Wedding date

I think if you don’t have a meaning behind it then started with a venue you love. If it’s somewhere that books pretty quickly, just go with what is available or a month you might prefer.

We just picked a time of year that we wanted (summer worked best with my work schedule as I was in grad school at the time), and then we looked for venues and just chose from a date available for the venue we liked best. It doesn’t always have to be a date with some specific meaning. The date is going to be one meaningful on its own because it will be your wedding day.

My husband and I chose our date in a similar way to how Hannah chose hers. We started with picking out what season we wanted, and based on my husband's work schedule, summer was easiest for us. We also knew that we wanted a Friday wedding. From there, we narrowed down possible dates based on what our venue had available, and chose one that we liked best. Consider what you envision for your wedding: what season do you think you'd want? From there, if you don't have any particular date in mind, look for venues, and choose a date that your venue has available in that season. You don't have to choose a date that already has any special meaning, but if you wanted to, you could choose the anniversary of your first date, or the date of your engagement, or even a date around your favorite holiday. If you find a venue first, consider what seasons your venue would look best in, and use that information to help select your wedding date.

Ours was random. We picked a time of year that worked, removed the dates that were absolute nos from our essential people, and then picked one that met those criteria and our venue had available. It doesn’t have to be a significant date. (And significant dates often turn out to be very inconvenient, unless you’re lucky!)

A lot of times dates are picked solely on venue availability.

We picked a date that combined a special date to us, like a combination of numbers in our birth dates You could do first kiss, first "I love you"...etc. A story of why you chose that date is more personal, intimate, and shows a little more character.

The date you choose will be special since it celebrates your marriage. But you might make it easy for your partner to remember.

For us my FH's grandmother picked it out and it works great for us because she has been our biggest supporter from the beginning, and she came up with very logical explanations.

I was in the same boat as you. I struggled picking a date, it all felt so arbitrary to me. Everyone I asked had meaning behind their dates (my parents: first day of spring, my best friend: closest weekend to their anniversary) and nothing was instantly coming to mind. We had 2 different times of the year we'd ideally get married and that was it. I eventually turned to numerology and discovered what's called your marriage number. It's essentially like your life number but for your marriage. Ideally you want this number to be the sum of yours and your partner's life numbers added together. If you're not familiar with numerology, your life number is each digit of your birth date added together until you reach a single digit number. For example, my birthday is 6/4/1996 so I would add 6+4+1+9+9+6 = 35, then 3+5=8. So my life number is 8 and my partner's is 4. 8+4=12, 1+2=3, so according to numerology our date should equal 3. I then went through every single Friday, Saturday, and Sunday date during our ideal times looking for the ones that equaled 3. After about 2 hours we had a list of about 6 that didn't interfere with family birthdays and settled on 5/25/2025

We learned it entirely depended on our venue's availability, but we always had a season in mind. The results turned out perfectly though, since my fiance comes from a country where they flip the date so the day is in front of the month.

I like to joke that because we are getting married on 10/10, he's got no excuses to forget our anniversary

Lol..... good one.
We picked the day we went out on our 1st date. That's the day I told my wife that we would be together a year later and sure nuff.....we were...so that day stood out.

We didn't really pick out our date We were originally planning on May 30, 2020, but that got pushed to Sept 26, 2020, got pushed because of CoVID . . . and then February 23, 2021, which got pushed due to CoVID . . . so I sent an excel spreadsheet to all of the vendors I had already paid of all of the weekends left in 2021, and the ONE weekend that they were all free was the day that we went with. We just didn't want to find all new vendors and lose money on those we had already paid.

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That is how I picked ours for next March 1. We were going to get it done quickly this year in November but the venues were all booked up for the dates that our key relatives were available. So then I picked March 15th but the pastor wasn't available so March 1, everyone was available. I did send out emails to the key people a couple of times to get responses back so I could pick the date. And your right, the popular times (like Valentine's Day and holidays usually book up early). Also, be aware of people's religious holidays and long weekends too. In November, I wanted Veteran's Day weekend but people were going out of town already.

12/13/25 because 12+13=25 I'm a bit of a nerd but I love it and am so excited!