Just Said Yes April 2011

Any feedback on the best "cash" gift registry??

Peggy, on February 12, 2011 at 8:46 PM Posted in Planning 0 30

My fiance and I are both over 40, we have two homes we're getting ready to sell as we've bought "our" new home. We already have most things we need. Not really registering for a lot of "stuff", just a few things that need an upgrade. But could sure use help toward getting our two houses on the market (painting, carpet, landscaping, etc.) We don't want gift cards to home depot or lowe's as we're shopping those items from other vendors. Has anyone used any of the "cash" gift registries like "deposit a gift"? Comments, thoughts, experiences? Did your guests actually use it? Any service better than another?


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  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
    Hayley C™ ·
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    I'm pretty sure most of those sites take a little cut/fee for every "gift" deposited. You can either have the fee visible so people know they are getting an additional fee tagged on on top of their gift donation - or - they hide the fee from your guests, but the site will then take some money out of their gift. With the 2nd way, they would gift you $20, but you only get $18 or something like that.

    In my opinion, most of your guests know that you two come from fully furnished homes. So they know you don't need too many housewares. And your family and friends have asked you "Where will you live?" so they know you are selling the homes. I'm gonna guess your guests will just write you checks or give you cash in a card. I don't think you need to use a cash registry and give some of your money to the registry company.

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  • R
    Devoted April 2010
    rubyjem ·
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    I agree with Hayley. I don't personally know too much about cash registries (other than I think that they are a bad idea) but my understanding is that most of them take a cut. As a guest at you wedding, I would rather you have all the money and not just some of it.

    You have a small registry. Have your family and friends spread that word that you are looking for help fixing up your home. Your guests should get that hint that you would prefer money.

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  • Fonsetta
    Super July 2011
    Fonsetta ·
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    Like you, we too are over 40, have two homes and would rather have cash. I don't know much about cash registries either but what we did was put this on our website along with the locations that we registered at:

    We did register, but we dont need more stuff. When it comes to financial help, you can never have enough.

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  • Kathy
    Master July 2010
    Kathy ·
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    Honestly, I find any request for dough to be tacky.

    You are over 40. You have what you need. Your guests should not feel that they need to give you money for anything.

    IF they choose to bring a gift, thank them. Do NOT expect cash. I would never give cash to a couple, no matter what their age.

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  • Peggy
    Just Said Yes April 2011
    Peggy ·
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    Great insight ladies...and I never knew these sights took a cut. That answers that question! @Kathy...not expecting cash, just trying to solve the dilema of people who've made it clear they are giving us a gift and keep asking what we need.... we don't need more glasses, nor plates nor cutlery, etc.

    We keep telling them that their presence with us on the day is the only thing they need to give us and now they're getting frustrated. A friend suggested the "deposit a gift" thing. I've checked out that site (and several others). And they just seem creepy to me. So I thought I'd see if anyone had any experience with them.

    Thanks for the input everyone!

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  • erin
    Expert October 2011
    erin ·
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    @Peggy-Most of the cash registries charge a fee for using them but here is another way to look at it...If someone wishes to give you $50.00 and the registry charges them a percentage around 5% they would be charged $52.50...which is actually equal or less than they would be spending on tax on a vase from a department store. I think it is perfectly acceptable these days for couples who have lived together to get the word out through friends and family that cash would be more useful- in fact, I think it is easier for guests than hemming and hawing over wth to pick you out. My sister did not ask for anything for her wedding-didn't need anything, told people their company was all she wanted and didn't spread the word that she wanted cash then got well over $5,000 in cash from guests.

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  • Private User
    Dedicated September 2014
    Private User ·
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    The date has been set and we'd love you to come,

    To our wedding in (place name), a long way for some,

    All you must do, is decide what to wear,

    Then polish your jewellery and comb up your hair.

    Don't worry about gifts, don't buy us a yacht,

    The things that we need, we've already got.

    Our home is quite compact, we may have to move

    Then our storage and space will surely improve.

    Don't go out shopping or get yourself stressed,

    Don't alter your plans for a pre wedding rest.

    If you want to be generous, despite what we've said,

    Then save all the hassle and do this instead.....

    Don't know how to word this but will give it our best shot..

    Contributions are most welcome, we'll go somewhere hot!

    A honeymoon would be marvellous, to start off our life,

    In our long winding journey, as new husband and wife!

    Thank you

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  • Nicole
    Master November 2011
    Nicole ·
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    I'm using It's awesome! The lady who owns the site even wrote me a hand written letter and calls me on the phone if I have any questions! The site is super awesome. Here's the link to mine if you wanna check it out. You actually register for large items and people can make a 'donation' to the overall price. The upside of it all is that you just get the cash. Your guests have no idea if you actually use it towards that or's a polite way of getting money for your wedding. Check it out!

    BTW- you can choose the option to pay the 7% fee instead of your guests. It will just take the percentage off the amount they give you. I selected this option so that my guests wouldn't stear away from donating

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  • Private User
    Dedicated September 2014
    Private User ·
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    I have almost the same prob hun... only thing is we are getting marry in another country and my hubby and I will be living in the USA... no gifts but if people want they can give money " I am sure no one will refuse it" lol But I have to find a nice way to include it in my invitation without sounding too rude... I don't want my guest to feel compelled. so i feel your pain

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  • Angela
    Devoted September 2011
    Angela ·
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    We're using There is no fee because they don't actually collect any of the money. The options at checkout are give check/money at reception, mail check/money, or paypal. It's the same idea that you put in the amount you'd like for whatever and they can just contribute what they would like. So, you could enter: Washer and Dryer, requesting 10 gifts of $50. I like that you can still list it on your wedding site under registry for those that are inclined to give. Good luck on whatever you decide to do!

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated December 2010
    Samantha ·
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  • softail99
    Super July 2011
    softail99 ·
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    We too are over 40 and have what we need, so we are also using like some here. Great site and wonderful customer service.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Everyone has different opinions on this topic. The first time around, there were no doubts. In our culture, I knew we were receiving $, be it cash or check. Gifts were given at engagement parties and bridal showers.

    This time around, we are also over 40, and we own our home. Since we are having a DW, and our guests are incurring the expense of travel, we will not even discuss the topic of gifts with anyone. Yes, we are asked, and our reply is always, "Your presence is gift enough."

    Like Kathy, we find asking for cash, in any manner, at any age,tacky.

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  • Melinda
    Savvy August 2012
    Melinda ·
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    We were torn between DAG and SimpleRegistry but when we ran the numbers, SimpleRegistry would save us a lot more money in fees. They have a one time charge of $35, then you only pay 3.5%. Their site is super easy to use and we registered for a lot of home upgrade items at Home Depot (paint, tiles, etc.) and a local home furnishings store. The best part was they have an iPhone app that allowed us to take a picture of an item or scan a barcode, then immediately upload it to our registry - super cool! We spoke with their customer service manager, Missy, and she was super nice and helpful!

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  • hannah
    Devoted June 2011
    hannah ·
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    Another one to consider is - we are using it and so far, are super happy!

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  • H
    Just Said Yes May 2011
    Hill Country Bride ·
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    I asked a similar question back last fall and I did not get advice from anyone, but oh well…here's my two cents. I could not find any bad reviews or complaints about, so I used them. I was easily able to create a beautiful registry website. They even had wording suggestions! However, none of our guests chose to use our registry...I guess the concept is too new and people didn't understand it. Many of our guests were age 50 or older, so maybe that had something to do with it. Guests either gave us a personal check, gift cards, picked some random item, or gave nothing. I should mention that my husband and I are both in the age range of 35-40 and that we did not have any kind of traditional registry. So, unfortunately, I cannot comment on anything else about the site other than it was easy to create our registry website. We then linked it to our wedding website.

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  • NiseyyD
    Super February 2012
    NiseyyD ·
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    My friend used and got almost $5k donated to it. We used it so far for our engagement party... like Angela said it doesn't charge a fee if they do the option that she suggested. If you do the option where they pay online it goes through paypal and does take a % out of their gift towards fee. (IE: our guest paid a $60 contribution towards "champagne" and we only got about $57 after the fee).

    I think it gives a nice alternative to the regular gift registry for a couple who "has everything"

    here is our link if you want an idea of what it looks like

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  • M
    Dedicated February 2011
    maggie ·
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    I think you will have a hard time finding cash registry that doesn't have some stipulations or fees based on how people contribute- I mean, they are offering you a service, so yeah, there will be a fee somewhere. That being said, we are using and we have been really happy.

    It was super easy to set up, they handle the transfer to your account and it was all easy-peasy. I think you can just create a wedding website (we did) and have a link to your registries- that way people can just click a link- makes it easier than trying to explain where to go, etc- having a wedding website I think is super key to not have what happened to HillCountry- that might make it much easier for a lot of guests.


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  • Chris
    Just Said Yes June 2010
    Chris ·
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    We used and I thought it was both tasteful and it worked great.

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  • Marina
    Beginner October 2011
    Marina ·
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    The best cash wedding registry that I've found is

    All cash wedding registries are more or less the same - you get to register for "gifts" but end up receiving the total value of those gifts in cash. I really like Zankyou. They really do have the lowest transaction fee of any other cash wedding registry and so far great customer service. According to some feedback from my guests, they think it was super simple to use and love the design of my wedding website. YAY Smiley smile

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