Another Sad Breakup Story... 24 days before the wedding...

Lmbrady.... well i don't think it's creepy. i feel luck that people care enough about me.

I have talked to a few people from his base and I am really even more upset because they didn't even try to be discreet. A lot of people had suspicions and a few knew for sure. It makes me feel really embarrassed... Like I'm not shattered enough, I guess instead of calling to work the wedding stuff out civilly, he went out with his whore and the guys last night to make it official in front of all of them. I cant believe it. The day after he rips my heart out.

I am trying to stay as positive as possible right now. Especially during the day. Because the nights are really bad. I have probably slept about 4 hours since it all happened. Hopefully I will be getting an apartment in the next few days, and my best guy friend said he will sleep on the couch if I can't stand to be alone... And my friends have offered too, so I guess I am blessed in that way.

I am so sorry .. i am new to this website..keep strong it is his loss

Haha Well thanks anyways Jamie. He'll realize soon enough that since they are both cheaters, they have not much trust in their relationship. I haven't said anything rude or disrespectful to him because I cannot bring myself to do that to him. He will realize some day that he will never find another who was as devoted and loyal and patient to him as I was.

You sound like you have a great attitude, all things considering. He is really pissing me off. You are being way stronger then I would. I probably would have told everyone that he cheated with a whore...lol. It sounds like you have great friends...keep your head up, things WILL get better.

So sorry for your pain! How tough this is for you. Know that your WW friends will be here to listen to anything you need to vent with! Surround yourself with the people that love you - and let them help. So hard....words aren't enough. Know we're all praying for you to have strength and feel our support!

I think you should send the link to your wedding website to his wh*** so she can see exactly what she has destroyed. He's an idiot! You are a great girl, he has exactly what he deserves now, a woman with no morals or character. You deserve a man that will cherish you and treat you with respect I'm so glad you have kept us informed with how you are doing. I too have been thinking about you and your situation and I want to hurt him for you

YES...PLEASE KEEP US POSTED!!

Kharma is a b*tch and it will bite him in the rear soon enough! Don't ever stoop to his level as tempting as it might be. You will be a much stronger, independent woman for it. I'm confident that the love of your life is out there waiting for you! Be strong and know that we are here for you.

Deirdre... I have fantasized about a good kick to the family jewels, I can't lie. But, he said he won't come home until at least the winter. Coward. I think I should go down there and make the whore look me in the eye... And I know he wouldn't look me in the eye.

"Due to unforseen circumstances, the wedding of X & Y has been cancelled at this time" That's basically what I sent out with my first wedding. My parents knew the reasons but I didn't have to explain it to any one else. And suprisingly there weren't many calls from people trying to get more info. It helped while I was dealing with all the emotions. And DO NOT blame yourself!! He probably picked the fight with you for the reasons you found out. It was his way of giving himself the go ahead. I understand all that those who serve our country go through and have seen many families torn apart by the war... But he should of been a man and ended it with you in a mature manner. He doesn't deserve your tears. Don't put all the blame on "the whore" either, not defending her but he is just as responsible, if not more.

Im sorry your going through this. I did post the other day but it was removed for some unknown reason. Your right they could never have a good relationship once a cheater always a cheater as far as im concerned. We are all here for you anytime you need.

I'm so sorry to hear about this,but at least you found out now instead of marrying him and finding out later because i believe that it would've hurt way more and after what u said about him taking her out and showing her around right after, i hope he breaks a leg and she leaves him. please honey think of it as it was not met to be and i know it's hard to think that and to belive it after all the this time waiting on him and dealing with the distance, dealing with the distance is hard. my FH and i live in two different states as well so i know how it can be, but try to be strong and keep your head up and you don't have to leave us just yet, we'll still all be your friend no matter what

Lil bit, I don't put all the blame on her, but I do know from some close friends down there about her actions, so I have a bit of an idea of how things went. I know he is just as responsible. More so, even. (She's easier to hate, though.)

OMG I can't read anymore I want to cry for you. Please believe that God has something better in store for you. Whooo if you need anything please let us know. Hell I'll make the calls for you......smh

Yep that's a good idea libragurl. if you need help calling people i'll help you also. just let me know. don't matter where your from i have a cell phone and i have a great minute plan

Awww I am so sorry :-( He doesn't deserve you if he isn't man enough to stay faithful to you. It's a sh*tty thing he did..I agree..have someone else do the cancelling or do the postcard cancellation. That is a great idea. Believe us all..it is not your fault. One bit not your fault. You are a strong woman with a good head on your shoulders..you can get through this. *hugs*

Libragurl & Latasha, Thank you for the offer. My mother sent out an email that said: "The wedding has been canceled. It was Michael's decision. Mary is obviously upset, and would I'm sure appreciate some space right now. Thank you in advance." I think Everyone on my guest list is aware of it. I let him know tonight that I will send him another copy of his guest list and he will have to find phone numbers, or use some other means. His mother told him that she would not help him because his actions cannot be explained, and that she is ashamed of him. He is in a bad place right now, but it is one he got himself into.

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I know its hard, but try to look on the brighter side, its better you find out now about the kind of person he is rather than later -- married with a kids. Its a clean break, you don't have to go to court for a divorce or deal with child support/custody. We're here for you! And by the way if he isn't coming back 'till winter throw his crap in storage and make him pick it up there... that way you don't have to deal with meeting him face to face. With his things out of the house it might make things easier too. Again I'm soo sorry you had to go through that

I am glad that his mother is not taking his side. I have a feeling that when he comes home next that he is going to take a lot of crap from people. I hope he does. I hope he has friends and family who treat him like shit.

Lmbrady, I have been like a part of their family for 5 years, and they absolutely love me. They are absolutely devastated about the whole thing. His sister is brokenhearted, and his mother is depressed. His dad won't talk to him. He doesn't know that when he was a baby, his biological father cheated on his mom and she lost it. She tried to kill herself and drown him. They tried to take him away, and she was in the hospital for a while. She had been depressed already because the biological father was in the military and they were always away from their family. She just sees this whole situation repeating itself, and him starting to act like his scumbag biological dad. She is absolutely lost about what to do. She just can't believe it. I feel bad for her having to go through this all over again, seeing her son who she loves hurt me, when I have been around more than he has these past years..