wearing white to a wedding when you're not the bride

I went to a wedding where the bride wore a red dress which made it perfectly acceptable for another girl to wear white (which did happen). Bride was not offended

A friend of ours showed up wearing an ivory dress with a black belt and I honestly didn't give a crap. I thought I would care if someone showed up wearing white, but really it was like whatever to me when I actually saw someone did. It's not like anyone is gonna mistake them for the bride.

There are three ironclad rules to wedding-wear, and you shouldn't be afraid to tell someone about them if they're clueless.

1. Don't wear white.

2. Don't wear black (unless it's a black tie/black-and-white wedding).

3. Don't look slutty. ("Don't wear red" usually falls under here, 'cause red's stereotypically a whoreish, attention-grabbing color.)

My fiance's mother showed me the dress today that my soon-to-be sister-in-law is going to be wearing to my wedding, and it's white. She is a woman who professed already that she has no interest in getting to know me, and is generally a trouble-starter in their family.

I was completely offended, considering I feel it was done on purpose (couldn't let me have at least ONE day that wasn't about her).

I have been SO laid back through this whole process.... But this totally upset me.

Have more balls than I do... And tell your guests not to wear white.

WELL FOR EVERYONE WHO THINKS IT "KNOWN " NOT TO WHERE WHITE TO A WEDDING . NOT EVERYONE KNOWS . SOME OF US WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN TO A WEDDING WON'T KNOW UNTIL YOU GET THERE AND EVERY ONE ELSE IS BEING A COMPLETE ASS ABOUT IT . HOW CHILDISH . WE'LL HM AND THEN IF YOU THINK YOU ARE SOO SPECIAL . BUT U HAVE YOUR BRIDESMAIDS WEARING THE SAME COLORS OR SIMILAR . ON TOP OF THAT YOU ARE 2 BUSY WORRYING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE IN WHITE . YOU PROBABLY BEEN TO SOO MANY WEDDINGS BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE BEST FRIEND THAT SLEEPS WITH EVERY 1 SHE TOUCH . YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR BRIDESMAIDS BECAUSE YOU WILL SOON FIND OUT EVERY 1 WAS TALKING ABOUT YOU AT YOUR OWN WEDDING BECAUSE YOUR "BIG DAY " WAS YOUR HEY . EVERY 1 KNOWS THAT YOUR BRIDESMAIDS FUCKED YOUR GUY . EVERY BODY KNOWS BUY YOU . YOUR DAY IS NOT SOO BIG IS IT . BUT TO THE POINT . SERIOUSLY NOT EVERYBODY KNOWS . SOO UNTIL YOU FIND THIS "RULE BOOK" THAT TELLS PEOPLE WHAT TO WEAR AND HOW TO WEAR IT AND WHEN TO WEAR IT SHUT YOUR FUCKING MOUTH IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCKING IS GOING ON . BECAUSE THE LAST TIME I CHECKED I LIVED IN AMERICA . N IT'S A FREE COUNTRY . N IF THE "BRIDE" DOESN'T WANT ANY 1 ELSE TO WHERE WHITE . SHE SHOULD LET THEM KNOW ON THE INVITATION . AND IF SHE WANTS CERTAIN COLORS SPECIFY . NOT THAT SHOULD BE "KNOWN" . NOO 1 IS A MIND READER . WASN'T MEANING TO OFFEND ANY 1 . JUST TELLING THE TRUTH AND NOT EVERYONE KNOWS . BECAUSE ME MYSELF HAS NEVER BEEN TO A WEDDING . SOO IT HURTFUL WHEN YOU SAY IT SHOULD BE "KNOWN" .

AND FOR THE LADY OR "WOMAN" AS YOU WOULD CALL YOURSELF . WHY WOULD YOU GET YOUR 4 YEAR OLD TO WIPE HIS HANDS ON SOME 1 ELSE DRESS . THAT'S CHILDISH . IF IT'S YOUR DAY WHY CARE WHAT SOME ONE ELSE IS WEARING . AS LONG AS YOU SAY I DO THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS . AS LONG IT'S NOT AN EX WIFE OR SOMETHING . WHAT EVER . BUT IF IT IS LET HER KNOW "I GOT A RING ON IT" . BUT SERIOUSLY EVERYONE IS GROWN . SOO IF I DON'T LIKE IT ,I WON'T MAKE A SCENE . BUT I WOULD JUST PULL YOU TO THE SIDE AND TALK TO YOU ONE ON ONE AND LET YOU KNOW IT HURT ME . I WON'T HATE YOU BECAUSE I WAS ALWAYS TOLD TO LOVE EVERYONE . BUT I WOULD DEFINITELY LET YOU .

If for some reason they have been in a fallout shelter and never heard of that golden rule, Then I would DEFINITELY say something. It's kind of like telling someone they have spinach in their teeth. It's uncomfortable, but they will appreciate it in the end. Educate them!