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WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting everyone who asks?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 101

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite! ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Thanks for giving us the deets on all your guest list decisions! If you missed any questions, you...

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite!


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101 Comments

  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    I had so many people at work who asked and I had never really talked to them before. It was so awkward haha. I just told them we had limited space.

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
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    OMG thats awesome. I've heard of that - and I strongly regret not doing that the closer i get to my RSVP deadline. I made it a tad early in order to give people an extra few days to be late. Lets be honest theres always a few who forget lol

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    Haha yes, totally understandable. We are sending our invites in February just because some people forget. If it's close family or friends we'll accept the late reply.

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  • Emily
    Super April 2020
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    No way. That would blow our budget way out of the water for us. I haven’t had people fish yet so luckily I haven’t had to deal with this.
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
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    We wanted a very intimate wedding so we created 3 list (A,B,C) after going thru our A list and some people telling us they won’t be able to make it (based on STD) we then moved to B list and define our actual final guest list for invites. We then later added a few extras from C list. To those who made comments or asks in the beginning we said we would let them know as soon as we define our guest list because we both have big families but we want a wedding of less than 50 guest. It was a polite and honest answer and it worked.
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2021
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    We know if we invited everyone who asked, we wouldn't be able to afford a wedding at all. It's already a push as it is. Anyone else who wants to go can pay for themselves. I won't feel sorry at all. Weddings are expensive.

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  • ALYSSA
    Devoted September 2019
    ALYSSA ·
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    Absolutely not! Even though we invited 118, most are family and very close friends.

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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
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    Yes we are doing the dreaded tiered reception lol. None of my college friends are going to be offended when I say "wanna show up at 8 pm for beer and dancing?" so yes! When people ask I say "as long as you don't piss me off between now and then" Smiley xd

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I'm not even inviting everyone who is related. 240 max. Not gonna happen.
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  • Nodyia
    Expert October 2020
    Nodyia ·
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    No I always say we already met our cap...
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  • Tamera
    Expert May 2020
    Tamera ·
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    We haven’t had too many people ask that weren’t on the list, so it’s been pretty easy
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  • Tiffany
    Savvy July 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    No! No one has asked 😆 we lame
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  • Alex
    Beginner October 2019
    Alex ·
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    It's been a struggle for me, not my fiance though. He's had to remind me that we have a short reception and a smaller venue. Which I'm glad he reminded me because I use that as an excuse to say no.

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  • VIP November 2021
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    No wayyyyyyy
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  • R
    Savvy August 2021
    Rachele ·
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    No. I’ve had to realize I can’t invite everyone. And the people who are requesting, we are not close and they do not know my fiancé.
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  • Gabrielle
    Dedicated October 2019
    Gabrielle ·
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    I am less than a month out and people are still asking.... like... honey if you haven’t been told yet...
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
    Fany ·
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    Hmmmm only if they are offering to pay for their seat.
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  • Ariel
    Dedicated June 2022
    Ariel ·
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    Nope
    We have our guest list and we're sticking to it!
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  • Elaine
    Savvy October 2020
    Elaine ·
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    No. I’ve been very fair and have been telling people they may not get an invitation because we want to have an intimate wedding. People, surprisingly, have been very understanding.
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  • Jeannie
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Jeannie ·
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    Yes the more the merrier
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