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Jayla
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Which came first: sending your save-the-dates or asking your wedding party?

Jayla, on December 11, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Planning 102

What did you check off of your planning checklist first? Was it sending out your save-the-dates, or officially asking your friends or family to be in the wedding party? Photo by Marina Rey Photography in Greensboro, NC Next Question: Which came first: deciding on your first dance song or your songs...

What did you check off of your planning checklist first? Was it sending out your save-the-dates, or officially asking your friends or family to be in the wedding party?

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Photo by Marina Rey Photography in Greensboro, NC


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  • ChefKait
    Devoted December 2019
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    Just finished asking my wedding party! STDs go out in about a month!

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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    Wedding party was set within a month of getting engaged (March this year) Save the Dates will go out in March for our November wedding.
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  • Lacy
    Super December 2018
    Lacy ·
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    We asked our wedding party first, I think.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    We never sent STD but we sent invites before I asked my cousin to be my MOH

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  • Shaunte
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    Shaunte ·
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    It'll be the wedding party since they all live out of state and need more notice than the in-state guests.

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  • Jayla
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    Lol!! Good thinking!!

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  • Jayla
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    Jayla ·
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    That's awesome!! How did you ask them?

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  • ChefKait
    Devoted December 2019
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    I made an ornament with pictures of us in it. Tried to keep with the Christmas-y theme!

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  • Brittany
    Super October 2019
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    I asked my wedding party first Smiley smile I plan to send out save the dates in February!

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  • Nicole
    Expert November 2018
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    We asked our friends and family to be in the wedding party first!

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Asking my wedding party. I talked to my sisters and cousin about it back when we first got engaged and I asked my friend a few months ago. I just sent my STDs at the end of November.

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  • OnCloudRawls
    VIP June 2019
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    I asked my wedding party first! I had to do a roll call lol

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  • Jayla
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    Jayla ·
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    Aww that sounds so cute!

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
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    We asked our wedding party before the save the dates were sent.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    Not doing save the dates, don't get the added expense, so asking the people to be in the bridal party

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  • Alisa
    Devoted October 2021
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    I asked my wedding party first and not sending out dave the dates until Jan/Feb 2019.
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    Asking our wedding party! It was so obvious who it as going to be, I was too excited to wait.

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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    We asked our wedding party a little over a month after getting engaged so we definitely did that first!
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated September 2019
    Brittany ·
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    Wedding party. I don’t think we will be sending save the dates; however, it’s a year out from the wedding and I already have my bridal party. Save the dates, if we do send them, would definitely go out a little closer to the wedding.
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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
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    Asking the wedding party. I haven’t sent the save the dates yet but that will be coming shortly!
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