Winter Solstice Party, Surprise Wedding

Ugh I would be shocked as well, for starters your party sounds like a great time. But are they serious? I would say sure as long as they plan on paying for everything! I would almost be mad if I were you that someone basically is asking you to host, plan and pay for their wedding.

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HA! just realized this was all from december. But still just as insane!.... and I read your updates! hope your still not friends with this person they sound extra special.

Wow this thread is crazy! I CANNOT believe she ended up doing that to you! I would be livid too!

I'd actually text her and ask if she was planning on paying you back for everything you helped her with since you were uninvited from the wedding YOU helped her plan.

So rude. It's unfathomable how some people just don't understand how WRONG this is!!!!

I would say no politely. Sounds like they are trying to get a free wedding basically and this is a sneaky way of doing it

View Quoted Comment Yeah we cut all ties with them. We were angry then pretty sad. It's kind of hard because we were going-out buddies.

Wow, I erased my post three times because I am so shocked that someone would ask this. If they want a wedding, they should host it like everyone else not "piggyback" or "mooch" off your party.

EDIT...Just saw that this was from December...btw..your party was on my B-day....This entire thread is insane. I am sorry that after trying so hard to salvage this friendship you were so badly disrespected. However, it shows what a truly good person you are that you did all that for her after hosting your event. Her loss.

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I would definitely say No - and yes, making sure to answer them! Silence is usually taken as a yes. It is hard to be polite and nice about this, is almost like using a poem to have a honeyfund - but you'll have to do your best and inform that no, they can't do that at your party. Some people... I don't really get it.

eta - another one of those threads! Just saw your update, you are better off without friends like that... IMO

View Quoted Comment Yup we resolved everything. I gave an update a few comments back. They ended up making a new intimate wedding for NYE which we helped plan...and they uninvited us to 🙄 Unfortunately we are no longer friends.

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Yeah I read it. Unreal... I honestly cannot understand what is in people's minds?! And so much became clear after we got engaged, it's very sad but I guess it's not bad to "clean up" the house from negative people/ people that don't really appreciate you.

A surprise wedding is an awesome idea! It would be a very kind gesture if you would enjoy hosting a short celebration for them. I, personally, would not appreciate having another couple take over an event I planned so diligently, and for so many years, however. I would decline if you have any hesitation.