wearing white to a wedding when you're not the bride

I don't understand why women would ever think this is acceptable. I'm always so cautious as to not only not wear white, but to not dress like I'm begging for attention! I would say, "Wow, that's a beautiful dress, you should definitely buy it, but if you wear white to my wedding I will cut you"

Crystal, I've heard not to wear bright red because you will stand out in pictures. I've heard no shades of white, no red and no black. I think that is general ettiquete, but things have changed a lot over the years. Nowadays you see lots of brides putting their bridal party in black or champagne or red.

The important thing is to not overshadow the bride. You want to blend in as a guest, not draw attention to yourself.

I would wear a tent-like Hawaiian Mu Mu before I wore a white/ivory/beige/anything considered white dress to someone's wedding!

I didn't know you weren't suppose to wear red...I wore a cute red dress to a wedding last summer and no one said anything to me....oopsss...

I don't see why people think it acceptable.

I personally wouldn't give a poo though.

I think I'd care just because I'd feel like they're being mean/rude. It's a generally known that it's a reserved color. They should know better. I'd tell that you've thought it over and didn't want to seem mean at the time, but it really does bother you.

You should tell them it's not socially acceptable so they don't embarass themselves.

Personally, I would never wear white to a wedding I was attending, out of respect and not knowing how the bride would feel about it. But if someone is wearing white to my wedding, it wont bother me unless they show up in an actual wedding dress, lol. I probably wont even notice because of everything else going on.

The people who wear white to a wedding are usually judged by the guests of the wedding. I wouldn't wear white just cause I wouldn't want to be talked about all night.

I told someone else recently, that while it is OBNOXIOUS and so distasteful, in the long and short of it- no one is going to be confused over who is the bride, and the only potentially bad outcome is that people will think badly of the guest in white. So overall, no skin off of your back and you'll still look gorgeous and be the center of attention! And people will be whispering behind your friends back going "can you BELIEVE she wore white?!" So it won't hurt you or your day at all. And hopefully they'll be embarrassed.

At my friend's wedding she had a guest come in a white lace summer-y dress. Thankfully she didn't look like the bride as her dress was satin, but if that was my wedding? My dress is lace and summery I guess and I'd be confused thinking, "Are you trying to be my twin here?".

Luckily for October, you shouldn't wear white after labor day, so that'll be two faux pas for that unlucky gal.

I'm confused: They want to wear a solid white dress to the wedding??

I could care less. i also think it's completely unacceptable, but at the end of the day if they wear white the only one who will look tacky is them. i'm sure enough other guests will mention it to them and allow you to be the bigger person.

besides, none of them will look remotely like a bride so i wouldn't worry about them taking the attention away from you. don't stress about it, not worth your energy.

I went to a wedding Friday and there was a girl in an ALL WHITE peplum dress. I was like, No bitch, no.

It wasn't even my wedding! She stood out and looked like in asshat in all white.

I second what Amy said. You tell them NO!

You are such a nice bride. I would have reacted a little bit differently. LOL.

Let's say you decide not to say anything to the two girls and on your wedding day... some or a lot of guests will whisper about the color of the dress they are wearing. It will make them look bad for trying to steal your thunder.

I would kindly tell them to change their dress choice. Not only for your sake, but for theirs.

At a wedding a few years ago, one of the ladies wore all black and the father of the bride was "PISSED". "How dare she wear black to my daughter's wedding?" In their culture, wearing black meant you didn't approve of their union. Just saying. Some people are very traditional. In this case, the ladies are wearing white but you get what I mean.

I'd be kinda annoyed. I wore a shade of blue to my friend's wedding, people thought it was purple, and the bride ended up wearing a purple dress (how would I know that?). The amount of crap I got for wearing BLUE was ridiculous. I don't know why anyone would wear white!

Yep these girls are wearing all white. I have always assumed as a general rule white is a no no unless otherwise asked by the bride. But you all are right-they will look like fools. And I will look awesome love my brides!

WHAT is wrong with people?! I thought everyone knew that this is not an ok thing to do. UGH! Sorry to hear that.

Unfortunately a lot of girls think as long as the dress doesn't look "bridal" then it is ok. Every wedding I have been to in the last year and least one B wore a lace white/ivory dress. Some of them were even floor length. SMH

Columns like this are the problem:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/19/wedding-etiquette-10-rules-you-can-break_n_1677792.html?utm_hp_ref=weddings&ir=Weddings (see #3)

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/01/fashion/weddings/wedding-qa.html?_r=5&