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Cash bar

Natalie , on May 11, 2016 at 6:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 457
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I plan on having a cash bar for our reception....I read in an article that was rude....should I just pay for the bar....I don't really want to because it's not in my budget

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  • MrsKristenS
    Master August 2016
    MrsKristenS ·
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    This will not go well here. Search before you post.

    Cash bars are tacky. It's fine to do just beer and wine, but a guest should not have to open their wallet at your wedding for a drink.

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  • Chrises
    Super November 2016
    Chrises ·
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    ....Yes. Pay for the bar for your guests.

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  • Jeleebeenz
    VIP September 2015
    Jeleebeenz ·
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    Your guests should pay for NOTHING at your reception. If you want alcohol available you need to pay for it. Do you invite guests to your home and say "that will be 5.00 for that Bud Light"?

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  • P
    Devoted August 2019
    Private User ·
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    Ohh nooo. I hope you're ready for some nasty comments. The answer is NO. You have to pay

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  • Ayesha
    Super October 2016
    Ayesha ·
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    I understand having a tight budget, but try to squeeze in beer and wine

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  • Katrina
    VIP July 2017
    Katrina ·
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    Are you under age? Is it against your religion? Are you or your FH in recovery? If you didn't answer yes to any of those questions, you need to put the bar in the budget.

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  • Elizabeth
    VIP September 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    Goooood luck with this one on WW.

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
    OG Dianna ·
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    At least do beer and wine. No to a cash bar. Super tacky.

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    Cash bars are very rude. You need to properly host your guests

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  • Carly
    VIP April 2016
    Carly ·
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    If you can't afford to pay for at least beer and wine for your guests, you can't afford that many guests.

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  • N
    Beginner October 2016
    Natalie ·
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    Whoa....didn't know ppl thought alcohol was such a big deal to have a good time with....no I am not underage, against my religion or in recovery....I do have some significant family history that makes me not want to pay for it....I will consider putting a portion down on the bar but I'm also military and holding my wedding on a military installation and I do have to maintain some decorum....so I agree with putting a portion down but I think I'll cap it off at a reasonable at and then it can be a cash bar

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  • N
    Beginner October 2016
    Natalie ·
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    I can afford to pay for beer and it is a small wedding I choose not to spend a crazy at of my budget on getting ppl toasted tho but that's me

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  • Chrises
    Super November 2016
    Chrises ·
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    Your military friends will expect to be able to drink, if they're anything like my FH's... we keep making jokes about shoving them in a corner because ... well, Army boys will be Army boys, ya know?

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  • kiandra
    Master October 2016
    kiandra ·
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    I personally wouldn't do a cash bar I just wouldn't do any alcohol I'd that's the case but that's just me

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  • I am Mrs. rjd
    Super September 2016
    I am Mrs. rjd ·
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    Put it in your budget--at least beer and wine. Cut out something else that wouldn't impact your guests. It really is rude to expect your guests to pay for a drink.

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  • Becoming a Mrs
    Master July 2016
    Becoming a Mrs ·
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    Just do beer and wine. That'll cut costs.

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  • N
    Beginner October 2016
    Natalie ·
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    Thank you to the ladies that had legitimate advice and offered alternative or ideas.

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  • caitiemac
    Expert March 2017
    caitiemac ·
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    After going to a wedding full of FDNY (I know not the same, but still men and women who risk their lives every day) those guys and ladies drank. And they drank a lot. And they got to unwind because their job is stressful. You are not the person to tell people how to act. You are there to properly host your guests and that includes drinks. I'd rethink this decision.

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  • N
    Beginner October 2016
    Natalie ·
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    If someone chose to leave my wedding because they didn't have alcohol...bye Felicia!

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  • JillR
    VIP September 2016
    JillR ·
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    Please don't! Beer and wine is fine!

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