wearing white to a wedding when you're not the bride

Yes I am! I would definitely hit around about not wearing white! Unless you have a friend that is not afraid to be like um your not wearing that! then have her do it lol I personally would tell them that if they wear white I will rip their dress off and burn it....

I would tell them not to wear it. That's super annoying

No that is a well known rule. NO white unless you are the bride. my mom thinks im silly for enforcing this rule too but i dont care. I will be the only one in white.

It's what you want. Personally, I'm a little non-traditional so it doesn't bother me too much, but, if it bothers you, I would say something. Just tell them, you really want to stick to tradition and you don't feel comfortable with anyone else wearing white. I'm sure they'll understand.

Umm NO! Your the bride! Your the only one to wear white on your wedding day!

^^Agreed!

That's ridiculous! Everyone knows you don't wear any shade of white (or bright red). Unless the bride puts you in that color because you are in the bridal party.

Sheesh. What is wrong with ppl?

My moms best friend who was also our DOC came into town for the wedding. She was staying at my parents house and the day of the rehersal she told me to come check out her dress for the wedding. It was white, well more creamy white.

Everyone else made a big stink about it but it wasn't a huge deal to me. I wasn't going to stress over it but I think I was pretty laid back about the whole wedding itself.

I personally would never wear white to someone elses wedding. Ask them to pick a different dress, they should understand.

It's common sense not to wear white. How ridiculous. I probably wouldn't mind, they are the one's that look like A-holes..did they buy the dress specifically to wear to the wedding? this just boggles my mind. Hopefully they have a colored sweater or scarf or something. eesh.

It may be pretty awkward to call them back after the fact..but if it keeps bothering you and you can't let it go, then I'd let them know.

If it bothers you...let them know. It doesn't matter to me...but my wedding is way laid back.

Oh I would DEFINITELY TELL THEM LOL. I am a pretty direct person. I already made it know no white at my wedding. Besides we are getting married in november. No one should be wearing white anyways LOL....of course except ME

Yeah, I think you should tell them...if it bothers you that much you should address it.

Good luck.

Thatsssssssswhatimsaying! I'm so so thrown by the entire thing. I am trying to let it go because at the end of the day-unless they show up in a damn white ball gown, it's not like they are going to steal the show. It's just common sense.

Why is this happening so much lately?! Ther ehave been like 10 posts the past day about this! Was there some sort of report released saying that this is ok?!

Ugh, call them back and tell them no. The only time it is ok to wear white to a wedding is a) you're the bride! b)the couple announces they want you to wear white c) (and this is my opinion) if the dress is not an obvious white dress, ie, has a print or maybe white top with black skirt sort of thing.

Stand your ground. If you want further proof why, look at this poor bride who is still upset over it... https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/ruined-photographs/834ec98105e9709f.html

I don't get people. i wouldn't say anything to them...like at all. at the wedding as well. they would get the blankest look from me. people need to do better for real.

The nerve of some people.....I haven't had anyone come to me with this, but some of these people may not even be aware that this is unacceptable....which sucks!

Passive aggressive response -

Oh, I'm glad you're able to wear a white dress. Other than bridal gowns, white dresses always seem to make women look like fat cows. I guess that's why black is so popular. It's so much more slimming.

My Mom wore a bright-ish red dress to my wedding and MIL wore all black.

That said, what if the bride is wearing blush (which seems very popular lately) or some other color?? Then what are the "rules". No one can wear any shade of pink? Would a white dress be "acceptable" then .. ??

PS .. I use the terms rules and acceptable loose-ly.

One of my BIGGEST PET PEEVES!!! FH jokes around all the time about what I would do to someone if they show up in white at my wedding...he knows how much I hate it! lol

See this thread:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/ruined-photographs/834ec98105e9709f.html

Stand up for yourself!