Dry Weddings

@Jacquelyn Q- Throughout the threads, it has been mentioned that ppl would not attend a wedding if there was no booze. Just throwing that out there

I think.. if she served hot chocolate no one would complain. Everyone loves hot chocolate. Am I right or am I right?

Your wrong Alondra. I only go to weddings if they serve sweet ice tea. I would NOT attend a wedding with hot chocolate. that's sick!

I don't think many people said they wouldn't attend (although that's their choice). They said they wouldn't enjoy themselves as much or very much, and would probably leave early.

As I said before, no one can force a couple to have alcohol (or anything else) at their wedding, but it's just as true that no one can force guests who like to have a couple of drinks at social functions to enjoy themselves at a dry wedding. You can judge both sides equally if you really want to, but what's the point? An invitation is not an obligation, and if you accept you are not hostage all night if you're not having fun. That's why I said that a dry wedding works fine when most don't drink. When they do...the event could fizzle out early. Doesn't have to, but there's a chance. It's the couple's choice whether to take that chance.

Brides who just throw receptions for the gifts are just as bad as guests who just come for the booze lololol

@Kendell: I didn't really take the time to read 6 pages worth of comments because I knew maybe the first 10 comments were actually pertinent to the original question and no others. Alls I was trying to say was don't take the route of thinking that just because people inquire, and then appear a little bummed, to mean, "F that, I'm not going." That's a rash immediate assumption. Ok, so some people have said it's a deal breaker, but I'm sure just as many will say, "Meh, I'll make due."

@Alondra: Yes. You are correct.

Actually, Yardiegirl, yes! I wouldn't feel badly depriving guests who only wanted to use my wedding to get free drinks, but then again, I would never invite people like that to my wedding!

@Jacqueline Q- I was just justifying my comment, that is all.

Soooo J&R...you're saying that those people who are being snotty towards her for not having booze..should get uninvited?

I don't know what those people said specifically, but unless they said something to the effect of "the only reason I would go to your wedding / any wedding is to drink", I don't think that's what they meant. I am assuming - again, because none of us know - that these people just expressed displeasure with the fact that there would be no alcohol, which is not nice, but it's also not at all the same as saying that the only reason to go to a wedding is the alcohol.

However, if someone did say that the only reason they would accept an invitation to a wedding is so they can get free drinks, well...people like that wouldn't be on my guest list in the first place! (And there would be no need to un-invite them; they'd say no anyway because they were only coming for drinks that won't be there, right?)

This is such a heated debate...I'd hate to see a thread on here about poverty, women's rights, or religion!

Ummm....WOW!

Future Mrs. Redmond, Don't worry about it. Everyone will have there opinion and some rude people will make snide remarks. This is the decision you have weighed to be best so don't let them get you down.

Don't even go there, Kendell J.!!

My my my.... well since it's already been established that dry weddings blow, I'll answer your original question Mrs. Redmond.

Handle their responses with the truth- tell them what your reason for a dry wedding is, be it religious, alcoholics, or finances. Just own up to it and tell them the truth though, or they'll go making their own not-so-nice conclusions like many of the posts on here.

Im just saying! If you guys feel this passionately about booze, then.....

Kimi K., did you get that photo of me off Facebook?

If someone is not serving because it is not part of their social norm that is fine. It's their day.

Obviously alcohol is part of the OP's norm. By discussing her dry wedding, she is seeking validation. She isn't getting it. However, no matter how you slice it, it is rude of the guests to come back with snotty commments, and the OP trumps that with bad "all about me" attitude.

Everyone knows my thoughts on this one. In my circle, it would be considered bad manners not to have a full, premium bar to offer my guests. I couldn't even get away with rail liquor w/out tongues wagging. Like Glenn, I polled my small guest list because as a hostess I wanted to be sure I had the majority of my guests' desires covered. I also made sure I had allergies & vegetarians covered. In my circle, that is what a good host/ess does. The important words here, "in my circle."

We will do the same for my daughter's wedding, as it is our social norm.

Key words are my circle and social norm.

Kendell, my copy of the memo stating your opinion is the only one that counts and is valid was late, just got it and I am up to speed.

I find it interesting that only one person answered Sharon's question.

I'll play Candi...To Sharon of course I would take free alcohol at my wedding but I'm already serving it so maybe you didn't want my answer?

Kendell, we don't feel passionate about booze, we feel passionate about being a good host and showing your guests a good time.