What would be THE MOST RUDE/TACKY THING at a wedding?

Back in the day where the bridesmaids sat at the table with the bride and groom and their dates sat alone!

Rude=Not seating people with their dates. Not providing a ton of food.

I went to a wedding that was BYOB, and nobody knew besides the family and parties, so only some people had alcohol. The food was not catered, it was made by the parents. The desserts were also made by another family member. They had a honey fund jar. And they would constantly abandon us all to go take family pictures and go on smoke breaks with nothing to do.

When guests wear a super revealing/clubbing type dress.

Cash bars. dollar dance. honeyfunds.

tacky x****

@Allison - omg I agree!! If you are going to a wedding, please look like you could be in a church. No one wants to see your downtown or cleavage. Dress right, please.

It is also rude (and kinda sad) when a wedding appears to be thrown together in a weekend when they have been engaged for months.

Combination of things I've experienced recently, all with the same bride:

1. Old friend posted pictures of her Save the Dates on FB. After a month or so, I didn't get one and realized I wasn't invited. No big deal, and I didn't even think about it UNTIL...

2. I got an invitation to the wedding 3 weeks ago. The wedding was in 3 weeks from the time I received it, and I'd need to book a cross-country flight. I've heard of B-listing people, but aren't you not supposed to make it obvious? And one more thing...

3. The invitation was to "[My name] and Guest". Guest???? I've been dating my FH for years. We've been engaged for months (certainly long before she mailed the invitation). She knows him, we all grew up together. She didn't even take 2 minutes to go on FB and look up his name.

Sent a quick decline and threw the invite in the trash.

My biggest things annoyances (wouldn't necessarily call them tacky) would be an excessively long cocktail hour (2 hours +) without adequate seating (most of my friends go to starbucks or in n out during cocktail hour anways) and not being served food until 9 or 10 pm. If there are plenty of appetizers, I'm good but I don't want to sit through speeches while I'm hungry. I really dont have much experience with lots of the other things people are listing with the exception of cash bar but those are common in my community.

When the bride and groom don't even say hi to the guests! Like at least come by their table or do a receiving line or something! My parents went to an OOT wedding on memorial weekend last year and there was only 60 people and the B and G didn't even say HI to my parents after they drove 13 hrs, stayed in a hotel just to go to their stupid wedding where they cared more about pictures all night than guests! The girls pictures got in a magazine though, so I guess it was worth it to her.... they also sent generic typed post cards my parents were so pissed.

Also when weddings have a "cake reception" for less close friends to give them money and a regular reception for everyone else, aka give me more money but I can't fully host you like I did everyone else.

Well my ex-MIL had the balls to say "well I don't really KNOW Sam (me)" during her toast. my mom wasn't too thrilled about that and definitely shared a few words with her.

We need a better word than “tacky.” Tacky and rude don’t mean the same thing. Rude is probably more appropriate. I’d say not feeding your guests and just dessert. But a rude thing would be asking your guests for money (dollar dance, like gift must be x&dollar most people don’t do this. That said- I’m not offended by honeyfunds. They don’t offend me.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think that’s rude. I feel if the guest chooses to be a vegetarian or vegan, it is their job to notify the hosts. And if I was the host- I would ask my caterer if they could provide a meal for them. I don’t think however it is the hosts job to ask everyone what it is they prefer.

It is so rude to wear white to someone else’s wedding. It is also so rude for a cash bar. I hate cash bars. And registries. I know they’re common but I think they are sooo rude like the pp about the garter toss.

The worst is the gap. The Catholic Gap. Where your ceremony is at 10 and your reception is at 6. That is way too long of a day. Also not providing free alcohol to your guests.