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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting everyone who asks?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 101

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite! ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Thanks for giving us the deets on all your guest list decisions! If you missed any questions, you...

Do you have a small problem with extending verbal invitations to people who weren't necessarily on your A list? Sometimes it can be really tough to stay strong when someone's fishing for an invite!


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101 Comments

  • Savvy December 2020
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    Yes to an extent we will depending on who’s asking of course within reason
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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
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    We invited who we actually wanted there, but know others show up. But we are only providing chairs for those who are invited, the rest can stand in the back. The only exception is if we somehow accidentally skipped someone.
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  • Paula
    Super September 2019
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    No, we wanted a smaller wedding and are at our max.

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  • Arkilia
    Super November 2021
    Arkilia ·
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    That has been hard for me, I dont want to hurt anyone's feelings. Since our list started small and we had a max number in mind as long as we stayed below that we included them. Most were people I was unsure wanted to come.
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  • S
    Dedicated June 2020
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    I just started a new job and someone was asking about me so j was like yea I'm getting married next June (🤦‍♀️) oh well if you get to know us better will we be invited ughhhhh I just met you a few minutes ago and you want invites to my wedding??? What!
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    If they have to ask, they probably shouldn’t be coming. I know I’m friends with two handfuls of people. I would expect to be invited to 3-4 weddings. That’s pushing it.
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  • H
    Super September 2019
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    We're eloping so this has made things alot easier.
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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    Nope. I haven't had anyone ask yet, but I would say we are at guest capacity at the venue. I just hope FH's mom hasn't gotten any of those questions and hasn't told anyone they can just come. If so, they won't have a seat or dinner since we are doing a plated dinner.

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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
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    My FH is the one who wants to verbal invite people. 🤦‍♀️ We agreed from the start that we only invited the people we deemed most important, set our limit and if we ended up under, so be it. We ended up WAY under. We invited 170 and only 110 RSVP'd yes... we paid our caterer the deposit for 130 heads (because we could always add but not subtract). I honestly like having something a bit smaller... he just kept adding.

    Most of our declines were my side, so when he says he wants to invite more people (people hes not even close to, he hasn't hung out with in years, and I dont know), it hurts my feelings that he wouldnt ask if there was anyone I left out since they were my spots (we split the list almost even).
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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
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    Yes but only after we invited the ones we really wanted to be included.
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  • Valentina
    Devoted September 2019
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    Not unless it was my mom asking for them😂😂😂
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  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
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    Thankfully, we did not have any acquaintances fishing for invites.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    What's funny is there was one person who kind of asked or joked about it and I ended up saying sure why not because we became closer recently
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  • Katelyn
    Expert October 2020
    Katelyn ·
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    Nope, no way no how. My fiance's grandmother tried to invite some friends and we had to tell her no.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Everyone who ASKS?? 🤔 Of course not!
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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    Lol yes absolutely! i'm already at the point of no return - inviting people "I HAD TO" and they weren't supposed to RSVP yes but they did O.o

    >.< lord help me

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    If someone in my family or my future in-laws were asking to invite their friends i would probably agree if it was under my guaranteed guest count. anything over that i would then ask that person if they wanted to pay for their friends plates

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·
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    Oooh that has to really suck hahaha. I couldn't imagine someone RSVPing that you didn't want to. >.<

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    I included a line on the RSVP's saying if they miss the deadline to bring a seat and a sandwich hahaha

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·
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    That's just rude in my opinion. Family or not. Don't invite other people to MY wedding. haha

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