What would be THE MOST RUDE/TACKY THING at a wedding?

Wristbands for VIPs comes to mind.

Not really tacky or rude. Most of you guys got those. But I hate super long ceremonies and weddings in general. Went to a good friend's wedding a few years ago. Insane long ceremony. Outdoors. Thankfully weather was good. Then at reception she had a mariachi band play just for her husband. We had to wait for dinner because of it. I had to leave right after dinner because of my baby sitter. Longest wedding ever. Having a long wedding is fine if you get the details out of the way and just spend the extra time partying.

Went to a wedding once where The groom got into a physical fight with a guest. Then there was a huge fight in the parking lot. SUPER tacky. Pick another day.

My FH and I went to a wedding where there was only water... I think they broke out some beer cans from the coolers later in the night, but we left pretty quick after dinner. The bride and groom also disappeared for an hour between the ceremony and reception. It was all at the same location, but there wasn't any food or drink available, not sure if that's considered a cocktail hour?

No food a a dinner time wedding for sure. One of my cousins got married years ago and the only food they had at the reception was little wing zings. They only had enough for everyone to have a few. This wedding was almost 10 years ago and I still remember leaving with some other family members to get fast food because we were hungry. People also still talk about how there was no food.

H also went to a wedding of a friend recently that had no food or alcohol. On a Friday at 6 pm. He left to go to taco bell and some of the groomsmen left to go buy beer to drink in the parking lot. No food and no alcohol definitely on the top of my list.

A guest wearing a white wedding dress.

Went to a wedding where there was a three-hour gap (both ceremony and reception were not held at a church).

During this gap, we got to sit around Starbucks for three hours in our nice outfits. The wedding party and some of the family got to go out to the bars for drinks and food. Because of this, the wedding party were totally trashed when they showed up for the reception, and the grooms brother was throwing up in the bushes shortly after the formalities were done.

When the pictures were posted of the people out at the bars during the gap, I was so pissed. So, I had to sit around and do nothing for three hours so you could hang out with just some of the guests? They got "cocktail hour" but we didn't?

(They also had their aunts self-cater and serve hot meat sandwiches and deli salads. It was not enough food, especially once they started running out, since we went towards the end. They also auctioned off being the first table in line for the food to raise money for the honeymoon.)

I think anything tiered is the rudest. Like providing cocktail hour to some people but not all, or alcohol to some but not all. It just sends a clear message that the way you're treating some guests wasn't good enough for the "important people", but you're not one of those important people so it's ok.

I was recently in a wedding where the DJ listed all of the bride & grooms deceased grandparents while saying "Stand up and wave to everyone if you're here!"

He was drunk.

He also relentlessly hit on the maid of honor- even repeatedly telling her 5 year old son "your mom is sooooo good looking!"

Barfffff.

Not the couples fault, although he was *super* cheap. You definitely get what you pay for when it comes to these things.

No seating and no food would really make me mad. Also a tiered reception but hopefully I would have figured that out beforehand and declined the invite.

I have been to a wedding that tried to play match maker to singles... It was horrible and so obvious.

I've never been to a dry wedding, but that'd be about the worst. Money dance is awkward but I'm not forced to participate

1.If someone proposed at my wedding without my knowledge before hand.

2. Long wait between ceremony and reception if there is no food

3. Cash bar

Wing dings

ok, just kidding.

Cash bars are a huge turn off for me.

I'm amazed this hasn't really been posted, but my worst is outdoor wedding in unseasonable weather. Unless you make your wedding casual (as in you can wear a swimsuit or jeans, not casual as in a sundress and khakis), I don't get combine extreme hot or cold temps with formal wear. I passed out as a BM in my cousin's wedding because it was outside on a beach, staring into sun and hot as hell with no breeze. No water, no shade, and the reception was outdoors too. How is this comfortable to you or guests? Take it indoors with a view of the beach, or greenscreen the ocean in. Or have it in winter on the beach when it's in the 70s. Just anything but that...

Actually was at DHs friends wedding two years ago in December. Mass was for 12.30 on a Saturday in the main cathedral in the city.I finished teaching 12, luckily I was only up the road so, went to work all dress up (got a few funny looks from parents that day!) and ran out the door after classes finished. I had organised for one of the other teachers to tidy up after my classes as it normally takes half hour. DH and I got to the Cathedral for 12.20 ran in the door. It was a very wet stormy day and sounded like the roof was going to lift off. The church was freezing!! Anyway after rushing to get there the bride arrived and hour late at 1.30. We were frozen sitting there!!! I know church weddings normally run late, but that was OTT!!

@maria- why wasn't the church heated?

Running out of food. After waiting for about an hour to be at the end of a 400 person buffet line, they ran out of most of their food and I was SO pissed. I don't think I hid it very well either. They had us waiting there standing for like 10 minutes so they could get some extra meat and I definitely had the bitch face going. I mean, we did get a little bit of food, but still.

I didn't go to this wedding, but one of my ex co workers had a go fund me for his extravagant $10,000 wedding, and let me just say that it was $10k for 250 people if i'm not mistaken.. :/

On top of that, it was dry; and they did not serve a full dinner but instead had a salad bar and fruit/veggie trays.

I saw videos of him and his wife singing up the aisle/to each other when she got there. I laughed.

But after that they went on a crazy expensive 2 week honeymoon to Disney and a cruise.

They thanked everyone who donated towards their wedding and honeymoon.... ewwwwwww.

@fallinthegarden I recently experienced something similar - 3 hour gap between church ceremony and reception, no cocktail hour, AND the birdal party was almost an hour late (so 4 hours before dinner and party started). Social media showed they had been at a bar and cruising around in their party bus.

@Miranda

Extravagant AND $10,000 ? TACKY TACKY TACKY!. lol

ETA - I would rather go to the wing ding pool party wedding. I can not even imagine what a 10k 250 people wedding would be. lmao