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Wedding Party Proposals: Overrated or Underrated?

Lynnie, on June 18, 2019 at 11:27 AM Posted in Parties and Events 2 146

Has asking your friends and family to be in the wedding party become too much of a production? Or are you all-in on the elaborate asking?

Are wedding party proposals overrated or underrated?

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Latest activity by Michelle, on May 1, 2021 at 3:34 PM
  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
    Victoria ·
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    Overrated and an unnecessary expense. They also put pressure on who you are asking to say yes, even if they're unsure they can do it. I'm a fan of a simple meet up or even call if the person is far away. It's just as special.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Overrated. They're so extra and unnecessary. Just ask your friends to be in your wedding. It's literally free.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Overrated, the boxes are unnecessary. I sent cards to my girls in the wedding party; but they were fairly inexpensive.

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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    Overrated and getting super over the top. With that said, I still think they're super cute and love the idea of them if you have room in your budget for it.

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  • Leah
    Dedicated September 2019
    Leah ·
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    Overrated! I hate getting a box of random crap. If you want to do a nice gesture for your bridal party, pay for some or all of their outfits or hair/makeup. Something useful rather than you spending money to thank them and then spending money to be in their wedding. Then everyone wins and saves.
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  • Brae
    VIP September 2019
    Brae ·
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    I think they're starting to get wayy too over the top, so I'm saying overrated, even though I did I small box lol
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    Way overrated!! I think they are unnecessary, and expensive, and kind of weird. Also, as someone else already mentioned, I think it can put unnecessary pressure on the receiver to accept the proposal, because of the box of random stuff you just gave her. It's become such a big production too, and I don't like it.

    I think a better thing to do for the ones you want to stand with you is to pay for their dress, or shoes, or getting their hair and makeup done for the wedding. That's what I'm trying to do for my girls.

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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    Overrated for sure!

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  • Kelsay
    Beginner April 2021
    Kelsay ·
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    I won’t be doing this, definitely an unnecessary expense. If I had a limitless budget I definitely would but I think my bridesmaids will be just fine with out it (lol)
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  • Sherraine
    Dedicated October 2022
    Sherraine ·
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    Underrated. I feel like people don't show their wedding party enough appreciation. Plus its a great way to knock out giving a wedding party gift later
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  • Dedicated September 2024
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    Overrated. Just a simple, hey will you be my bridesmaid/groomsmen is all that's needed.
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  • Kelli
    Dedicated September 2021
    Kelli ·
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    Mine already knew what they were gonna do so I didnt have to do the whole proposal thing. Personally, I think it's weird.
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
    Lizbeth ·
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    I believe it is depending on the type of bride you are but for me... That I have no BP... Overrated
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  • Betty
    Dedicated August 2020
    Betty ·
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    In the age of social media it has become a huge to do. I think it is overrated.

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  • Brandeana
    Savvy March 2020
    Brandeana ·
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    A bit overrated but I'm doing them. I don't have a limitless budget and I'm sure they would be okay without them, but my bridesmaids are a mix of three girls from different places and different times in my life and I wanted to show them my appreciation.

    I'm also not planning a bachelorette party or bridal our wedding shower or anything like that as we're all spread out so I figured they'd be cute.
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  • Alisha
    Super April 2021
    Alisha ·
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    Probably overrated because I asked my bridesmaids in person or I called them to be in my wedding. I tried to keep it simple.
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  • Ellie
    Devoted January 2020
    Ellie ·
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    It's definitely cute but overrated. With all the expense that goes into wedding planning and preparation plus the fact that most bridemaids already get a gift it's just not necessary to me.

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  • Tabitha
    Dedicated November 2019
    Tabitha ·
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    I love this. Bridal parties do a lot for the couple so to give them a special proposal is nice.
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  • Janieva
    Dedicated November 2021
    Janieva ·
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    Overrated, I did send my bridal party a champagne shoot with their names on them to ask, but they knew they were being asked and had agreed. So the glass was a gift for saying yes.

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  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
    CourtneyBrittain ·
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    Overrated, but understood. I asked my girls with a lotion and a mug, but I think it's an unnecessary expense sometimes.

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