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Is it really that SERIOUS???? Do I need to do STD cards???

Yeah.... so Ummm, not really feeling the whole STD thing, mainly because of the face that all of our family that is getting invited only lives at the most 3 hours away, with the exception of a few and they are either helping with the wedding or in it so they already know what day it is, so I don't feel like I should waste my time/money getting them, cause it's not like they live in Europe or something, but that's just me... do you agree or disagree???

Posted On: Nov 7, 2009 at 8:13 PM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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Ms. Soon to be his Mrs.

Wedding: 11/06/2010

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Not-A-Bridezilla

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:15 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would recommend searching the boards for this question because there are a lot of previous posts about it and interesting answers out there.... But no.. Save The Dates are in no way,shape, or form mandatory. I'm not doing them--everyone that needs to know already knows about our wedding. If I could get out of spending the money on invites I would, but obviously that's not really an option unless I want my guests to think I'm cheap by inviting them online.

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/is-this-really-necessary/c8297a28143e57fb.html I just posted a question about STD's as well. I personally am not using them after hearing the advice from everyone on my post.

DreamComeTrue

Wedding: 06/25/2011

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
LOL 1/2 my guests live in Europe, so I have no choice but if your guests live in town I don't think you need them...BTW Hey girl! You ready for tomorrow night?!?!?! lol

Ms. Soon to be his Mrs.

Wedding: 11/06/2010

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:29 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
LOL, girl I got my cake tasting at 6 so I'ma try to wrap that up Quick to get back so I can watch BRIdeZILLAS and My fair wedding.... lol, I'm be speeding home hopefully I don't get a ticket!!!!

JulyBride

Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:41 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I really think we need to change the whole STD thing.... lets see, Keep the date, KTB? Remember the dat, RTB? lol. But as an awnser to your question, no, they are really not necessary UNLESS - your having an out of state or destination wedding - your wedding is on or very close to a major holiday - you are inviting a very large amount of people that you do not see/talk to on a regular basis

JulyBride

Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:41 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Why did I used a B for date? KTD, RTD.

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 8:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Yea I agree with JulyBride, we should change the STD thing, it sounds a little misleading... BTW I love your pic JulyBride!:)

MDLS

Wedding: 10/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:02 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I was wondering this myself. I don't think these were used long ago (when my mom and dad got married). I don't think I will use them either after reading these posts. I think for the most part, it is just another way for companies to make money.

JulyBride

Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:09 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks reddiva! My photographer came up with the idea but had never tried it before. I love the way it turned out! The only thing was it was supposed to be taken before I had my veil on, but that's okay.

DreamComeTrue

Wedding: 06/25/2011

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:30 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
ROFL Cake tasting...now that sounds good! Can't wait to hear what you guys picked!

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:33 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Your welcome JulyBride. I also love the way that turned out, very beautiful, OIC, I actually like the viel.

Ms. Soon to be his Mrs.

Wedding: 11/06/2010

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:41 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
We Went Already, this if for my moms benefit, my cake is 5 tiers, and blk/white and red/whte zebra print.... with alternating layers or butter pecan cake w/ apricot and cream cheese filling, and wjite cake with vanilla filling, and creme de cacao icing.... all butter cream...

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
mmm... that sounds yummy Ms. Soon to me Mrs.... Your making me hungry... damn it so much for that diet... LOL!

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I mean the diet that I am on.

Jouselle

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 07, 2009 at 9:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Those cards are gonna be UBER importante for my wedding, because we have peeps comign from all over the country! we're going to make fridge magnets. ^_^

Amber Lynn W.

Wedding: 04/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 12:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
We are only sending STD to my FH family that lives in the Netherlands, and Germany.. I also have just a few friends that are staioned overseas so they are getting one.. But if they live in the states we arent wasting money sending them STD since we are planning on sending the invitations out Feb time

Jessy D.

Wedding: 05/30/2010

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 1:20 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think they are only important for folks who are traveling a long distance and/or will need to plan ahead to save $ for travel expenses (all my family is out of town... and several on welfare)... or for folks who will need a LOT of notice to arrange work schedules. Otherwise, they're not really that important. And everyone else beat me to the STD thing ;) Sounds like we're talking diseases!

jkhines1979

Wedding: 12/05/2009

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 1:24 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I didn't spend money on that! I think word of mouth is good enough!! LOL

3.6.10Bride

Wedding: 03/06/2010

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 1:51 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think it depends on the size of your wedding/who you're inviting. If it's just family and some close friends, then they probably already know about your wedding. But if your having a lot acquaintances from work, friends of your parents, etc, then you might need to send the save the dates because they might not already know about the wedding plans. Then again, if you're only inviting those people out of obligation or your parents insistence, then maybe by not sending save the dates they will have already made other plans and won't come anyway! :)

Rosie

Wedding: 06/27/2010

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 2:04 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would send STD's to the guests who live over 1 or 2 hours away. That is what all the etiquette sites say is proper. They may want to arrange lodging and take time off work as that is a little much to drive both ways in one day...especially if you're having open bar. But there is no need to send them to in-town guests at all. If you only have several STD's to send you can do them yourselfwith card stock and online templates. If you google for them you can even find some that are free. $10 bucks will get you 50 envelopes and card-stock at staples, then add on postage.

Idylia

Wedding: 06/26/2010

Posted On: Nov 08, 2009 at 6:57 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would say that your situation does not warrant them, especially if you do not want to prepare and send them out in the first place. Do what feels right for you, because etiquette cannot allow for every situation for every bride. I am sending STD's out as a way to announce our engagement, and the wedding at the same time for some people that I do not talk to regularly who live all over the country. I am also having a destination wedding, where I am the one who lives the closest at 4 hours away. Because of all the above factors, I feel that it is necessary for me to send STDs.

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