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Bacherlotte Party

Hannah, on January 17, 2019 at 12:46 AM Posted in Planning 0 6
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I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding and I was told we were going to the Casino in Canada, for the bacherlotte/bachelor party. We all have to get passes and drive up to Canada ourselves and spend the night. Two out of the seven bridesmaids are not going due to financial issues (as we were just informed where we were going, not asked what our budget was). I have to drive to Canada by myself in Feb,, which I am not comfortable with, and the bride and groom already has their car full. I don't want to hurt her feelings because I've known her the longest,, but I'm not sure on how to approach this.. crossing the boarder by myself is scary and I don't want to go.. I need help..


  • sandy
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Oh boy... yea I wouldn’t be excited about that either.. how long is the ride?
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  • Hannah
    Dedicated August 2019
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    It's 2 hours, in the middle of winter.
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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
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    Canadian boarder actually isn’t bad. Niagara Falls (I’m assuming that’s the casino area you are going to) is actually a lot less expensive than you might think. Anything on the Canadian side tends to be cheaper than the American side...it’s also a lot more fun on the Canadian side and they have coupons basically for everything haha

    as for the boarder, all boarder patrol did was ask for our passports and then ask if we had any weapons or food. Took less than a minute.

    I completely understand your reservations towards it though. If you do go, maybe try and tail behind one of the cars that has other bridesmaids or the bride in it or something? That way, even if you drive alone, you aren’t completely alone...if that makes sense
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  • Rachel
    Dedicated July 2019
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    If the crossing the boarder is your biggest worry don’t sweat it! I grew up in a boarder town and crossed frequently for shopping etc and it is quick and painless. Just make sure not to have any “weapons” with you including pepper spray and be prepared to tell them exactly where you are going, how long and for what reason.

    If you are really nervous about being alone maybe talk to her about it and see if someone would want to ride with you? Another bridesmaid or her even just to keep you company and help you feel more at ease during the drive and crossing. If she loves you (which she obviously does since she asked you to be part of her big day) she shouldn’t be offended or get upset!
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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
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    Are you close withe anyone going in an already full car? Maybe see if one of them would like to ride up with you. I know a lot of people hate making longer trips alone so I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask. Also, you can remind them that it'll free up some space to spread out and not be so cramped that way too. I agree with the rest of the commenters though, the Canadian boarder is a breeze. I go up for hockey tournaments from time to time. They ask for your passport, what you will be doing while your up there, and then send you on your way. We had a van with 4 people and 4 hockey bags plus bags for clothes and the most we ever got was asked to open the sliding door. When he asked us what was in the hockey bags immediately after telling him we were going to a hockey tournament the girl driving responded "dead bodies" as a joke forgetting who we were talking to and he just laughed at us cause he realized we had literally just told him we were going to play hockey.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Can you drive with any of the other bridesmaids?

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