Cash bar

THANK YOU @Bryce

Future?

We all do what we do, in part, to make money. Including you.

@LoveInDC Wow, you've totally lost me and I think you lost yourself too. Of course the scenarios are identical, and I've only tweaked the objects. Is it that using food is too realistic for you? Should I say, hmm, a bag of gold or something? Would that be better for you to understand? Okay, don't wave a bag of gold in front of someone's face when you know they can't afford it. Or wait, is that comparing alcohol to gold now?! Is alcohol the same thing as GOLD? Gasp!!!

....maybe to some people. You never know in the world of literal analogies.

ETA: just to clarify more. I didn't say NOT serving your guests food is the same as NOT serving them alcohol. Just because I used STEAK in comparison to ALCOHOL, that does not mean I was implying they are of the same value or worth. People don't need alcohol, however, people come to weddings to eat food and drink some kind of substance. Alcohol does not have to be that substance.

Hi Natalie. I did not read any other posts. ...

- yes, cash bars are rude. Always and forever. It's the same as inviting someone to your home for dinner and then displaying a tip jar or leaving a bill.

- yes, open bars can be out of budget. At the very least host a beer and wine open bar. And PLEASE do not charge for sodas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

- IMO I would rather work a 2nd job and host an open bar than expect an event me and my hubby hosted asking loved ones to help pay for.

@jaci I'm glad to hear that your knowledge of the English language is fine and I'm truly sorry if anything I have said has been unclear. This forum is also making a really wonderful first impression to a new user who only tried to give the OP different options

@Alexandra unfortunately you stumbled into a WW hot topic. There are a few that cause quite a stir, and they come up pretty often.

Stick around, (change your avatar), and check out some other threads. This is a pretty cool place.

Other topics to keep away from:

-self catering

-friendors

-kicking out a member of the BP

-tiered weddings

-honeyfunds

-asking for cash in lieu of gifts

-dollar dances

Ready

This is going to get nasty! Cash bar is a no no! Cut the list if you dont have the money or dont do a reception-

@bryce.

Thanks for the advice. I think that's the first positive, non sarcastic post I've seen since I started posting in this thread. And yes that includes my own posts, well the ones after my first one of course.

I get that this is a hot button I just think some ladies need to learn how to express their opinions in a less rude way. I will stick around because I have enjoyed reading about other people's wedding process. I will not, however stay away from hot button topics just because my opinion might differ. I think this is a great site because people do get to see different perspectives.

I agree with not paying for alcohol. It's not needed and if you don't want to include it.. It's YOUR day and totally up to YOU and your future hubby.

Omg....does the pain ever end? Just when we were getting somewhere....

Lana, it's YOUR ceremony, the reception is for GUESTS, to thank THEM for attending.

Hi Natalie.

When I receive an engraved or press printed invitation to a ceremony and dinner, I do not expect to have to open up my wallet/purse/clutch for anything. At all. Including parking.

I understand you're asking for advice. My advice is to host a life changing celebration with loved ones within a budget you and your FH can afford. It doesn't matter where or what you're doing ... none of your guests should have to pay for your formal invitation. I mean this with all sincerity. If you want those people surrounding you, pay for it.

It truly can be as simple as that.

Kimi...unless the guest are paying the reception is all about the Bride and Groom also!!!!

No Lana, no....

You still have a few months to save up some money for alcohol. I would make it a priority to do so. We are having a backyard wedding but hired a bar tender. We have been stocking up on alcohol for months so it doesn't feel like a huge expense all at once. Is it possible to do this at your venue? Check deals at your local liquor store. Ours does half priced wine the first Tuesday of every month! So guess where we were the first Tuesday of every month? Lol

Also I agree with other posters, at least do beer and wine. It may not seem like it's the most important thing to you, but if you were a guest you would probably want to enjoy a few drinks without having to pay!

Sorry Lana, but you are incorrect.

FH finds this way less entertaining than porn chat.

He just got home from work and was hoping for a laugh

@Alexandra R

Great idea. The FH and I are doing the same thing, buying it little by little. I didn't know some grocery store did that. I'll have to check and see if mine does !