wearing same color as the mother of groom

OP, I'm still not convinced, I'll be totally honest here. If this is true, I think it's awful of them to have done this to you but you also seem like you've made your decision by not answering phone calls. You're supposedly old enough to have adult conversations and tackle confrontation. Tell these people your feelings and either mend the friendship or let it go.

You have every right to feel offended and angry. If this is your best friend, I'd have a serious conversation before I walked away from the friendship forever. Even though they are in the wrong, I would still want to hear why something like that was allowed to happen.

I've never heard of a guest being asked to leave for wearing the same color as the MOB or MOG. Unless they sent a memo out, how could you possibly have known what color would "offend?" It's completely ridiculous that anyone would try to dictate what adults can/can't wear.

Ridiculous!! The bride maybe, but not MOG!

I also have to add that, if real, it's awesome you've embraced technology- I have aunts close to my age that can't even work a flip phone properly and don't care to learn.

Debbie, my heart breaks for you. This is awful.

That's awful! It would be one thing if someone said "hey please don't wear this color" and you did anyway but that doesn't appear to be the case here.

You've said this has broken your heart and you're not sure how you can forgive them, but what would really hurt worse, hearing them out assuming they plan to apologize, or ending a long friendship and missing out on future celebrations, babies, etc? There's no right answer here, truly think about it. I'd at least give them a chance to apologize, express how hurt you are, and then decide if you can/ want to forgive and move forward.

What that was not a cool move

I think it can be helpful to at least have a conversation with them, even if the end result doesn't repair your friendship it at least allows you to express how you are feeling to them. So sorry you are dealing with this.

LOL at the Thomas jokes!

As for OP I would be beside myself. This makes no sense.

Sasswood seriously? Just STOP with the "if this is real" crap. You are continuing to accuse this poor lady of being a troll even though she has done far more than necessary in this post to be given the benefit of the doubt. Do you ever read your own posts and notice how nasty they are? You are NOT the police of this forum. Lay off.

This is terrible and I'm sure hurts a lot, but you should at least hear them out. Stand your ground and be honest. Use active listen speech like, "when I was told to leave that made me feel unappreciated. If I would have known that she was wearing this color, I wouldn't have. Going forward, you should tell me these things before hand and if there is a problem, please tell me so that we can come to a acceptable solution together."

This isn't worth loosing this friend (the MOB), but I would scale back your kindness and generosity to them.

Who asked you to leave? And I'd answer the phone and talk to them and find out who gave that person the authority to ask you to leave. Of course, you're much nicer than me. If somebody told me to leave, I'd tell her to go **** herself.

OP I'm so sorry you were treated so badly by your "friend". I would talk to her and hear her out. At the very least you can tell her how much she hurt you.

How were you supposed to know what color the MOG was wearing? I think people take their wedding colors/attire a little too seriously anyway. Just my opinion.

I've never heard you shouldn't wear the same color as the MOB or MOG actually.

I hope you get the apology you deserve.

Emily--take this moment to realize you are not the police of Sasswood.

Debbie, you rock. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. You can be MY bestie! I'll letcha wear whatever you want. Xoxo

Debbie, you may not want to share your name and picture on a public forum, especially since your Facebook is mostly public and contains lots of pictures of what I am assuming are your children/grandchildren. You might want to change your privacy settings.

As for the wearing the same color fiasco, that is absolutely ridiculous. There is no reason why you could not wear the same color as the mog.

Thank you Mrs. Kassy they are my great grand babies

DP I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine how painful that was. The color of a dress does not matter especially when it's someone who has been there for you your whole life. Internet hugs for you

The famous words of Beyonce "middle fingers up, tell him boy bye " but in your case "girl bye" (

Ummmmm....this sounds a little crazy. I'm sorry that happened to you! I've never heard of that before. If you want to continue your friendship, you should answer their phone calls and talk it out with them. I can't begin to fathom why you would be asked to leave over such a thing.