress


    (just kidding.... not)

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  • Carol
    Super April 2024
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    What did she offer to pay for? And what did you need to clean up? I mean that’s rather offensive considering your dress is clearly not off the clearance rack!
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  • Michelle
    VIP September 2018
    Michelle ·
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    This is such a bummer! I’m sorry you’re going through this. To be honest I think you should still go and go in a different dress. Be the bigger person and at the end of the day there won’t be any blame to put on you. You might regret going, but if you don’t go, you might regret that too. And I’d rather regret going somewhere than not going.
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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    I’m petty so I’d wear the dress and attend, but I’d leave right after dinner and make sure she knew I was leaving early.
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  • starsinwaves
    VIP November 2018
    starsinwaves ·
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    Oh yeah, I would 100% go in the expensive, “banned” dress. Without a gift.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
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    Whaaaatttttttt?????? what the heck is wrong with her, who says something like that to anyone, let alone family? I would not be attending that wedding no matter what drama it may cause, she sounds like a spoiled brat.

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  • Kristen328
    Super September 2018
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    I would probably attend to avoid the drama but I would not give her a gift
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  • M
    Expert July 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I am pretty sure she can't tell you what you can or can't wear to the wedding. I mean is he going to tell the rest of the guest what they can or can't wear. Honestly, I wouldn't go. Drama is not my thing so I would steer clear of that wedding especially when some tells me to "clean up" my look. Someone who doesn't love you for you is not worth your time... family or not.

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  • Brianna
    VIP May 2018
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    Wow, I can't believe what some people tell someone who they are supposed to be close with. I probably wouldn't go to the wedding anymore even if it causes drama. It would be hard for me to be there supporting that marriage.

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  • Janel
    Super September 2018
    Janel ·
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    “Ok” if you came? I wouldn’t go. And I’d probably sell the dress... after she gave me my money back.
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  • L
    Beginner August 2018
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    I would skip out on the wedding and deal with the family drama and plan a nice night out/weekend away with my SO where I could wear the dress and then post pictures online (if I'm being petty). lol

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