wearing same color as the mother of groom

@Mrs Hancock, not throat jumping but that is a wide brush you are painting with. MOGs wearing beige is long gone. It's nice when she looks coordinated and also discusses with the bride and groom but what matters is she should feel beautiful and important--NOT blend in.

^^ totally agree. The MOG "blends in and wears beige" is a completely outdated concept Mrs. Hancock. I am quite surprised that someone still believes that. MOG can wear any color she wants (except white of course) and look vibrant and beautiful.

Nope Mrs Hancock, just nope. There is a whole LOT of nope in your post their about beige and MOGS needing to blend into the background. Nope.

Seriously?!?

Aw, thank you!

Too bad your version of sass isn't.

This is so wrong....what does it matter what you wore? You deserve so much more respect than that!!

What the hey I'm laid up with a sprained ankle, I'll bite. Im with others wanting to know, who was it that came up to the Op and ask her to

leave? Op are you certain the bride and her mother knew about this? Just because somebody told you that they were following the bride

and her mother's

wishes doesn't

mean it was true.

Wow yeah that's not a good friend I don't care what color people wear as long as nobody is in white I don't care they can match my bridesmaid my mom who's walking me down the aisle as long as they don't match me

StitchingBride, it was the MOH, the bride and my best friend the MOG that asked. Thank you everyone for the advise thoughts and prayers. I did take finally take my friends call and sad to say there was not a ounce of regret in her voice. She could only say "I don't now what to say" Never that she was sorry! ONLY that she was sorry I felt {THAT Way}. I HAVE THOUGHT AND PRAYED and now understand that no matter what the friendship can never be repaired.

For all those using this time to be mean to each other. It saddens me to think I had any part that opened a door for all the disagreeing and foul language.

The bride and your friend cave up tho you and asked you to leave? That is beyond sad . Only thing I can imagine is that perhaps they

felt pressured by

mog to do so. I'm

sure there's more

to this they aren't

telling you. *hugs* maybe it would be best to step back from all this until you're less upset. I don't blame you one bit for being terribly angry

Call me petty or whatever, but I would've taken all the flowers I paid for with me.

This sounds absolutely ridiculous and I would consider that friendship over.

D, you did nothing wrong and didn't cause any bickering, it just happens sometimes when there is a difference of opinion.

I am glad you got your answer. Sounds like your friend felt caught between her daughter, her daughter's mil and you. Like she is embarrassed it happened and she did nothing about it at the time (was she there--I don't remember).

I would let this be for a while and see if she thinks about her behavior more and apologizes. Then you can choose your course of action.

In the mean time, we are here if you want to vent Many hugs and hope for peace!

It's so unfortunate when these things happen. Fifteen years ago, my two best friends ended a decade long close friendship over a wedding. Friend B did the flowers for my son's wedding, I was careful to control it by buying the flowers myself, giving Friend B specific pictures of the style my dil wanted and asked her to use her wonderfully creative talent within the color and style and urged her strongly to let me know (and it wasn't a problem) if she had concerns or any hesitations. It went off beautifully. Friend B was exhausted but got lots of compliments and attention and gratitude. So when Friend A's son was getting married, Friend B offered to do the flowers again. Unfortunately, they didn't give Friend B as much guidance and Friend B made flowers she thought was beautiful (and they were!) and appropriate to the season and event. Unfortunately, the bride's taste didn't match at all. When she and her bridal party went to pick them up, the bride was overwhelmed with all the emotions of the day and cried that her bouquet wasn't the whites she had expected. Her MOH was consoling her and telling her not to worry, they could get to a "real" florist and get her what she wanted, took the flowers and walked out. Friend B was devastated. She refused to come to the wedding. MOG (Friend A) sided with her DIL, of course, but the outcome is the same............... because I was in the middle, my relationship with both women has lost the closeness and strength it once had. It's sometimes awkward because we all moved into the same neighborhood. It's sad but there are some things that just can't be forgotten even if forgiven. It sounds like your friend and the bride sided with "family" (and the MOG was a toad for putting them in that position) rather than friend and that's worthy of considering whether you want to maintain the friendship, on the other hand if you can see that if the roles were reversed if you would choose "family" also, maybe it would be easier to at least forgive. My one and only hope is that you can find your way through the pain to a happier place whatever is the right way for you.