Whoa....didn't know ppl thought alcohol was such a big deal to have a good time with....no I am not underage, against my religion or in recovery....I do have some significant family history that makes me not want to pay for it....I will consider putting a portion down on the bar but I'm also military and holding my wedding on a military installation and I do have to maintain some decorum....so I agree with putting a portion down but I think I'll cap it off at a reasonable at and then it can be a cash bar
After going to a wedding full of FDNY (I know not the same, but still men and women who risk their lives every day) those guys and ladies drank. And they drank a lot. And they got to unwind because their job is stressful. You are not the person to tell people how to act. You are there to properly host your guests and that includes drinks. I'd rethink this decision.