Fired bridesmaid

HAHAHAHA YES!

Please do this!

And get into AS MANY pictures as you can!

She must REALLY be obsessing if she notices some barely there lip hair. How rude. I have hair on my upper lip too but you can barely see it in person, let alone in pictures..........

In all honesty, I wouldn't go. Let the family drama ensue. You can tell everyone WHY you didn't go, I'm sure most of your family is rational enough to think you aren't in the wrong here...

Or go, and wear. the. dress. Unless she's planning on paying you back for it.

After seeing the reason why, I would definitely go and enjoy the night on her dime. If the dress is a mismatch dress, not the same as the other BM's, then I would wear it. I wouldn't make a big deal about why she fired you, but if asked, I would be truthful and simply say, I wouldn't wax my upper lip and leave it at that. Oh and please wear the mask @firstoneat56 posted and be sure to get photographed in it!

Wow! That is so ridiculous, I never like when brides treat people like photo props but, this is even more extreme than usual.

The petty side of me says to show up in the dress wearing a big fake mustache, eat, drink and party on her dime and don't leave a gift/card.

The other side says to cut all ties with her, don't attend the wedding and send her an invoice for the cost of the dress.

I'm not sure either of the above responses is correct but, I don't think I could bring myself to be proper in this situation. I honestly don't think I'd regret cutting someone this toxic out of my life. I would hope your family would support you since it is obviously clear she is the one who did something wrong, not you. I'm sorry you are going through this, family drama sucks!

Also, I just wanted to say that I've seen your photos and you are beautiful. I hope you don't let her bring you down or create self-doubt.

I'd ask for your money back for the dress and even for the bridesmaid gift. It's beyond rude to fire someone for the reason she fired you. I'd wear the dress to the wedding just to spite your cousin.

Sorry this happened that is BS.

Can we see a pic of this $400 dress?

Agree with pretty much everyone here. So incredibly rude and hurtful! So sorry OP!

I'm not sure what I would do. I think my initial reaction would be that I just wouldn't go and it's no one's business as to why I declined. Any family members that want to cause drama over your attendance is dysfunctional and I would just move on and live my best life.

I probably also would have backed out after being expected to buy a $400 dress. That's a hard pass for me.

I'm with @OGKathryn- show us this overpriced BM dress!

I would still go to the wedding but in something obnoxious and wear a fake mustache as a big f - you to the cousin.

How. Rude.

Oh, MrsBdeG! You've always been one of my favorite members of this community. It literally hurts my heart that anyone, but especially a relative, would treat you this way. I know you've mentioned before some of your extended family is a bit "unusual," and this just proves that! If it wouldn't cost you, the first thing I'd do is send her a copy of your favorite book, Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette, 6th ed., with pertinent sections about not being a crazy witch highlighted.... Then, I'd go to the wedding in the $400 dress wearing the Groucho nose & glasses the entire time (AWESOME POST on that one!), and work my way into as many photos as possible. I would eat, drink heavily, dance up a storm, and laugh -- loudly -- throughout the evening. And, at the end of the night, thank her for "terminating" you, as it made the whole experience so much more enjoyable for you.

Not that it matters, because her demands would be wrong even if a bridesmaid looked like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, but I agree with pp, that given how gorgeous you are this is absolutely ridiculous. I'm strong believer that what goes around, comes around. I'm currently having fun imagining what she's got coming!

ETA: Also, I'd sit as close to the front, on the main aisle, on the "groom's side" as possible, and I'd slip the Groucho glasses on just as I stood and turned to watch the bride walk down the aisle. By the time she sees what you're doing, there is nothing she and/or her family can do about it, and you're pretty much guaranteed to be in every photo taken from her vantage point! I like "salt"!

I would rock that dress. She can't just fire you and tell you what to wear. You already spent the $400 on the dress. If she wants to continue to be unreasonable, then I wouldn't go to the wedding. I would wear the dress, have a bottle of wine and watch netflix with my FH.

Personally, I probably wouldn't go because she sounds like a piece of work. But I also love the idea of going, getting drunk on her dime (unless its a cash bar then eff that), wearing the ridiculously expensive dress, and leaving early but I'm super non confrontational so I couldn't do that. However, her reason was total BS and probably to worst "reason" for "firing" a bridesmaid I've ever heard, and there is literally almost never a good reason to "fire" a bridesmaid (unless the bridesmaid is/was toxic or trying to sleep with FH or something crazy like that).

I'd still go. While she was clearly out of line and quite rude, this doesn't sound like something to end your relationship over. She's family and sometimes family can be stupid, but they're still family.

Since she plans on replacing you, could you possibly sell your dress to her new bridesmaid?