Who pays for the honeymoon?

Well now-a-days when it comes to weddings it seems traditions on paying are almost thrown out the window. We will be paying for the entire wedding ourselves. As far as the honeymoon...we would be in charge of that as well. If our budget doesn't allow for one we will continue saving and go on one a few months afterwards.

I just wouldnt expect anything from anyone except yourselves. Only take it if they offer.

You do, until someone else offers.

Hi Maggie - You'll find that many of the brides here are "non-traditional" in that way.

You'll see that most of us pay for everything ourselves, including the honeymoon.

In our parents or grandparent's days, couples married right out of high school and the families of both sides chipped in. It was the social norm. Nowadays, grooms and brides marry much later (20's, 30's) and have some kind of established career. Therefore, its very common for the bride & groom to pay for their own wedding and honeymoon.

But to answer your question, yes, "traditionally" the groom's parents are supposed to pay for the honeymoon.

What everyone else said ^. You should never assume or ask someone to pay for any part of it - if they offer, great, if not it's your bill.

We weren't going to have a honeymoon at all because with paying for the wedding we couldn't afford it, and our two best friends surprised us and told us they would pay for it. I am still shocked by it and definitely cried when I found out!

I think it should be up to the bride & groom to pay for it. FH's parents gave us $5k to use however we'd like, and if we don't need to put it toward other wedding/house expenses, we'll use that for our honeymoon, otherwise, we're funding that.

I agree, You do untill someone offers... Wish it was different!

We paid for our honeymoon with credit card hotel points (4 free nights at an all-inclusive) and frequent flier miles (my dad offered them to us to go anywhere in the world and then upgraded us to first class). I pay off my credit card every month but put ran all of my wedding expenses through it and charged grad school (my work reimburses me immediately). We only had to pay for 5 nights at a different hotel...well worth it and I would NEVER think of asking someone to help if they didn't offer.

As soon as we got engaged we set aside 2 honeymoon funds which we put loose change to help pay for little things that we want and the other we each put $5 a week to go towards it so we wouldn't have to struggle. He only gets 3 months off a year from work so we had to plan our wedding and honeymoon around it and wanted to enjoy it without the feeling of owing anyone.

Plan on paying for it unless someone graciously offers.

Not sure how far back that tradition goes, but my ex and I paid for our honeymoon in 1985 as did all of our friends (it was not a tradition that was practiced in at least our area back then)

Many of these "who pays" traditions were from the times when most women did not work and people got married right out of high school. Times have changed and the old finance-related traditions have in large part changed with it.

Now most couples are at least in a large part, paying their own way. A gracious gift or offer of support is wonderful - but don't count on it as tradition

Who paid for our wedding was a bit more traditional then most brides now a days. My parents paid for most of the wedding. My IL's paid for the rehearsal dinner, cake and few other small items. We are paying for our own honeymoon. We are using some money we received from our wedding towards it.

I've never heard of the groom's parents paying for the honeymoon, but most of that traditional 'who pays for what' stuff is out the window now.

I've never heard of the groom's family paying. But like everyone else said, I dont think you should ever ask someone to pay for anything. Start saving your money, and if someone offers to help that's great!

I've never heard of anyone paying for someones honeymoon unless it was a gift. We are paying for all but our hotels. Our friends have a timeshare that is transferable all over the world so they gave us that as a gift. Only reason we can afford to go to Hawaii!

We are paying for it right now and the entire rest of the wedding. If we were to end up with a nice check from someone to help pay for it at the wedding, that would be nice. But if not oh well, we are prepared to pay for it.

As many of the ladies above mentioned, a lot of couples now a days pay for their own wedding including the honeymoon.

For us…FH parents are paying the rehearsal dinner. They are also taking care of the boutonnieres for the men and FH attire for the wedding day. My parents (divorced) and me and FH are paying for the wedding together, we are each coming in at about 5k. FH and I are responsible for the honeymoon but because we live and own a home together we are opting to do a honeymoon registry instead of a traditional one. So instead of guests buying us a gift for our home they would contribute to our honeymoon fund.

I have only heard of Bride's family paying for wedding and Gromm's family paying for rehearsal dinner. IMHO, if you want a honeymoon, you should pay for it because it is a luxury. If it is accepted in your circle, you could always do a "honeyfund" but that is not an accepted practice in every area.

We were just going to go away for a few days, until my cousin said we could have her timeshare. It's a full week, and only 4 hours away. You can find affordable, or you can go all out, but either way it's up to you.

I didn't realize how many brides are paying for their wedding! FH & I are very blessed to have our parents pay for our wedding! We are a very traditional family and I was always taught that was the way it was supposed to go.

Traditionally the groom's family pays for the honeymoon, but lately, it's been the type of thing where the B&G pay for it themselves. I would say whichever family is putting the most $$$ towards the wedding and reception should not pay for the honeymoon