Who pays for the honeymoon?

I don't know if it's appropriate to ask, I'd wait and see if they offer and if not then take it as you'll need to fund it yourselves. Is FH's family as traditional as yours? What does your FH feel you should do? That should give you a basis about whether or not they'll be covering it.

I've never heard of the groom's family paying for the honeymoon. We are paying for the honeymoon ourselves. The groom's side is generously taking care of the rehearsal dinner.

FH's parents are divorced so not as traditional as mine, I guess you could say. We haven't talked about the honeymoon much in detail. I do agree with ya'll though. I definitely will not be asking anyone to pay for it!

Just ask if you really feel that they're on the same traditional page as you. "Are you guys also paying for our honeymoon?" If they aren't planning to and say no than just let it go and pay for it yourselves. What you were taught may not be traditional in their family(s) to the exact letter, so be prepared to let it go if they do say no. I'm kinda leaning towards it sounds like a no, since no one's brought it up yet if you already know who's paying for what for everything else. I'd just pay for it myself.

Don't ask. That would be really rude. We're doing most things very traditionally, but honeymoon we were gifted 2 timeshare weeks by my mom and we are paying for everything else ourselves...the whole "grooms family pays" is not really followed anymore. To ask would be putting them on the spot.

Maggie: If your and his parents are paying for everything, including the honeymoon - then you're one very lucky girl!

However, you should be forwarned: there are many brides here whose parents and/or other family members said they would "help" them and then not follow thru OR they pay, and you don't get any input about your own wedding.

I wish you the best of luck in your planning.

We got super lucky. My parents gave us a chunk of money that could be used as we wanted towards the house, a long vacation, the wedding it didnt matter the only requirement was my mom had to get a picture of us getting married (my dads ideas, he thought it would be funny to have a picture of us getting married by elvis in vegas lol) well we wanted the big wedding with all our family so thats what its going towards. and FHs parents wanted to do the rehersal dinner and bar. So we are paying for the honeymoon and anything over the original gift from my parents.

@Maggie...some of us are old and have been married before =)

It is true that a lot of tradition has been thrown out. So to the ones that are getting help with the wedding, yes, we are very lucky! And blessed! =)

My opinion...it is absolutely, positively not ok to ask. If they want to pay, they will offer. There is no way that I would ask anyone to pay for anything. Whoever offers, offers. Whatever isn't offered, is paid for by us.

Didn't hear about that tradition before but there is no way I would ever ask family to pay for my honeymoon! That just seems rude to me to ask or even expect it. FH and I never expected anything from our parents and planned to pay for everything on our own, the only reason my parents are paying for anything is because they offered to and would not take no for an answer.

Oh, I agree!! FH & I are so blessed to have our family give us the wedding I definitely won't be asking anyone to give us anything. Everything that is given to us has been their choice. (:

You pay for the honeymoon, unless someone gives it to you as a gift, which is probably unlikely.

I paid for the condo that my daughter and SIL stayed in, for a week, but that was because I wanted to (not that I was expected to.)

@Maggie, it is nice, if a family can pay for a wedding, but reality says that many parents of the Bride cannot, in this day and age. My ex and I did pay for our daughters wedding, but we set a realistic budget and I had many contacts that saved us a lot of money with the hotel (the ceremony and reception were at a hotel); the food and beverage (hotel); floral and such.

Its you and the groom until somebody offers.

Traditionally, the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon - I believe. But nowadays almost everyone pays for their own.

We paid for most of the wedding ourselves but both sets of parents chipped in some, which we were most appreciative of. My husband's family is muchhhh more traditional (and well to do) than mine, I had no idea about the groom's family traditionally paying for the honeymoon until they brought it up, lol. His folks paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave us money to put towards the honeymoon / wedding expenses.

I can't rely on FMIL to even give me the $200 she said she would give me to go towards my dress, or the $1,000 she said she was saving up for us for the wedding. I wouldn't even dare ask them to pay for our honeymoon (they do have the money) however, pigs would start to fly and cats & dogs would all get along before that EVER happened!

Our families don't have enough to pay for our wedding.

Funny enough, I just got a text from FH saying that our honeymoon is paid for!

I'm all weepy today when it comes to the wedding stuff.

And NO I am NAWT expecting.

@Futre Mrs. D - Oh wow! :/

@Miss Miranda - That's so awesome So happy for you!!

We are paying for the HM and any gift $ we get from the wedding will help us to have more fun