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Are you inviting everyone who asks?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Planning 0 101
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Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite!


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Latest activity by Michelle, on December 31, 2020 at 8:11 PM
  • Liz
    Savvy September 2019
    Liz ·
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    We knew from the beginning that we wanted to have a small, intimate wedding. So I've had no problem politely telling that to people who are clearly fishing for an invite. Saying "no" is typically not easy for me, but keeping the wedding small is important enough to me that it's been easy to say "We're keeping at family and a few of our closest friends"

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  • M
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    No, I’m not sure if anyone can actually invite everyone that you’ve ever encountered in your whole life. Invitations are for those that mean something to you and or have been there for you and will continue to do so.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Definitely not, that would exceed our venue’s capacity and blow our budget out of the water.
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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    The people who have asked if they're invited are almost always a no. If you have to ask, you probably aren't invited.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Our venue has very limited capacity so we literally cannot invite everyone who asks even though I feel terrible saying no.
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  • Kellie
    Dedicated June 2020
    Kellie ·
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    No. We are not.
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  • Brittany
    Super October 2020
    Brittany ·
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    I have already tons of people who are asking if they are invited and I have told them no. It is mostly my FH who caves and says "well sure, you can come".

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  • Denise
    Super September 2019
    Denise ·
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    No way. We are only keeping people on the list who made the cut. We sat down and decided and that's what we're sticking to

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I haven’t had anyone ask except for someone who was an obvious, definite yes....
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
    Jess ·
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    We had a final list and then a list B of people that we invited once spots filled up from people saying no. but we’ve declined a few people who have asked. sometimes people think you’re closer than you really are lol
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Nope. We can't afford to do that.

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    No, definitely not! But FH has a problem with this. He loves everyone! He'll run into someone he hasn't seen for awhile, or encounter them on Facebook. He can't wait to tell them he's getting married, which is fine. But that announcement almost always comes with a "hey you should come to the wedding, I'd love to see you!" UGH. No. That's not how this works. I have had to sit him down more than once to explain that our guest list is locked. There will be no more additions. He really doesn't get it. He thinks it's ok if people just "stop by" after dinner to say hello. Nope.

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
    Sara ·
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    I am specifically not inviting people who ask. That is just so rude

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  • Chinda
    Devoted November 2020
    Chinda ·
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    No i would say I’m sending invites out soon and if you didn’t get one sorry.
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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·
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    Nope. Like I've mentioned on the other answers, if I don't know them or talk to them frequently, they aren't invited

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  • Erin
    VIP December 2020
    Erin ·
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    No, we’re keeping our guest list down.
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  • VIP November 2021
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    No, we have had a few awkward moments already about it and my FH always looks at me when we are asked which makes things even more awkward! Lol but I just politely say, our guest list is very limited we don’t want anyone to feel left out we might have a small engagement party or post wedding get together with those we could not have at our wedding.
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  • VIP November 2021
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    It is !! I agree. I could never do that to someone — hey so are we invited ? Lol like how awkward !
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  • VIP November 2021
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    Exactly !! My FH always feel so bad about not inviting this one and that one but not me lol ✌🏼
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  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
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    Nope, the majority of the invites went to family & maybe 10invites went out to our friends that we are really close to.
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