Fired bridesmaid

I would show up in the dress she "banned" you from wearing.

First of all $400 BM dress?! Holy cow, I kept mine to $100 and still felt guilty!

I'm not sure why she dropped you but this is totally ridiculous of her - however it's not fair to you if you are left out and made to be at odds with your family because of her...just go to prove you're the bigger person, but don't bring a gift.

I would come in the BM dress and dress it up real flashy, add a glitzy belt, jewelry, bridal headpiece, and if confronted just say "you said I couldn't match the bridesmaids but I didn't have anything else to wear after buying this dress so I just accessorized differently."

I wouldn't go and I would just chalk up the $400 dress loss or I would take the dress to a seamstress and have it tailored totally different.

Clean up your look...what the heck? Clean up your attitude, sister! Oh, someone is a pit hoity toity now, aren't they? I personally would skip out on the wedding and the gift giving on this one.

She basically told you that you were not good enough to be in her wedding...so, myself. I would take my man out for a great dinner that night and have fun of your own...maybe in that pricey dress. hahaha

No, I would not attend the wedding. Period. If she asked. I would tell her that you didn't have time to clean up.

I would slightly alter the dress like add an elaborate train, show up and photobomb every single picture

I would tell her that if she wants you to wear a different dress, she better be reimbursing you for the one you already bought. Then I would still not show up. but that is me being petty lol

If your able to get your money back use that to get another dress. If you cant and she hasn't offered to reimburse you then don't go. You shouldn't have to be pressured into an being a bridesmaid, going through with it then being " fired " and left with a $400 dress you didn't even want. Your family will get over it. Don't let them manipulate you, your cousin did it to herself. Don't entertain adult tantrums

I would go, but wear a GIANT fake mustache. No gift, and drink. A LOT

Go - indeed folks would miss you.

Wear the dress and wear sparkly silver or gold (your preference) accessories, metallic shoes, black opera gloves -- in other words, take that dress to the next level and (excuse the pun: "F" them if they can't take a joke! Do give a generous gift. She'll get over it.

100% AGREE ...With the hairy nose glasses too! I am incredibly proficient in pettiness when needed. Dang.

I love that this thread is still going strong!

PETTY BETTY YES

Why would she "fire" you?? You got the dress and are taking phone calls!

WOW that's really extra. If she is demanding that I can't imagine what other demands she'll have. She 100% owes you for the dress. Don't go to her wedding. She's petty AF

I'm very sorry that you're dealing with something like that but at least your cousin's FH seems like a decent person. It's crazy how much drama weddings can bring. I asked my FH's sister to be a BM in our wedding because she's family and we became pretty close to each other over the years. Now that she's engaged and marrying a few months before our wedding, she wants nothing to do with me or FH. As much as I would LOVE to ask her to step down, I understand how awkward that would be and she hasn't even purchased her dress yet. As hard as it is for me, I'm choosing to take the high road and even though it gets very steep from time to time, the end goal is marrying my FH.

I read through all the comments and I understand this was over a month ago but I'm curious as to what your decision was? Has the wedding happened yet? Are you planning on wearing the dress to the wedding with said alterations you mentioned before? Personally, I would still go but leave early and definitely not bring a gift if you've already contributed to the joint BM gift. Although I don't know her, I feel like one day she'll look back and realize how much of a Bridezilla she was and regret it. If you take the high road and go to the wedding, you won't have any regret but you might regret not attending.

Okay, so I don't feel you would regret not going. I believe that ship has sailed. But, since her FH texted you such a kind message and sent you money for the dress, I think you have to go. It's his wedding too, he's family now, so do it for him. He's probably horribly embarrassed at this tacky, nasty behavior from his FW. Sounds like she got lucky. But him...

I would go, drink the bar dry and wear the heck out of that dress.

Girl show up with your bad self, have fun, dance, eat! and wear that dress! she's the rude one!!!