Winter Solstice Party, Surprise Wedding

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Hahaha I don't watch that but it's totally like sitcom level drama. Yeah the minister is what brought it all down.

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Yup!!! It's much easier to help them host their own party instead of helping them "crash" ours.

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Yeah the pastor made it easy. I don't think she was being intentionally rude. I think it was just naive.

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Yeah we minded (is that a word?) because they wanted to bring extra guests and force a religion we reject into our party that is intentionally atheist/pagan. It worked out though!

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Hahaha I know. I wouldn't mind if she borrowed my dress as much as her "borrowing" our party!

Super weird of her to ask that..unless she specifically mentioned paying you for this whole thing...I'd definitely tell her that you're not comfortable with it, and honestly, how awkward of her to ask lol.

But good luck and let us know what happens!!

I would say no. Politely explain that they should be the hosts of such an event.

Wowza! Thanks for coming back with the update. You are a great friend for offering to help her plan her wedding just a few days after you are hosting a big party. Kudos to you!

What?! Whyyyy

If I were a guest to your party and it’s a surprise wedding, it would be awkward for me, even if I knew the couple.

So glad this worked out!! It was just a bit of a reach in overstepping boundaries for your annual solstice party. I'm glad you'll still have your party and they'll have their wedding without any inconveniences.

At least she asked you and didn't just show up with the guests. It would have been a surprise to you too.

The couple should have offered to pay for a portion of the food and / or the entertainment. If they are not on board with spending the money then it's a NO.

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This whole thing is AMAZING. The gall of it is incredible, but your update about them wanting you to change your atheist/pagan event to one with a pastor??????? I'm a pretty strident atheist so probably a lot less interested in others' religious sensibilities than most but that is so rude I can't even think of a good enough way to demonstrate how much that one send me off the deep end. Deeply disrespectful of your own world beliefs. I think you've handled the whole thing with just about as much grace as can be expected in situation like this, they've forced you into a terrible position.

For five people, the caterer line isn't gong to work. Just say, I'm sorry we love our annual party, as do our friends. We don't want to change it into a wedding celebration. Let is know if you need advice planning your wedding.

No, just no! This is your holiday party. If they want a wedding, they can plan their own event.

If they had at least offered to pay then maybe but nah, they're getting a free wedding off you!
Not sure how to word it nicely. Maybe say you aren't comfortable with the pressure that puts on you?

NO!!!

No explaination necessary. Just politely tell them you are honored that they think so highly of you party to even consider. However, your party is to celebrate the holiday with your friends and you do not think it is an appropriate place for their wedding.

Nope! How rude

What the what?? That sounds rude and cheap (on their part).

Hell to the no!!

Holy moly that is just so crazy to me