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What is the story behind The Vow Whisperer?

The Vow Whisperer is a licensed officiant, wedding vow, toast, and speech coach based in New York. Owned and run by Tanya Pushkine, The Vow Whisperer helps couples craft the perfect words and coaches each person to deliver their vows flawlessly for the most important performance of a lifetime. The process is comfortable and relaxed and together, the most beautiful customized ceremony will come to life, just as you dreamed it would. Tanya performs ceremonies all over the world and also works with couples globally on their vows, as well as coaching non professionals to officiate.

Services Offered

As an officiant, Tanya is an approachable, fun, and kind person who strives to create the most magical experience possible. Tanya’s experience as a Juilliard-trained actress, as well as her background in public speaking, makes her an ideal choice as an officiant and as someone to assist with writing vows (in your own words). Tanya helps couples confidently and openly express their thoughts and feelings to their partner on their special day.

With Tanya, couples put pen to paper by extracting memories, anecdotes, the meaning of marriage, their joys and hurdles, their promises, and much more. Crafting elegant prose and heartfelt words, the script allows each one to outline their sentiments in a touching and unforgettable way.

The Vow Whisperer also coaches couples on speaking, enunciation, projection, body language, and more. She can help calm your nerves and allow you to be the best possible version of yourself as you read aloud in front of your guests. Your fear of speaking in public will quickly dissipate. Tanya also specializes in coaching family members and friends to officiate. She will craft the ceremony and guide this person through all the logistics to be able to run a ceremony like a pro.

Other Services

The Vow Whisperer also provides her services for couples’ last-minute nerves by providing guidance, confidence, and support up until the moment of. Tanya can assist with wedding speeches and toasts, and her services can be provided face-to-face or virtually. The Vow Whisperer also travels for destination weddings.

As seen in The New York Times, VOGUE, BRIDES, Martha Stewart Weddings, Marie Claire, ELLE, WSJ, NY Post, World Bride Magazine, Thrive Global, and numerous podcasts including Betches Brides (twice), Loverly, The Big Wedding Planning Podcast and many more. She is also an advisor to Vow for Girls and has officiated and assisted with vows for Wish Upon a Wedding.

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What are The Vow Whisperer's coordination packages and rates?

Does starting price include the ceremony rehearsal?

No

What is the starting price for ceremony rehearsals?

$216

What types of weddings and events do you provide services for?

Non-religious
Interfaith
Ceremony Rehearsal
Vow Renewal
Civil Union

What religious affiliations do you serve?

Agnostic
Anglican
Baha'i Faith
Baptist
Buddhist
Catholic
Earth-Based
Episcopalian
Evangelical
Hindu
Islam
Jainism
Jewish
Lutheran
Methodist
Mormon
No Denomination
Orthodox Christian
Pagan
Presbyterian
Quaker
Shinto
Sikhism
Taoist
Unitarian

On average, how long are wedding ceremonies you officiate?

Less than 30 mins.

In which states are you licensed?

CO
CT
MA
NJ
NY
PA

What languages do you speak?

English
French

What are real couples saying about their experience with The Vow Whisperer in reviews?

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The officiant and vow coach is repeatedly praised for crafting deeply personal, emotional ceremonies and helping couples write and rehearse heartfelt vows. Reviewers highlight her calm, professional, flexible guidance, attention to detail, and ability to coach inexperienced officiants. Couples found the ceremonies memorable and highly recommend her.

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The officiant and vow coach is repeatedly praised for crafting deeply personal, emotional ceremonies and helping couples write and rehearse heartfelt vows. Reviewers highlight her calm, professional, flexible guidance, attention to detail, and ability to coach inexperienced officiants. Couples found the ceremonies memorable and highly recommend her.

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Edoardo Sent on 11/04/2026
5 out of 5 rating

A custom made ceremony

A wedding is the most important moment in a couple's life, and the ceremony is the most significant and sentimental moment. We could have not made a better choice than working with Tanya and allowing her to officiate this heart-felt moment. Together with Tanya, we wrote the ceremony; she is so talented in understanding people's needs, feelings and life stories. She put together a mangnificent ceremony that made everyone cry and remember it forever. This happened because of her incredible ability to get in touch and understand people's feelings, past stories and ideas. Some officiants just have a standard script that they reuse over and over again. But not Tanya; she tailors the ceremony on every couple and this makes it unique and memorable.
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Alexandra Sent on 10/15/2026
5 out of 5 rating

A beautiful and meaningful ceremony

We couldn’t have asked for a better officiant for our wedding! She gave us the flexibility to make our ceremony feel personal and truly reflective of us as a couple, which meant so much to us on such a special day. Her calm, warm presence made the entire ceremony feel natural, intimate, and heartfelt. She created such a beautiful atmosphere, and we received so many compliments from our guests afterward about how lovely and meaningful the ceremony was.
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Margaret Sent on 10/04/2026
5 out of 5 rating

Meaningful, Thoughtful Guidance

Working with Tanya (and Paula, our celebrant) was a lovely part of preparing for our wedding. She helped us create a ceremony that felt true to us, and her thoughtful guidance gave us the space and tools to reflect on what we really wanted to say to each other. We each approached it very differently and ended up expressing ourselves in our own ways, but she made us both feel comfortable and supported. She then brought everything together beautifully in the ceremony. We’re so grateful for the experience, which we found to be very meaningful and enjoyable even in the midst of the stress of wedding planning. We would wholeheartedly recommend The Vow Whisperer!
Karissa
Karissa Sent on 04/30/2026
5 out of 5 rating

Love Tanya!

Loved Tanya! She helped make a stressful process of finding the right words to put into vows seamless and kept us on track...highly recommend!
Yang
Yang Sent on 03/21/2026
5 out of 5 rating

A wonderful coach!

Tanya did a fantastic job preparing me and my co-officiant to officate my brother and sister-in-law's wedding! Tanya always had the right judgment and intutiion for the ceremony -- from the tone of the words we chose to the cadence of our speaking styles. She was also highly accessible to us during the entire process. I highly recommend her!
Julie
Julie Sent on 01/05/2026
5 out of 5 rating

Truly amazing!!

Tanya was absolutely incredible to work with and made the entire vow‑writing process feel easy and enjoyable. She helped my husband and me feel completely comfortable from start to finish, and our vows turned out more meaningful than we ever imagined. We couldn’t recommend her highly enough!

Thank you, Tanya!!
Arielle
Arielle Sent on 12/30/2025
5 out of 5 rating

The Most Meaningful Part of Our Wedding Day

If you’re looking for an officiant (and vow coach) who will help you create a ceremony that feels deeply personal and unmistakably you - look no further than Tanya.

It was really important to my husband and I that our ceremony felt like more than a formality, and that our relationship with our officiant was more than just transactional. From our first call with Tanya, we knew instantly that she was the right person to marry us. She was warm, thoughtful, and genuinely invested in getting to know who we are. It was truly a bespoke and collaborative process to create the ceremony of our dreams with her.

Working with Tanya went far beyond the ceremony itself. We also chose to work with her as our vow coach, and it was one of the best decisions we made during wedding planning. She poured so much time and attention into helping us craft vows that felt perfect for us, and true to our voices. Because of her guidance, we were able to stand up there and deliver vows that felt authentically us, flawlessly, even through all of the wedding day nerves. Not only this, but her presence is so calming, which is exactly what we needed day-of.

The ceremony Tanya created was nothing short of incredible. Even months after the wedding, our friends and family still tell us it was the best ceremony they’ve ever attended.

We are endlessly grateful for the care she showed us and the space she held for us throughout the entire process. If you’re lucky enough to work with her, trust me - your ceremony will be something you and your guests will never forget!
Jeff
Jeff Sent on 10/22/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Great Experience with Tanya

It was such a joy to work with Tanya on our ceremony and vows! When we first reached out, we were at the very beginning of planning and didn’t know where to start. Tanya immediately put us at ease, beginning with a full-hour Zoom conversation to get to know us. We connected with her right away, especially through our shared background in the arts, and I felt excited and comfortable from the very first call.

Together we crafted a ceremony I’m thrilled with, guided by Tanya’s thorough questionnaire that made writing our vows simple and meaningful. Her process worked beautifully, and practicing with her leading up to the wedding was both fun and reassuring. On the day itself she kept everything on schedule and was wonderfully flexible with her time.

The ceremony unfolded seamlessly, and we received so many compliments on how heartfelt and memorable it was. I wholeheartedly recommend Tanya to anyone looking for a thoughtful, creative partner to help design the perfect wedding ceremony and vows.
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Jennine Sent on 08/29/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Highly Recommend The Vow Whisperer

Wow, what can we say about how thrilled and happy with Tanya our vow whisperer who helped us create such beautiful, loving and meaningful vows. We gave her very short notice deciding that we needed help with this special part of our ceremony. She delivered and was there for us every step of the way down to our practicing with her. I highly recommend Tanya to be your vow whisperer to add a special tone and voice to your loving words for each other. We received so many compliments about our ceremony and how our vows made people cry and opened the door to truly understand our love for each other. Thank you so much Tanya! XO Jennine & Bruce.
Ali
Ali Sent on 08/23/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Highly Recommended!

Tanya did an incredible job as our Vow Coach for our wedding in July 2025! We enjoyed the entire process, from completing an in-depth questionnaire about our relationship, to building our vows, and practicing our vows individually with Tanya. She offers a service and expertise unlike any other, and I am so happy we made the decision to hire her! Having Tanya on board kept our ceremony focused and meaningful, making our vows to one another front and center in our wedding, setting the mode and tone for the entire event. She helped my fiance and I stay true to one another in the midst of a million wedding details, and in return, it made our experience planning for a wedding much more enjoyable. She is kind, listened carefully to the type of ceremony were trying to create, and gave constructive, actionable feedback to help us deliver our vows with polish. Our guests told us that our vows were the most memorable they had ever heard: they laughed, cried, and even recited lines from our vows back to us.  Tanya's help was invaluable to our wedding day and if we could give her 6 stars we would, we highly recommend her for the depth she will bring to your wedding day!
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What awards has The Vow Whisperer won?

125
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2026 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2025 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2024 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2023 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2022 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2021 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2020 Winner

Where is The Vow Whisperer based?

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