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Jayla
Champion October 2025

Which came first: sending your save-the-dates or asking your wedding party?

Jayla, on December 11, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 102

What did you check off of your planning checklist first? Was it sending out your save-the-dates, or officially asking your friends or family to be in the wedding party? Photo by Marina Rey Photography in Greensboro, NC Next Question: Which came first: deciding on your first dance song or your songs...

What did you check off of your planning checklist first? Was it sending out your save-the-dates, or officially asking your friends or family to be in the wedding party?

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Photo by Marina Rey Photography in Greensboro, NC


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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
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    That's awesome!!! Are you creating them yourself or ordering from a store?

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  • Kierra
    Just Said Yes May 2023
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    We haven’t decided yet
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  • Vanessa
    Expert September 2019
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    Wedding party
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  • Shay
    Expert August 2022
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    We asked our bridal party right out. We will send our STD in March-2019
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
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    Neither!!!! I’m not doing save the dates, since we plan to only have about 20 guests and we’re not having a bridal party. Less expensive and less drama.
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  • Kayla
    Dedicated October 2020
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    We haven't done either, I have a plan for bridesmaid proposals and and waiting to have to extra money to do those, our engagement session is in April and I want to use those pics for the std's
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  • Nyikee
    Expert February 2020
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    Wedding party was first, we have yet to send out STD's

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  • Michelle
    Just Said Yes June 2019
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    Asked the wedding party first.

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  • Riley
    Expert September 2020
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    Bridal party first
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  • maryann
    Expert June 2019
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    Asked my wedding party. I asked them between 2 weeks and a month. Save the dates just went out the beginning of this year

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  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
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    Asking the wedding party. We are not doing save the dates
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  • Christina
    Devoted February 2020
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    I asked my girls right away. The save the dates are in my mailbox! I'll be addressing and sending them this week. FH has been dragging his feet asking his guys.
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  • Jacque
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Posting our Save the Dates
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  • Ana
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Save the dates since we don't have a bridal party

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  • Kendra
    Devoted September 2019
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    I asked my wedding party within a month of being engaged and we didn’t send out save the dates.
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  • Karen
    Dedicated October 2023
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    It will be sending the invites because I don't have a wedding party
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  • Natalia
    Expert October 2020
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    Asking my wedding party. My MOH knew she would be my MOH anyway, but I have one person in mind for my bridesmaid so I am not too worried about that.

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  • Lydia
    Savvy September 2020
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    I asked my wedding party first. Still haven't sent out save the dates! LOL

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  • Amber
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Asking the wedding party we did save the dates shortly after
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  • Squeezy Bean
    Devoted June 2023
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    Not applicable, as we're having neither.
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