Engagement party (should we have one?)

We did not have one either. I feel it's a place to tell everyone you are engaged and well.. we already did that. We just went out to eat with our family. You do not HAVE to have one but of course you can if you want to.

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This might help you with the answer. It notes that traditionally it is thrown within two months from the engagement.

But, if you want to go for it, you should.

Maybe, I am just looking for an excuse to throw a party haha, I already started planning our daughters second birthday, she wont be 2 until May lol

I agree with Stacey, we didn't have one either, I feel like if everybody already know you're engaged then the engagement party is pointless because that's what it's for to tell everyone you're engaged. But by all means, if you can afford to throw a party, go ahead, have fun.

We decided not to have one and have an added cost to our wedding expenses. I feel like Stacey said, its to announce your engagement so if you have already done that then I guess its up to you.

I never had one and didn't even know there was such a tradition! I called my grandmother a few weeks after the engagement who asked, "So did you have your engagement party?! When your mother got engaged I had a HUGE one, totally went over board. I hired some neighborhood boys to serve even!" .......wow. Maybe you can have a gathering that gets together the same guests, but has a purpose other than celebrating the engagement. Say, maybe you can leave out a laptop and guests can add a song or two as a playlist suggestion for the reception, or DIY lovers can bring you some suggestions for centerpieces. Of course if you intend on inviting 50 people this can become a bit chaotic and fruitless but if it's only a handful and will include those closest to the wedding it could be helpful in getting great ideas.

We are not having an engagement party per say. Rather will probably just have a party with friends and some family. Have some drinks, couple appetizers, chatting, just having a good time.

We had one... For us it was the first time our parents and bridal party were able to meet. And it was a good reason to have a party Am so glad we did it but it's not necessary.

We are going to have one. My mom is throwing us one one in two weeks. Nothing extravagant. Just an excuse to get the two families and bridal party together to mingle.

Awww engaged for 2 years, ya kinda missed that boat. BUT, im so with you on party planning I LOVE IT... do a great Bridal party get together if they are all fairly local, make sure you all know each other and do a BBQ or something ya know? just to sit and BS and chill... i love having get togethers... but the other night i had 5 families (mine included) and there were about 20 kids...ALLLLLLL under 10 YEAP, we're all rabbits i tell ya

Mental note: Send my daughter to drink Sabrina's water AFTER she gets married. lolol

Sorry to temporarily high jack, but Sabrina's answer cracked me up!

I didn't have one and I don't think we are having one. I mean I thought it was something like a graduation party where someone, who wants to, throws it for you. We had a private celebration with a couple friends. It was nice.

We didn't have one either. We're very relaxed and didn't really see a need. Our families have met, we all get along fine.

I really wanted one, but our friends were scattered around for school and I was going through some serious illness after our engagement so we never got around to it. It's a little too late now, but we'll be throwing a party for our civil marraige anyway so it kind of makes up for it

There's nothing wrong, I think, with throwing yourselves a party! I think traditionally it's put on by your parents so they can announce your engagement, but I see no harm in having a party to celebrate. Call it your "mid-engagement" party or "half-way to the wedding" party for kicks.

We didn't have one either, we were engaged for over a year before we even let everyone know, only a few of my closed friends knew I was engaged, we told our parents a year later, I wanted to have a birthday party but secretly turned it into an engagement party were we'd tell everyone we're engaged but we blew it when we started telling everyone we were engaged then I gave up on it. I figured an engagement party is to annouce the engagement since it's been announced, no point to it.

If you still want it, go for it. And I think your engagement is by far the longest I've on here too, you guys are really saving up, good thinking, don't know if I could do it that long.

LOL Carole, its true...idk all my friends have AT LEAST 3 and one of 'em has 6.... send her on DOWN..... lol

I LIE 2 of them have 6 (she had 2 then a set of QUADS..no not naturally, lol)

We're having ours 28 January 2012, and we got engaged 17 August 2011. So defs not within the 2-3 month period, but we are living interstate and not moving back til December.

Hmmm, but two years is a very long time... what do your friends and family think? they will be the ones attending after all

It may be untraditional but I think it could be fun. It wouldn't be your average "engagement" party but it could be used in a different way. More as a celebration of the road to the wedding. You could get friends and family together to let them know how planning is going and perhaps, if you haven't already done so, premiere your engagement photos.

Engagement parties are a blast!

Go for it!