Have you been to a wedding that was inconsiderate to guest?

The wedding reception where they were a bit short on space, so decided to just set up chairs without tables. We had to set our cups on the floor and hold our plates in our laps. Granted it was not a super formal wedding, but we still were dressed up and it was a full meal.

My mom just recently got married and her husband had dinner pushed back to 8 oclock! so people were sitting around doing nothing for an hour and a half.

I went to a wedding that crammed 200 people in 33C (90F) weather in a hall that didn't have air conditioning. I was so hot I didn't want to eat anything and nobody danced all night because we were so uncomfortable. If you have a wedding mid summer- pick a venue with air conditioning!

I went to one wedding where there wasn't even water offered for free. WATER! It was a complete pay bar including water and coffee. -.-

I went to a wedding that they were do not playing all country music because that is what they prefered, they hate country. they relented when the grooms uncle requested a song. The country song they played (Pontoon) had the most people out on the dance floor so they ended up deciding it was rude of them to prevent us from having fun and dancing to what we liked as well as what they liked..

I have not been to a wedding that did not have a cash bar.

Let's see -

1. An outdoor wedding where the majority of guests had to stand on a hill for the ceremony. After the 30-minute ceremony, there was a receiving line that took for.ev.ER. After almost an hour and a half standing in fancy shoes, my dogs were barking, I was hot, and I was in no mood to dance.

2. A wedding where I was a BM but still seated in Siberia and the last to be called to the buffet. Making it even worse, there were the dances, multiple speeches, a prayer, a toast, and a slideshow before they even started calling tables up to the buffet. Everybody was hungry and so bored!

3. A wedding with no seating chart and barely enough chairs to go around - DH and I wound up circling the room multiple times trying to find two seats together. It was so awkward to have to ask complete strangers, over and over, if we could sit down.

While planning, I would ask yourself, "If I were a guest, would I enjoy this? Or would I be uncomfortable/thirsty/hungry/bored?"

I went to a wedding once where our entire church was invited, and the couple paid for everyone's food/drink, except for the singles small group. They had to leave after the ceremony, go to a restaurant, and come back after everyone was done eating.

I was a BM in a wedding that was black and white themed. It was mid-July. Over a 100 degrees, and it was an outdoor wedding at maybe 3pm. The groom said that the girls had to have their hair down with our black dresses. Oh, and we had to be barefoot at the ceremony which was on a large deck. The deck was SO hot and it burned our feet. It was at a private residence that belonged to one of their friends, and it was a really nice place, but the B&G had no plans on a lot of food, drinks, or even how they would cut the cake OUTSIDE in that heat. In the end, all of the guests ended up going INSIDE the private residence (which was clearly NOT meant to be used - it was really messy because someone lives there/didn't expect it to be a wedding reception) just to be in the A/C.

I love the Bride to death, and I still do, but if you can't afford even BASIC stuff, and you make THOSE kinds of rules (no shoes, black dresses, hair down in the DEAD of SUMMER and those kinds of temps), then you have to have an A/C back up and/or reception tent... something.

Just one I can think of: I had RSVP'ed for two (I was allowed a guest), but they only had one seat for me The guy I was with had driven me over three hours to this thing and they didn't have a seat for him. We ended up leaving. . .

Rusticbride, my ex-SIL picked out BM dresses that were black taffeta, floor length, with multiple layers of crinoline. In Alabama, in September. I thought I was going to die of heat exhaustion! The kicker was that the dress was $280 plus another $100 in alterations. Grrr.

I think that's why I have such an attitude about brides who treat their BMs like dressup dollies, instead of listening to what they feel attractive and comfortable wearing.

Yes, I have also been to an outdoor summer wedding that was unbearably hot. We were all melting in the hot sun and it started 30 minutes late, so we were sitting out there for well over an hour. Heat stroke and sun burns before the reception - awesome. It's was sooo uncomfortable.

I was also at a wedding with a cash bar and tip jar and honeyfund jar. There were just too many ways that the couple was asking guests for money.

I went to a destination wedding where they had a 10am ceremony then we had to wait until 7pm for the reception to start (it actually started at 8:30pm since the bride was LATE).

We did not eat our cold, buffet dinner until 10:30pm. Cold mashed potato bar anyone?? Horrible.

100 guests or so, buffet (4 separate stations - no one knew this- in 4 different areas) with nowhere enough seating. There were a few cocktail tables, some low lounge seating with no tables. I would say maybe 30 people could sit and eat. It was listed as BLACK TIE on the invites, so 75 people in black tie, holding plates and trying to eat while standing and holding drinks.

I might add, the ceremony was AMAZING! but the reception felt more like an "Event" than a wedding. And the music was so loud you couldn't visit with anyone.

ETA: I was MOH in a july 10 wedding about 6 years ago. Black floor length taffeta gown. What gives?? LOL

My former college roommate had her wedding on a beach at the Jersey Shore, and insisted I purchase a sari for it... too bad it was two days before Halloween and the coldest October day on record.

Alleykit - that is terrible!!

Uhg my brother's wedding was outdoors in 95 degree humid weather. I almost passed out. I had to get out of the bridal party line and sit down because everything was going black. I was so embarrassed but i figured that was better than passing out in the middle of their vows.

FSIL had a wedding a month ago. Everyone traveled from NY to TX. No food,no music,no dancing etc. Anyways all she had to eat was cake. Well many people in Fh's family have diabetes. Everyone for some reason had to be there an hr early so they went 8 hours with nothing to eat but cake.....which is not good for a diabetic. A lot of people got sick.

@futuremrsmatthews, that's just....wow. When I first got engaged, I wanted super simple. Backyard, white dress I already had, BBQ. But when I started to think about all my guests traveling from CA to Texas, I knew I wanted to give them a little more. Hence the wedding dress, booked venue, etc etc. I cannot believe someone would do that to their guests, but especially traveling guests! Not saying local guests are any less important but traveling can involve a lot more money and time. That's horrible!!

I was one of 200 guests at an outdoor wedding in a historic ruin (read - no running water - no bathrooms) in a May a couple of years ago. The temperature was over 90 and humid - and the caterer didn't bring ANY water. So everyone just guzzled the beer, cider, wine and the small amount of overly sweet tea that was supplied. And then we all had to use one of the two port-o-johns on site (which weren't rented for the wedding - they had been there long enough to have spiders). We actually left to go into town to buy water bottles to share with our friends