Vegan Wedding--Rude? Experiences?

How does no food equal a dry wedding? You don't need alcohol in the drink to hydrate yourself.

No food = no drinks.

Dry wedding = vegan wedding

@rayla - don't get me wrong, I'm a huge animal welfare advocate. But, plant or animal, you're still killing something.

Jacks and AL, explain to me how your logic doesn't transfer to mine. If I don't provide a vegan with their "personal first choice" that's rude, but not the other way around?

Your analogy doesn't make sense, let me fix that. Beer and wine is standard, as is meat at dinner. Moet champagne is the vegan option: a nice option but not necessary.

In terms of good hosting and providing for guests. No food/no alcohol is the same, rude. No food of guests first choice =/= being rude, in my opinion.

But there is a difference between preferences and convictions.

"I think meat is yummy and I think vegetables are icky, therefore I would like a steak" is a preference. A host cannot be expected to cater to all preferences. Offering multiple options is the best you can reasonably do.

Convictions are a completely different matter. "I believe it is wrong to use animals as food, therefore I will serve foods that do not use animal products" is a moral conviction. In this case they are still offering their guests numerous options from which to choose.

There is a moral reason to be against eating animal products, even if I don't happen to feel that way. But I have yet to hear of any moral imperative or teaching that orders meat to be eaten at every meal.

Van Pear, I already tried to explain. If you don't offer someone who is vegan a vegan meal then they can't eat. No food=rude.

What Richard said. Especially the last sentence.

@St.PaulGal, then we as posters should extend this same courtesy to those on this site who want dry weddings based on religious convictions. If it is a moral conviction, then we should not tell them that a dry wedding is rude, even if their guests are all drinkers.

@ Mrs Sitzman: Still... As an advocate of animal welfare, you must see the silliness of comparing animal welfare to "plant welfare." Plants aren't sentient. They can't feel or perceive anything. They cannot feel pain or suffer...

@jacks - you must not have read my comment about being allergic to a lot of fruits and vegetables. So, yeah, I can eat vegetarian & hope that there's nothing in it that will kill me. Sorry, not happening. Again, there are people that can't eat mostly vegetarian because of allergies. Seriously. I'm very limited in what I can eat. So, your argument that a meat eater can still eat vegetarian food is invalid.

@richards - no it doesn't & that's called having a double standard. Again, what about people that are allergic to vegetables. No one has addressed this point.

Then, Mrs. Sitzman, I would find a meal for you to eat if it was not among the many options offered based on your own personal dietary requirements. Otherwise you don't eat = rude.

Please note that about five pages ago I did add the allergy statement.

This is an argument that has no end. I can honestly see both sides but, I side on not being hypocritical. & when planning your wedding, make sure to ask if anyone has a food allergy, PLEASE! Because a lot of people do.

Mrs Sitzman: right, what a valid argument designed to contribute effectively to this discussion. Not eristic, at all. You got me.

Elizabeth, I never said that their position be any less valid. Please note, I personally don't oppose dry weddings due to religious belief or necessity. My statement was arguing them in the same breath is moot. Hosts may offer alcohol and guests may choose to partake or not. The choice to partake is left to the person. By simply providing the option of meat, an animal will actually need to be killed in order to have it available, and if there is left over meat, that animal will have died for absolutely no reason.

@Rayla, I definitely think she would agree as well!

Richard, you said everything I wanted to say and more eloquently than I ever could! Well done.

As always, Richard is spot on.

What I said three pages ago:

Food is food. I don't care what I'm served as long as its a hot catered meal. It can be vegan, kosher, halal, don't care. (Within the confines of allergies)

Mrs. Sitzman, with your dietary needs, I'm sure you're aware to notify any hosts of this. If you don't, it's certainly not rude of them to not be aware via psychic ability.

Yep, I'm still waiting for some solid evidence of why drinking is anti religious.

And I'll wait forever. Because no one can explain it because half the time they don't know themselves.