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Are you inviting everyone who asks?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 101

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite! ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Thanks for giving us the deets on all your guest list decisions! If you missed any questions, you...

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite!


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101 Comments

  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·
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    There had been one person that was fishing for an invite. We ended up inviting them due to the heavy declines we had(out of town wedding)

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Definitely not. Some people at work asked when they were getting an invite. I laughed and said if you want to go to Vegas just go whenever you want to

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  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·
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    I invited a couple of people who fished for invites and my husband invited a bunch of people by word of mouth.


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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan Online ·
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    No. I have had to tell many people who have asked if they could come that unfortunately we were limited in space. They all seemed to understand.

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    I have a problem of saying "yeah you'll totally be invited". i put them on the list and then coming down to it i'm like i can't possibly invite all these people plus my FH's list. soooo i just quietly don't send the invites *shrug*

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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    We have a large guest list (around 350 people) and haven't had anyone ask if they're invited... but knowing my mom, she'd invite them if they asked. haha she's paying for almost everything so I'm okay if she invites a few more people as long as we aren't over the venue's capacity.

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  • Tayla
    Dedicated March 2020
    Tayla ·
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    Nope! Weddings are expensive enough so people who are asking for an invite probably
    won’t get one. You will know if you’re invited or not.
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  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·
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    Nope. The only ones I let add on were new girlfriends of my cousins, which of course didn't show up day of.

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  • VIP November 2021
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    Nope sorry.. keeping it small— lol around 100. 😬
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  • VIP November 2021
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    Exactly !!!! I could never ask someone
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  • Tayla
    Dedicated March 2020
    Tayla ·
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    Nope that’s kinda rude
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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·
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    Haha I don't feel bad because why share your special day- the biggest day of your life- with someone who's practically a stranger. You're paying to feed them, you're paying for their alcohol, for them to have a free night and for what? HAHA

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·
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    That's what I was doing when I first started the planning of everything. Just because I knew them, I put them on the list. But when finalizing the guest list, they were at the bottom and the first to be removed. LOL

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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
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    Nope. I have one that tried to invite themselves but we don't keep in touch and i didn't like her that well to begin with (former coworker). I'm sure there will be others who ask but the guest list is already set.

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  • VIP November 2021
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    Yup! Don’t feel bad, it is your day- ppl should feel honored if they get invited idk how some people just come out and invite themselves
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Nope. We couldn’t afford 80 let alone all the invitation-fishers.
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    No no no, if you are asduming your invited or asking to be just irritates me and I stay strong in a nice way (avoid an answer and move on HAHA!)
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Nope definitely not. And luckily we haven't really encountered this yet. It's rather rude, isn't it? To just ask if you can come to someone's wedding.

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  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
    Marlena ·
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    No and thankfully we haven't had to many people ask who isn't already on the guest list.
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  • K
    Expert February 2020
    Kristina ·
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    This is what the B list is for. Those that currently are not "invited" will be after we get all RSVPs back.

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