wearing same color as the mother of groom

@sass Lolllll I vote Thomas too!

It is not a faux pas to wear the same color as the MOG. Most guests would have no clue what color the MOG will be wearing! Who actually asked you to leave? I would definitely end the friendship. How awful.

LOL.. not sure who thomas is,... but truly have you ever heard ANY THING about not wearing the same color as the MOG? No one ever said NOT to wear certain colors.

No, it's not a thing.

If this is for real: You just said you're not answering their phone calls, so clearly YOU are not willing to make amends and hear their side--I have a feeling there is more to it. If you are not willing to talk to them, then you have already decided how this turns out.

(And how are is length of ceremony and gap in between relevant?)

Emily, the Bride, her cousin and her MOM my best friend of over 20 years.

If you're real, post a photo of this dress. *Not* from a website or a department store, but from your closet or something!

Thomas just come back as yourself

This is embarrassing

I say answer your phone and have a good talk before you throw away a friendship.

I_CRE8, You are correct I don't think I could forgive them. The only reason I mentioned the gap in the services was because instead of asking me to leave, they could have just asked me to change before the reception.

I have a hard time believing this level of grammar and syntax is coming from someone old enough to have a 20 year long friendship, esp if we are assuming the two are around the same age and this woman has an adult daughter.

This is my dress

Sorry if my syntax and grammar are wrong. I was just trying to get help with deciding what to do. My heart is broken and this is not a joke to me. I am just trying to find any answer I can to justify their actions.

Ummm...but the wedding hasn't happened yet? 7/30/16?

This is not a thing. I've heard that guests should try to avoid wearing the same color as the BMs so as to not look like they are also BMs, but that's about it. Nothing about not wearing the same color as the MOB or MOG.

TY Samantha for your post.

It is so unfortunate that your friends have treated you this way. How in the world were you supposed to know what color the MOG would be wearing? And even so, it's not an etiquette issue to wear the same color. I don't see how the friendship can be saved to be honest. What they did was humiliating and horrible. I don't blame you for ignoring their calls. I would want to think about it and figure out exactly what I wanted to say before talking to them. There is nothing they can say to justify what they did. You were an invited guest in addition to supplying flowers for the event. Maybe they want to apologize but even then it's too little, too late in my opinion.

Wow that is incredibly painful to experience, I think I would answer the phone hear them out, and then you get to express the pain you are in. But I doubt this is repairable

Fuck them and what they have to say.....

Debbie, I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, this probably isn't a friendship that's worth repairing. If my friends treated me like that, I wouldn't want them near me.

However, if they are reaching out to you, it might be worth taking their call just to see what they have to say, maybe It's a misunderstanding.