do the parents names need to be on the invite?

If they are paying for any part of it, they should probably be recognized. (I think it would be nice anyway.) We resolved the issue by saying, "Together with their families, Bride and Groom invite you..."

Who's paying? Oh wait, in an early post didn't you say it was you? If none of the parents are paying, you don't have to put them on the invites. You can just list you and FH as "requesting the honor of your presence at our marriage."

If you want to acknowledge you folks but not actually name them, you can put "Together with their parents, Elizabeth G and Fiance LastName, request the honor of your presence."

Both of my parents are remarried as well, but we're paying for the wedding ourselves, so we're not including our parent's names. you can do something like this:

The families of

Joanna Leigh Roberts

and

Andrew Rex Hargreaves

invite you to join in the celebration

of their marriage

Saturday, September 6, 2014

at 6 o'clock in the evening

The Inn at Rancho Sante Fe

5951 Linea De Cielo

Rancho Sante Fe, California

Reception to follow the ceremony

or

Together with their parents

Julia Esabella Sanmeters

and

Nicholas Kristoff Demett

request the honour of your presence

at their marriage

on Sunday, the fourth of October

two thousand fourteen

at six o'clock in the evening

Mount Zion Church

11890 Leaf Avenue

Chicago, Illinois

I got these from http://www.invitationconsultants.com/samplewording.aspx?p_subcategory=1

Just address the invites as the two of you hosting. FH and I aren't putting our parents names on the invites at all.

I'm sure there is an appropriate etiquette involved but you need to check with your mom and dad and get their opinions. Much to my surprise my FMIL was adamant when we were picking out the stationary that she be involved with the invitation wording.

My dad and FH parents are splitting the catering and my mom is buying my dress ( maybe) but i like "Together with their parents, Elizabeth G and Fiance LastName

Ours aren't because we're paying for the wedding ourselves.

If you're paying fo it yourselfs then no, but if they are contributing then yes.

I did "the parents of [bride and groom] request the honor of your presence at the marriage of the children...."

We are paying for half and both our parents are divorced so ours is "together with our parents, (Bride and groom) invite you to blah blah blah...."

What if FIL want their names on it? i don't want to have theirs and not my parents? but i don't want to include my step parents

Both sets of our parents are contributing what they can, but we are paying for the bulk of the wedding. Our invitations simply say "Together with their families, bride and groom invite you... blah blah blah" Our invitations looked really cluttered including everyone's names.

I agree with dragonfly726. Just say "Together with their families, bride and groom invite you..." That way NOBODY's name is on there yet all the family is acknowledged.

We did, "together with our families." Nobody complained, since we paid for it ourselves.

I am putting

Mark and Rebecca B Request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Jackie B to Colby J son of Jeff and Kam J

Our parents aren't divorced but.... you are their daughter, so you're not lying or anything with this phrasing.

Also, both of our parents are helping to pay so. this works for us. you can put their last names separately as well.

Can you do:

Mr. Brown and Mrs. Rodgers request the presence at the marriage of their daughter

-----

to

----

Son of Mr. Blue and Mrs Red

If the parents are divorced, their names need to be separate (even if they have the same last name).

So,

Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Betsy Smith

Request the pleasure of your company/honour of your presence

at the wedding of their daughter

Elizabeth Smith

to

Joshua Jones

Son of Dr. and Mrs. Frank Jones

At (blah blah blah)

PS - "honour of your presence" is only for first-time marriages taking place in a house of worship, otherwise "pleasure of your company" is correct.