8 Commandments of an Awesome Groom
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Engaged men, if you're looking to win groom of the year these tips are sure to come in handy during wedding planning!
Here are eight commandments that will make you an awesome groom.
Be the spokesperson for your family
One of the most exciting things about getting married is that two families become one, but this can also create a lot of stress during the planning process. Each of you likely has a few family members who want to make their opinions heard. You should serve as a mediator of sorts, relaying important wedding information to them and answering any questions they may have about the guest list, venue, etc. Since your S.O. will likely be dealing with their side of the family, it’s your responsibility to be in touch with yours. This will help the lines of communication run a little more smoothly.
Keep calm
There are bound to be a few bumps along the planning road, and the best thing you can do when they happen is to remain calm. Reassure your other half that everything will fall into place and try to work together to solve the problem at hand. Both of you stressing out won’t resolve anything and your fiancé(e) will appreciate your mellow vibe.
Voice your opinion
Remember, this is your wedding too! If you have an idea for a signature cocktail or a cool guestbook idea, don’t hold back. You and your S.O. may have a few disagreements from time to time, but just like you would any other point in your relationship, compromise! Your wedding is supposed to be a reflection of you as a couple.
Offer to help
Take ownership of wedding planning tasks that interest you. Ask to take on the music, food or beverage choices, or any other aspect you have ideas for! Grooms sometimes have a bad rap for not being as involved in the planning process, and that’s not always the case. If you know you want to help but aren’t sure what to do, things like the guest list, ceremony, and planning the honeymoon are good ways to get involved.
Stay involved
There may be some parts of planning you leave completely up to your S.O. but you don’t want to be completely out of the loop. Stay in-the-know about what’s going on and where you’re at in the planning process. Your fiancé(e) might be really excited about flower arrangements, which might not interest you, but staying supportive and involved is super important.
Thank your groomsmen
They’re planning your bachelor party, getting special attire, and standing by you on your big day so be sure to thank them! There are plenty of cool and creative ideas out there, and they’ll definitely appreciate the gesture. Check out some ideas for groomsmen gifts here.
Plan date nights
Wedding planning doesn’t always have to be stressful. You can turn it into a fun way to bond with your fiancé(e)! Check out some cute ideas here. Plan a few nights off of wedding planning as well and just enjoy each other! See a movie, cook dinner together, and don’t think about your big day.
Remind your fiancé(e) what really matters
When the going gets tough, take a minute to step back and remember why you got engaged in the first place. Think about the big picture and keep in mind that at the end of all the craziness you’ll be married. When the stress of planning takes away from the enjoyment of your engagement period, remind your S.O. why you fell in love with them in the first place. It will make the whole process worthwhile!
