What would be THE MOST RUDE/TACKY THING at a wedding?

@Rachel .. yep, lol. My parents left the reception after dinner because they didn't want to have to pay for beer.

Whaaaaa? What's the logic/rationale? They know tattoos aren't contagious, right?

I love this thread! Mrs. BdeG that's probably the rudest thing I've ever heard, I cannot believe someone would actually brag on social media about making money at the wedding lol.

I once saw a guest propose to one of the bridesmaids... Totally stole the show. Everyone was talking to her asking to see the ring after that. Totally ignoring the bride and groom. They were so pissed.. I think that's the tackiest thing you could do at a wedding is propose and steal their special day...

I was watching an episode of "don't tell the bride" ( where the groom is given €10,000 to plan the wedding in three weeks and the bride has no input, he even picks out her dress) anyway I know this one isn't a big no no in the US but it really is here ( as bad as how you look at cash bars, tiered weddings etc) anyway the groom spent loads buying fancy suits for him and his two groomsmen about €400 each!!! As a result of that and other stupid things, he blew the budget. He then turned around and asked the bridesmaids to buy thier own dresses! I nearly fell off the chair watching!! What was worse they did as they had no choice. Here it is so so rude to ask the bridal party to put thier hands in thier pockets for anything!! To spend that much on his friends and none on hers, it only costs €120 to rent a suit if you can't/ don't want to buy one! (most people do rent the wedding suits here)

‘Here it is so so rude to ask the bridal party to put thier hands in thier pockets for anything’

That’s interesting. So in Ireland it is rude to have the bm’s pay for their own dresses? And yet it’s generally ok to have cash bars in Ireland?I know what I would consider less rude, as a bm I’d much rather pay for my own dress that I could keep and wear again than pay for myself and my partner’s drinks all night at another person’s wedding.

Rudest thing I’ve encountered is being invited to the bridal shower and not the actual wedding, then having to field questions about, ‘where are you staying for the wedding? ‘ & ‘how are you getting to the wedding?’ From other guests. It’s just so rude.

FH and I went to a wedding once, we had to park and walk a MILE to the ceremony and reception. There was supposed to be a shuttle driver but it was this small little van with no clear schedule, or where to meet him. so we didn't see him driving at all on our walk up. There wasn't enough seating during there ceremony. I'm pretty sure the food was a "friendor" and her family was the people setting up cocktail hr. There was an open bar though... but no bar tender. Self serve, Just kegs and tons of hard liquor. People were stumbling around drunk by 8pm and I'm damn sure there was underage drinking. FH didn't get why I was upset. We left at 8pm and tracked down the driver to the shuttle, turns out his son who just got his license was driving earlier and decided he didn't want to do it anymore. The shuttle driver ended up using the grooms car to drive us back down to our vehicle. It wasn't a hired service either. The thing that confuses me though is all of this was happening on a venues property. A good venue, I had actually looked into having our wedding there.

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@Natalie pretty much yep you've nailed it!! Here there bridal party should not put thier hands in thier pockets for anything except for what they would spend on a normal evening out. Being honest though most weddings that are properly hosted do provide ALOT of free drinks. During the drinks reception there is usually tea, coffee, prosecco, punch and often craft beers or whiskey for free. That lasts for about two hours untill dinner. ( there would be food circulating ) the bar would open if people want anything else. Most go for the free drinks. At dinner there is always a lot of wine, or soft drinks and often a toast drink for everyone, that is generally a round of whatever you want. That normally brings you up to the afters at about 9pm by which point people are well oiled and then buy there own. That can go onto the wee hours. No where have open bars for any occasion here. It is far far too expensive. Bare in mind one round of toast drinks for an average wedding of 150 people would cost about $1000, if everyone one was to have 10 drinks over the day (which is conservative from 3pm drinks reception to 3am,can go on later) that would be over $10,000 before anything else is paid for!! My friend had a DW in Malta, about 100 people went over. There they included an open bar in the package. They stocked the bar as they're would normally do. The bar ran out of everything half way through the night! The venue hadn't seen it before. They were warned, but didn't take it seriously when they were told that a serious amount of drink is consumed at an irish wedding. I know it all sounds crazy.

I hate cash bars, but I think dry weddings are 100x worse. I would at least like the option. If I had no option to drink, I would likely only attend the ceremony or not go at all.

Serving only appetizers and not allowing people to bring a significant other

I actually think I’d rather go to a cash bar wedding than have someone give me drink “tickets.” It feels like they’re telling me how much I’m allowed to drink.

Not enough seating at a wedding was the rudest thing I've ever seen at a wedding. UO cash bars don't bother me in the least. We are providing beer, wine, and two signature drinks, but this was the first year I've attended an open bar wedding. Before WW that was a foreign concept to me.

Cash bar! Attended my first and only cash bar wedding this year and we left early. I truly don't understand the concept of inviting people to dinner but telling them to pay for their own drinks.

I went to a wedding my FH was a groomsman in. It was open seating and there was not enough seats, I had to sit in a chair against the back wall next to a bunch of other people. Not to mention I didn't even get any food because the caterer ran out! The worst wedding I've ever been to! I'm using that wedding as an example of what NOT to do.

Not inviting significant others. Small ceremony and then inviting everyone you've ever met to the reception.

I think not inviting significant others. None of these things actually bother me. Partial cash bars are common where I live, I usually give cash either way so if they want cash go for it, and I just don't participate in dollar dances and such. The no seating or food I have never encountered, but those would suck and make me leave shortly.

No food, cash bar. Ugh THE WORST.

When I married the first time my then future father in law wanted to disperse drink tickets. I was like oh hell to the no, I said my mom would pay for open bar but hey thanks for treating our wedding like a carnival act. (This was 1994 if that matters.)

I find dollar dances to be rude. Any begging for money is rude and tasteless. My dear friends (who are in their 70's) went a wedding where the bridal party went on one of those party peddler things, where you peddle around and drink. Fine but they did it right after the wedding, left all their guests waiting with limited seating, no food and drink. For an hour.

It may not be directly rude but I find super long ceremonies to be......aggravating. Not talking about a Mass or similiar, but three songs, four readings, two unity ceremonies.....yeah we get it. You love each other.

@nas that is tacky. Holy cow. I would tell my DJ to shut it. Lol