Have you been to a wedding that was inconsiderate to guest?

My college roommate got married at 20 and all the single women there were ages 18-20 and in no rush to marry. The bouquet was tossed, we stepped out of its way, and it wound up hitting a wall and then bouncing into one of the girls and hitting her on the shoulder. We all decided she had "caught" it.

Oh yes, I forgot to add the conclusion. She was deported 2 years after that for her 3rd DWI and since she had her son blow in the breathalyzer in the car, child services took him for a few days. She would either have to stand trial or leave the country. Thank goodness she chose the latter.

@Ashleigh - did your dad get an annulment? How did she get deported if they were married?

Thanks, but my photographer takes 12 weeks to edit and provide photos. It has only been 8 since my wedding.

@Ashleigh, holy crap! What country did she come from? How sad that your dad was that lonely.

I don't think you can get a full visa/citizenship by getting married, any longer. I think it may be provisional for a few years (I'm not exactly sure, I could be wrong). He may have been too embarrassed to admit he made a mistake so blamed it on that. They did dissolve the marriage eventually. We didn't ask too many question, just waved as her plane left.

Russia. He was deployed at the time in Afghanistan when he connected with her. He was there 1.5 years. That's why we kept our mouths shut. I'm sure he was very lonely there.

MrsMolin2be, this happened to me once! I totally forgot about that wedding. It was in late October in Maryland, so we assumed it would be indoors. Nope, it was outside. The weather was cold and rainy. I think it was only 45 degrees! Thankfully we were under a covered porch, but it was still freezing. I think I shivered the entire time. No mention of an outdoor wedding on the invitation.

The wedding I went to last summer wasn't that bad in comparison to all yours, but there were two things that I didn't like that stuck out to me, and that some other brides might learn from as well:

1. Their dance floor was in a different room than dinner was, and there were no tables or chairs in that room. If you didn't want to dance or needed a break you had to stand awkwardly at the edge of the dance floor or just go sit in the dinner room alone. My feet were dying at the end of the night. Most of the older crowd left early because they didn't want to be separated from the dancing but they couldn't stay on their feet for more than an hour or two.

2. The event staff was horrible. At the end of the night all of the bride & groom's friends (it was my cousin's wedding) were belligerently drunk and kept dropping food, napkins, trash all over the dance floor and broke multiple glasses and the event staff just watched as guests attempted to pick up broken glasses - and some of the girls were barefoot. There was trash and glass everywhere.

2b. More on the event staff being crappy - They did not direct guests where to go. When I arrived with my family we didn't know to walk AROUND the mansion rather than through it and we ended up seeing the bride before the ceremony - OOPS. Make sure your staff knows to direct people where to go!!!

I went to a wedding last July in a catholic church with NO AC. I sweat like no other, and was DYING. The groomsmen were literally mopping the sweat off their heads.

We get to the reception, and it is being held at a hotel about 20 mins away, in a room meant for probably 150 people... with 250 crammed in. The air could not keep up with the people. SO FUCKING HOT.

And these were the people who did not send us a thank you until last week. A YEAR LATER we finally got a thank you card (with an "update on our first year of marriage" typed on the back. I thought I would die). That wedding... UGH.

One of my BMs got married in 2012 in August, outside at some country club in FL. We were under trees so some shade but there was thousands of bugs and it was humid as hell. The wedding started an hour and a half late and I was 3 months pregnant. To top it all off, they didn't have a PA system so we could hear what they were saying so I was sitting there on the second row watching 3 people just stand there. I was pissed during the entire ceremony that I didn't enjoy the reception and it was inside!

It was about 30 years ago, but I'll never forget it. The bride desperately wanted to get married, and when the groom finally proposed, she decided that she was going to throw a wedding together in a few weeks (before he could change his mind). No, I'm not kidding.

She decided to host the entire thing in their tiny, one bedroom garden apartment. It was also July 4, unbelievably hot, and there was one small wall air conditioner in the apartment. All of the living room furniture (except an old organ) was moved into the couple's bedroom, and white plastic chairs were everywhere. There were about 50 people at this wedding, and every time you turned around, you bumped into someone. Finally it's time for the wedding to start. The bride is waiting in the hallway of the apartment building to make her grand entrance. As she comes through the door with her father and grandfather, an incredibly obnoxious organist began playing the traditional Bridal March. The song ended after 10 seconds because the aisle was so short. At the top of the aisle, the bride realized that there was about an 18 inch wide aisle to walk down, so she and her escorts joined hands and walked to the sliding glass doors (the altar) in single file. Once the ceremony was over, the "party started". The party consisted of quite a few people chain smoking and an organist who played weird songs. When the crowd's conversatiion level got too loud for him, he stopped playing, stood up, and yelled at everyone for disrespecting him by talking over his music. It was hard to take him seriously because he looked so much like Captain Kangaroo (in a bright red jacket). Everyone was stunned. Then the organist introduced the bride's completely drunk grandmother. She serenaded the guests with a German love song, sung in its original language. Not only couldn't she sing, but she forgot the words and started over several times. Some of the guests went outside to sit at a small picnic table under a blue tarp that the couple had set up. Within minutes, the guests were approached by the maintenance man and told to take down the tent and remove the picnic table since they were both on building property. The only good part was the food. The bride was an excellent cook, and she prepared plenty to eat and kept it warm with sterno cans. However, once everyone ate (sitting with plates on their laps), the place cleared out. It was truly awful and rather embarrassing. The couple has been divorced for years.

I've been to two weddings that come to mind when I read these stories.

One of them was for a friend who is a Mormon and got married in the temple. I understand that we would not be allowed to join that part of the celebration but the cake and punch reception she had in the church rec room (no decorations whatsoever) left something to be desired. The bridal party had a receiving line when you first entered the room. After about an hour the whole thing was over. There were no toasts or anything. You just grabbed a slice of sheet cake and some nasty fruit punch and sat down. The bride never sent any thank yous or anything for the gifts we brought and I have never heard from her since.

The other wedding was held outside in November in the Lake Tahoe area. It was freezing and there was deer poop everywhere. The poor bridesmaids were wearing short, strapless dresses and they looked blue. Afterward there was a reception in a weird cabin. There was no organization and only appetizers to eat even though it was a meal time. The bride and groom kept running off to smoke weed and grab beers at the bar across the street since it was a dry reception. Again, no thank yous and I've barely spoken to the bride since.

I went to my co workers wedding. It started 45 mins late, it was about 105 degrees that day. On the program it said reception to follow (it was in the basement of the church) we sat around and waited for 3 hours until her and the bridal party came back. There was no air conditioner, no hors d'oeuvre or drinks while we waited Then they finally showed up, and we got served the food, it must of been her uncle but he was sweating so bad where is sweat was dripping in the food. NO THANK YOU! Then when it was about to be over, they was asking if we can help clean up!!! Smh

@FutureMrsWilliams they asked you to clean up??? Oh my goodness. Thankfully, I've only ever been to a couple weddings and they've all been nice and very considerate of their guests. Sorry (or should I say, relieved?) that I don't have any personal stories to share but these ones are really entertaining and calming me down a bit about our upcoming wedding. Like, well at least there won't be deer poop.

Aw Centerpiece, that's one of the saddest story I think I've ever heard.

These have been great to read!! I have two-ish...

One: My sister's wedding 10 years ago...I was 17 and between my dad, brother and cousin buying me drinks, I got way to drunk and ended up getting sick and possibly getting alcohol poisoning. Well, my sister never let me live it down, so when it came time for my other sister's wedding about 5 years later, I was the butt of many jokes. Once again I was the only family member not involved in the wedding (my bro was best man for both), and my sister bought me a turtleneck, floor length, black polyester dress to wear for her outdoor summer wedding. I think she had good intentions, but it was HOTTT. When we arrived to the ceremony, even though we were early, there were no seats left except for at the very back, so I couldn't really see. Then her MIL switched the escort cards on the tables, so my biological mom, FH and I were seated way in the back. We were supposed to be with my dad and step mom. The rest of the wedding was fun though, minus continually being reminded of being drunk at the last wedding, the heat, and sitting with the distant relatives that we didn't even know.

Another one was FH's best friend's wedding. The ceremony was beautiful, as was the reception, and we were very happy for them, but the MIL was a BITCH. First of all, they live in a huge stone mansion outside of Toronto. The couple lived with them at the time, and just getting to the wedding cost a TON (Would've been $2600 for both return, but we used air miles for one so paid $1300, but this was right after I finished school and right before we were moving 4 hours away). Anyways, the couple said we could stay with them at her parent's place to avoid having to pay for a hotel for 4 nights. Awesome! Except the MIL would not allow us to stay inside the house because we weren't family (even though there was plenty of space), so we had to sleep in tents in the yard. The parents also did absolutely nothing to help the couple. Day before the wedding her and I were running around picking up cake, flowers, etc. and the guys were getting the rental chairs and sound system. Her and I assembled the centerpieces the night before the wedding, and made cookies and organized food for the "cocktail reception" (just a few snacks post ceremony). Now, my FH was the best man, but I was not in the BP, so I'm not sure what she would've done without my help. We didn't even see her parents the day before the wedding (and remember they all lived together). Day of the wedding, the husbands sister offered to take pictures of them getting ready (they didn't have a photographer), and the mom freaked out and slammed the door in her face because she didn't want anyone in her room where the bride was getting ready. After the reception, we stayed behind to help clean up. The bride had told me to throw out the flowers from the centerpieces and bring back the vases. We had to do two trips in a borrowed car to bring everything back, meanwhile the parents didn't offer to help at all, and left in their car without even grabbing anything to take back to the house. THEN, when the MIL found out I had thrown out the flowers (as PER the bride), she started yelling at me!! I later overheard her bad mouthing me to another family member.

The very worst part about staying with this family though, is that we were not fed at all. We went two days and had to leave the house to feed ourselves because we weren't allowed to eat their food. We had no means of transportation, so we had to ask the bride/groom to stop for food while we were out doing errands with them. And as a nice gesture I brought the mom a local (expensive) bottle of wine for hosting us. Wish I could've asked for it back at the end of the trip. On the last night (after the wedding) those of us staying at the house (4 total), raided the kitchen, drank their beer and ate a couple bags of chips we found out of protest of their awful hosting skills. In the morning after the wedding when we left, the groom had to come back to the house at 6 am and drive us to the airport because the parents wouldn't. It was about an hour drive, so too far to cab. Her parents ruined the wedding experience for us, and to this day I don't know the MIL's name because we called her the dragon lady all weekend.