Dry Weddings

Pumpkin...some people don't feel you have to have alcohol to have a good time. To each their own. You have your own opinion but it doesn't make anyone that disagrees with you wrong.

Candi- Im under drinking age and a ton of my guests can drink so I dont know if Im going to have a bar right now no. If I was offered free booze you bet Id take it. We like to party lol

Future Mrs. Covington- I was addressing Kendell's implication that because we are arguing about having alcohol at a wedding that means there is something wrong with us. Your comment has nothing to do with that.

And I have never said you need alcohol to have a good time. I have had many good times without alcohol. HOWEVER, that does not mean I never have a better time because I have a buzz. That would be a lie.

Just to clarify Pumpkin, my comment didn't imply that somethings wrong with you because of your argument. Idk how you even got that impression from what I said.

Pumpkin...I was referring to you saying you feel passionate about being a good host...that comes off *in a thread about alcohol* that your opinion is that alcohol has to be served for it to be "a good time"..someone who doesn't serve alcohol may be just as passionate as you that their guests have a good time but choose to do it in a different manner.

I don't understand why these threads always go to hell and back. The op didn't even ask anyone what they thought of dry weddings, she asked what to say to possible guests about them. If she had asked for peoples OPINIONS on having a dry wedding then I can see people offering them. Also, I'm pretty sure no one from this board is being invited to the OP's wedding so we can all be calmed in the fact that we can do what we feel is best for our own weddings.

Ok Kendell is calling us all alcoholics again in her passive aggressive manner. It feels so good to be told I'm an alcoholic, now if only I had a better stash here at the office.

Well said Mrs Covington!

These threads always get such a great response! I appreciate how passionate everyone feels about this particular topic.

In general the comments made here have been thoughtfully written and very valid points given for both sides. Let's just remember it is the topic at hand please and not digress into personal arguments. From what I see there are plenty of people on both sides of this debate -

And @Alondra I would absolutely attend a wedding with hot chocolate! Especially with how cold it's gotten here..... yummmm.

Actually, from now on I might demand it

Lmao! Glenn where did you come from?! Never called you an alchy, not even passive aggresively. But I did say that your social skills suck if you can't have a good time w/o drinking. I've had enough of you folks putting words into my mouth. Sheesh!

Mrs. Covington what you are missing about our statements about being a good host is a few things.

1. In our world not serving booze means you are a bad host, might be different in your world but this is how it's taken in our world.

2. The OP is obviously closer to our world than to a world where a dry wedding is acceptable given the responses she has gotten from guests already complaining about it being dry.

This is exactly what you said:

"Im just saying! If you guys feel this passionately about booze, then..... "

If that's not passive aggressively calling myself and the others here alchies then I don't know what is.

Glenn you know how I feel about you already.....love you to the moon and back..

My POINT was the OP didn't ask for your or anyone else's opinion on dry weddings but asked how to respond to possible guests..I see a difference...maybe you don't?

You have it twisted, Glenn. Why is it that you're so fixated on alcoholism? Im just saying! If you guys feel this passionately about booze, then..... I wonder how heated a thread about poverty or feminism would go. Did you even read my prior posts? Probably not...just wanted to jump in and attack me? Probably so lol

People who get snotty because of a dry reception can stay home. It's not their party. I've been to plenty of dry receptions and have had a good time. I don't need to drink to enjoy my night.

I think that my opinion throughout this post is telling her exactly how she would respond, and if nothing else it is giving her some more insight into WHY the guests are acting the way they are. I've said a few times that if you can't afford it then I get it and you need to have the wedding you can afford, but if it's another reason then you need to explain that. BUT you need to be prepared for how your guests will react and we now have 9 pages of examples of possible reactions.

Yes, I did read your previous posts, I don't see how the comment you made there as well as the one you made in the early stages of this thread had anything to do with those other topics, even after you point them out I still don't see it.

Glenn..I'm having a 7000 dollar wedding dress and no liquor..its MY DAY!!

Also Mrs. Covington, I feel that I've taken the original question and given the OP more to think about when she gets those responses and now she's going to be better prepared when/if she decides to explain her reasoning. If she takes it that way good for her, if not, no skin off my back.

And not serving alcohol doesn't mean you are a bad host. It doesn't matter the reason you are not serving alcohol. You don't have to justify anything to your guests. Being a good host means you provide entertainment, food, and refreshments for your guest and the last time I checked water, soda, juice, tea, and coffee are considered refreshments.

Kendell, A lot of the vets (who are already married) have watched the newer brides make the same mistakes over and over.

You host a dry wedding, your guests patiently sit through a ceremony just to be told there's only lemonade and soda, guarantee your guests will be mostly gone before the cake cutting. A wedding is a celebration, not a booze fest. Last time I checked, a toast primarily consisted of champagne. Which is alcohol. If you have a family member or a friend who has alcoholism, maybe they should re-think coming to the event if they feel like they might struggle with the affair. That doesn't sound like that

All we're saying is, you traditionally are supposed to have some sort of alcohol at the wedding. Can this thread die already? It's boring.