Vent ... Opposite problem from most of you ... Nobody wants to come to my wedding...

I'm sorry you are feeling less than loved but you know what when it comes down to it and you are saying your vows , dancing and having a wonderful time with the guests that made the effort to be there you won't miss the people who didn't make it. And they did let you know they wouldn't be there.. there is nothing worse than having a confirmed guest not show up after you shell out the $100 for them, at least this way you can use that money to upgrade for those guests that will celebrate with you. You will have an amazing day!!

Ok when do you have to have in your final count? There are always some people who forgot or remember at the last min to send back the RSVP. Can you change the plate price to a more expensive one?

Everything is going to work out for you!!!

I'm having kind of the same issue, just a little backwards. Everyone I know whats to come to the wedding, but I have absolutely NO help/support/anything from ANYBODY. There has been no talk of bridal showers, engagement parties, bachelorette parties, nothing. Nobody has asked about dress shopping, hair, nothing. I'm planning the wedding completely on my own (aside from FH giving opinions, but not ideas). My mom hasn't even offered any help. I don't really care about the money aspect, I'm just looking for a "hey, have you started looking at dresses? what if you used gladiolas for your bouquet? have you thought about favors? how do you wanna decorate?"

heck at this point I'd even be glad to get a terrible suggestion. I'm pretty sure this means I don't have any friends :/

So I'm going to throw myself a little pity party, and while I'm at it, I'm going to feel sorry for you too. All we can do is be happy we have our men that love us and enjoy our beautiful weddings

My first wedding (the biggest mistake of my life, but that's another story) we had 125 people rsvp YES, 20 showed up to the ceremony and 30 showed to the reception. On top of it one of the groomsmen decided to leave early and get alcohol to take to his room and invite everyone there before we even got through the first dance. Best advice I can give you is enjoy your time with your FH and be happy they at least rsvp'd no.

I am not paying by plate, its 11k min on food& beverage ... I know peole alwats say you won't even notice, maybe not.

@Soon to be - we have a minimum at our venue too and they are letting us spend the min money on anything we want (upgraded dinner, more money on the bar, choc fountian ext), will your venue let you do that?

They will, let us I already upgraded linens & the food & bar.

I'm having the same issue, since mine's a destination wedding. I'm going to feel SOO dumb in my fancy dress in front of ten people, but WHATEVER!! i'll have some pretty damn pictures to brag about in my pretty dress, and the ten who do come are gunna rock with me. hahah!

Most definitly they will I've been to one destination wedding in my life, and it was absolutey AMAZING ... it felt personal ... @ FMRedin

Well these are hard times, maybe finances are difficult for some. I wanted to go to an old classmates wedding but I just couldnt afford the expense to travel the distance, room, gifts etc. As much as I wanted to support her, I just couldnt afford it.

I feel you! We sent out about 180 invites but only have 116 coming. Unfortunately, my venue also has a 145 guest minimum.

Well thats good they let you move money around! if that happens to us im just putting whatever extra we have on the bar!

Call them and find out why they have not replied and if they will not be able to make it.

They'll make you add THONGS to the wedding?!? how unclassy!

I can only think of 80 people I'd care to invite to my wedding and only 50 that absolutely have to be there or my day won't be quite complete I'm betting that everyone that is coming are just those people that you absolutely want to be there. As for adding things, I'd say go a little fancy with dinner and drinks to make up for it! Is it plated or buffet?

I think 70 people is enough... I would rather have 70 then 200... 70 is a good crowd to mingle with everyone but 200 is alot... And as long as your close family comes who cares about the other that much.. Its about joining of two families not how many friends you have there...

@Jen L. haha I know I've been on my dang phone the past couple of days ... and apparently I can't type with a touch screen LOL

Now we are at 99 ... I've been emailing/calling/facebook messaging so many people and actually we have more family than friends invited to the wedding (cause well we don't have many friends LOL) ...

I would be happy with 110 I think, I could then do 6 or 8 people per table, maybe one or two tables with 7 or 9 ...

@Jamie - I'm with you. My MOH is my soon to be step daughter and she's only 9. My adult BMs aren't really into the wedding thing. Only my mom, who makes me batsh!t.

Hang in there, and enjoy those guests that do come.