Vent ... Opposite problem from most of you ... Nobody wants to come to my wedding...

Im sorry. i know it really hurts =( im gonna have the same thing happen but i know it is. i hope you feel happyer soon just think it will be less stress i think

I completely understand. We invited 130 people and in the end, only 80 people showed up. All the family who swore UP AND DOWN that they were going to attend would up calling the day before the final count was due to the venue, to give us one stupid reason after another. Hell, a few days before the wedding my cousin's son was going to be in an All Star game and they all decided not to come to the wedding. I get it, people have priorities and all that and sometimes you just can't predict how things will turn out.

So, I did have a minimum I had to meet but mine was a food and beverage minimum and since it was already paid, I met up with my venue coordinator and I upgraded all the "little" things that I couldn't afford originally. Fancier chairs and linens, the bar was originallyl supposed to be closed for an hour - nope we used that money to keep it opened. In the end, I LOVED the fact that we didn't have a ton of people there. We got to spend so much time with people!

We danced and mingled with everyone and didn't miss a single moment! Look at it in that context...those that matter most have made the effort.

More bar time would be nice. And nicer apps.

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Were you already planning an open bar? If it's a Food and Beverage minimum, then you can definitely do that and also a signature drink, too. Talk to your venue.

Yes, you unfortunately do have to meet the minimum but hopefully your venue has lots to provide. Nicer apps def sound great - maybe you get more of a variety of them, too - ie. 8 instead of 5. Maybe they have in-house lighting or nicer tablecloths or china. Get some awesome decor - less DIY for you. Or maybe they have an in-house spa and you can ask them if you can use that. Or a band they provide? Or try to ask if they'll throw in some hotel rooms into the minimum, if the venue is a hotel.

If 100 people end up coming you'll be dishing out about $110 per person. With 70-75, that's $150!! You could TOTALLY go UPSCALE with that!

Very true ... I went home tonight after being out of town for the weekend and now I'm up to 88 ... confirmed yeses ... yay! I just hope the room doesn't feel so empty you know? It seats up to 220 ... and 88 isn't even half of that ...

You know what? You're going to end up having an amazing, fabulous party for the people who really want to be there with you, and that is the perfect situation! You could have more smaller tables which will fill up the room a little more, and maybe add a station or two.

I had a wonderful couple last year who found themselves in a similar situation. They met their minimum $$ by adding a sushi station and a custom pizza station for the cocktail hour and an irish coffee bar with a donut station at the end. It was an amazing wedding and the people who really were important had a blast.

Awww, I totally feel ya. We invited 155 I think and while we knew about 30 weren't going to make it due to being really out of area, we only have 78 coming. We are paying for 100 people minimum. Frustrating because I asked around before we picked the venue and went with the BIGGER room to accommodate all the people who said "yes, for sure, wouldn't miss it for the world!" annnnd now we are under the minimum. oh well. It hurts though. The people I thought were my really good friends didn't even bother to RSVP no, I had to hunt them down. Some even told me it was too much work to try to come.

I'm excited though, we have 78 people who are STOKED to be coming! I just told them to be REALLY hungry as our costs are in food. hehe. My room also holds 250, but we went with smaller tables and they'll space them out for us; ask your venue how can they 'fill up the room" so it doesn't look empty. You'll have a great time

I am truly sorry to hear this. My biggest wedding fear is that no one will show up not even bridal party. I personally think smaller wedding are better. Less people is more intimate, you will have your closest family & friends there who truly want to share your day with you and FH.

As far as the minimum, utilize the extra to upgrade food, drinks, linens and whatever the venue offers. Go all out. The ones that aren't coming will wish they had.

Good Luck

Bottom line, if people want to be there, they will be there and those are the people that will matter the most to you. Hopefully you get a few more RSVP's but if you don't, don't fret.

Awww i am so sorry to hear that. That is one of my fears as well I was told by the catering hall to over invite because a good 20% of the people you invite will not show up. Call your catering hall to see if they can be flexible on the minimum amount of people they will allow you to have at the minimum amount of people at the location and not charge you for all the people that are not showing up. Another thing I realized about people they dont RSVP but they will show up

Being a big time opponent of fall weddings I have to ask an obvious question, is there a big college or pro football game that day/weekend for a local team/school? I am in Orlando and I'm not a Gators or Seminoles fan but I know that if I had my wedding on a day they played (especially if it was against each other) that would definitely affect the attendance.

Being a big time opponent of fall weddings I have to ask an obvious question, is there a big college or pro football game that day/weekend for a local team/school? I am in Orlando and I'm not a Gators or Seminoles fan but I know that if I had my wedding on a day they played (especially if it was against each other) that would definitely affect the attendance.

We had a problem like that the first time we started to plan for our wedding. What I realized is no matter where and when the people that are most important that will support you and your futur hubby throughout your years will be there or be square! :-)

@Glenn I actually come from a family who is not into sports so that is not an issue for us.

My friend invited 165 people to his and only 48 could come. I invited 125 and only about 86 showed up.

Don't take it personally. Most, if not all, declines were because they simply couldn't afford it.

Thats kinda what we were going through...we invited like 108ish...and only like 71 will be coming. We didn't meet our minimum so we had to add a candy bar to get us over the mark...

Well I'm sorry that you are experiencing that. Just remember that those who hold you dear to their heart will make a way to celebrate with you. I invited 135 and I only had 2 empty seats. It doesn't matter who shows up because all that matters is you are marrying the man you love.

I know you feel bummed, but I agree with everyone else. Since you have a minimum, to fulfill it, you can provide the guests who really want to be there with some extras.

Less people= better food and better drinks look at the bright side those who dont come won't be missed