wearing white to a wedding when you're not the bride

The only color I have against anyone wearing is white, only because typically brides wear white or Ivory, but Trisha S. has a point, what happens when people start wearing other colors for their wedding?

And in the end, it's not like they bought bridal gowns to wear.

I think the one single person who should not wear white is the grooms mother. Period she should never wear white. All the others I don't really care they will probably not be in pictures and if its a spring/summer wedding that color is very popular now. I did make my step mom change her dress because she picked out something the exact same color as my bridesmaids. Well my wedding was a little over a month ago and who shows up in white, my MIL. My bridesmaids and I were floored when we saw her.

I just replied in another post about not being traditional when it comes to wedding etiquette but I guess that is not 100% true because when it comes to wearing white or ivory except those in the wedding party (i.e. FGs) to my wedding...ummm HECK NO! I wouldn't wear white or ivory to someone else's wedding and I certainly don't expect to see that at my wedding.

I would be kinda annoyed... but... then again it depends.... Like I kind of agree with Trisha on this.. What if the bride is wearing a blush dress (which I will be).. Traditions have really changed. But... in this case if it does bother you.. Speak up, its your day you dont deserve to be annoyed over a dress!

I went to a wedding last summer and the grooms brothers gf showed up in a tight (and I mean tight!) white dress.. so tight her thong was soo noticeable! I was like OMG!!! Now, that was rude!! I mean show some respect for your bfs family!! The bride still remembers that.. And is not happy at ALL about it. So, I think you should just let her know how you really feel =)

@ GypsyBride, I wear a little black dress to pretty much every wedding. More than half of our guests wore black. I guess some people might find it offensive, but not our families/friends.

I wore a noticeably off-white dress so I didn't mind that some of our guests wore white (dressy white blouses with non-white skirts/slacks or white dresses with a pattern). It wasn't any different in my mind to men wearing white shirts. Granted no one wore all white. If you're close to them I would say something.

If they have the balls enough to wear it at my wedding, I will have the balls enough to say something. We won't fault you if you don't take the high road.

My FMIL is wearing ivory. She asked me what color I was wearing first so we didn't match. I do have to say she will look great in it. That being said... I think I would just feel a mixture of flattered and pissed off if another girl wore white at my wedding.

As if! I'm not understanding this new "wearing white" to someone else wedding. Not unless it's a Winter White Theme & you are requested to wear white, it is totally not acceptable. I get don't get it, what are they thinking?

Obviously a big topic for us brides. But as some others have pointed out, as long as they are not wearing a wedding dress then try to let it go. They shouldn't be wearing white, but you will still have your happy day. And it is YOUR day! Everyone there knows that!!! All eyes will be on you and if anyone even notices them it will be because they can't believe these ladies would be so rude as to wear white. Try to find your happy places right now and, if you can, just remember they will look the fools.

Yep! My FMIL just picked an off-white dress for our beach wedding. I dont understand why any person would think that is acceptable. It infuriates me. My fiance and I did express to her that we would not prefer her to wear the dress she chose. My advice, speak up! This is YOUR day. You are the only one who should be wearing white, unless you give permission for your guests to wear it.

There was one girl at my friend's wedding. It was seriously a really short white skater dress and you could see her bra through it. Like this one:

Thought it was completely inappropriate. They had a church ceremony.

I think it will bug me if someone does that to me, simply because I'm putting the girls in white. My girls and I WILL be the only ones in white; I don't need some random chick showing up and getting confused as a bridesmaid! >.<

Personally accent wise, I see nothing wrong with it. Like a cover up, or if their dress had just a SMALL portion of white, w/e. ALL WHITE though, no no no! I just joined and I can't believe the amount of posts there are about other females wearing ALL white to another's wedding! What are people being taught these days. I'm not a huge stick to the book traditional person, but that's one rule that is a "you should know, and shouldn't have to be told"

I also don't care about accents on a printed dress, or as an accessory. That's totally reasonable, understandable, and "done."

I have to wonder, however, if those of you who are getting the "I found the dress for your wedding" people are only seeing white dresses, and not other colors? Like, is everyone going on about the dress they got, regardless of color, or are the ones who got white dresses going out of their way to be asinine and obvious about it?

I don't know about you guys, but when I was growing up and going to about 6 weddings every season, literally, I didn't buy a new dress for each one. I'd roll out of bed, walk over to my closet, and see what (not white) dress I felt like wearing that day... but maybe that's just me. Heck, I kind of still do that, but now it's with more expensive dresses, lol!

No no no. It is completely inappropriate to wear white! Tell them you would rather they not wear white. Say its supposed to be for the bride. Say "I love the dress but I think my family would find you inappropriate its considered really rude to wear white if you are not the bride. Lets get dolled up and go out and you can wear it then. Just not to the wedding please."

It's a known rule, but since I'm not wearing white to my wedding, I don't care if my guests do. I'm so "eh" on the whole thing. There are things I care about, but that's not one of them. I would not wear white to someone's wedding though. Ugh.

They probably have no idea though.

Wow, is that true? i just ordered a white dress for my friend's wedding. but there is a waistband around it. is it appropriate? this is the dress

http://dress.cm/0T1mGM

I honestly would not care... To me it's clothes... As long as the dress is presentable so be it... I really don't care. If someone showed up in a wedding dress I might be a little more like uh that's weird. But other than that, I really could care less. Just look nice wear whatever color you want.

@Belindda--unless the bride specifies and says "please wear white/ivory" or they tell you they will not be wearing white...it's usually taboo to wear it. Some brides truly don't care and some really do so I always steer clear. If I were you, I would not wear that dress but your friend may be totally different and not mind.

Soooo....I must be out of touch or something??? I didn't know it was such a big deal for someone not to wear white to a wedding. I've never worn white to a wedding (that I can remember), but regardless, I wouldn't care so much. If someone wears white to mine, so be it. I don't think the photographer or videographer, the officiant, or the groom would mistake them for the bride. But if it bothers you that much, maybe you should kindly ask them to select a different color dress.

I'd rather a guest not wear white, but if they do, that's okay. I'll just tell my 5 year old ring bearer to go wipe his hands on their dress. :-)