What would be THE MOST RUDE/TACKY THING at a wedding?

This hasn't happened to me, but not bringing my FH as a wedding date. I would not attend the wedding.

It would be pretty rude to have assigned seating where the hosts purposely sat incompatible people next to each other

As someone with a leg disease who needs to sit after a certain amount of time definitely no seating lol plus dollar dance just seems weird to me

That's a hard one! I guess I would have to say tiered reception. To invite everyone to the ceremony and only the "VIPs" to the reception or vice versa is awful. No one should feel like they're a second-class guest

Cash bars. Dollar dances. Honey funds.

Open seating isnt rude or tacky, done properly it's okay. but to me if you have a large wedding and you don't have assigned tables I'll probably side eye you, because it only takes a few hours of your time.

Why are cash bars considered tacky? And why are honeymoon funds?

@Krysta, I'm not saying they are the MOST rude/tacky thing, but some people consider them to be. In general, it is considered rude and tacky to ask your guests to pay for anything since you are hosting them. It is part of good hosting, like you wouldn't ask guests to pay for a dinner you were having at your house, or to have a drink at your house at a party you were hosting. You wedding is probably the biggest party you will host and needs to be hosted graciously.

None of the above bother me but no food just cake and punch is a is a deal breaker for sure

@Nas, yikes, that would probably be my rudest too. Luckily I haven't experienced that.

@krysta anything that asks for your GUESTS to pull out their wallets at your event is considered tacky. Having a beer and wine and champagne wedding with the option for guests to buy a drink at a bar is okay. But a dry wedding with a cash bar is not ideal.

As far as honeyfunds, if you can't afford the honeymoon you want you shouldn't ask your guests to. If you want money, have a smaller registry but don't flat out have a honey fund. Why would you WANT your guests to donate to a honeyfund website that takes a percentage out of the gift and and keeps it?

BYOB.

I guess I wouldn't actually call out much as tacky, but I do think the garter toss is. I know it's traditional, but it's just odd. Treating guests differently (beyond special things done for parents or grandparents) would be tacky. I have mentioned it before, but at my brother's wedding they had a cash bar that I didn't mind until I realized the bride's father picked up the tab only for her side of the family. Super tacky. And I am still bitter about that even though they got divorced a few years later. I think it's rude not to provide adequate food for vegetarians and such. You may not be able to accommodate every food allergy/preference imaginable, but you should make sure that if people don't eat pork, they can have a full meal.

Yikes @AQB that sounds horrible! Cash bars are not my favorite, but that is 100% better than half the family has to pay and the other half doesn't. Really defeats the whole idea of becoming a family, doesn't it...

Mostly in my opinion my family has a very bad alcohol problem so i think cash bar is the only option lol. Besides alcohol isn't something people should except in my opinion. But I could see where you are coming from too.

Cash bar. No shuttle if ceremony to reception sites are further than 10mins apart. Longer Cocktail Hours than 1.5 hours, especially if there's no food. Being asked to attend the Morning-After Brunch, then realize, after eating, that you're supposed to pay for yourself when the bill comes around.

We just attended a wedding this past Sunday that was just an absolute nightmare, cash bar, dollar dance, who gets the cake money jar, and a QR code on their gift box that took you to paypal if you wanted to PayPal them money.

The cherry on top was on Monday when she made a Facebook post, tagging and "shaming" last minute no-shows, pictures of all of the gifts stacked, and a line saying that after the money they got and the cost of the wedding they made a profit...like what? I told my DH I couldn't be friends with her anymore. *eye roll*

That's the end of our couple dates....

Cash bars, honeymoon fund, and no actual meal at mealtimes

@MrsBdeG agreed. That's hellacious.

@mrsbdeg omg!!!!! That is the taxkiest I jave ever heard

Yup!!!

This was one of the many fellow brides giving me "advice" when I was planning. Since we bought bulk alcohol she told me to do a cash bar and charge $12-$15 per drink and $6-$8 per shot to "make up" our cost. hahahahahahahahaha nope. no. never.