The worst wedding ever!

Actually, no, they have always said "pair down" or "focus on the core things(food, drink, comfort)" or "cut the guest list" or "have a daytime wedding, or a cake & punch reception mid-day"

I've been on here for three years, so no, you are wrong, you're interpreting what they're saying incorrectly.

Also you are on the wrong site sweet cheeks. If someone can't afford to properly host their guests with food and booze we make suggestions such as to make it earlier to have a cake and punch reception, or to cut down their guest list so they can afford to host properly. We don't knock courthouse weddings with a nice lunch or dinner after as well. So try again.

Lay off the fatty girl. It's got you all ragey up in here.

Wait...she was defending EW about showcasing all her money and everyone is elitist?!!?!

Craigslist BM. Wth, I will never would of thought of it. Wow. Kind of sad, to treat, friends and family like that

Yea only when you're down in the dumbs would we tell you to hold off on a wedding.

Usually, the top thing said is push back the date and save.. How terrible!

I like how she posted her own thread because it's pretty hard to argue with the logical comments here.

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Actually, Mrs. Davis, I wasn't "defending EW for showcasing all her money." I was defending her, because girl said she was going to Belize and was excited about it, and everyone jumped down her throat for "bragging." And because she mentioned she had a $4k dress budget, and it drove everyone insane with rage. I just called people out for being jealous haters of the girl, pure and simple. If you can afford certain luxuries, you would not be angered by anyone else that can afford them also. I don't believe she brags. She's on a wedding forum, where she's allowed to share wedding details.

And I posted my own, because you all flagged my comment on here. I wanted more people to be able to see it.

I spent $4k on my dress and still don't like EW's presentation of herself. Don't think I'm jealous.

What's your point?

Anyone who thinks that "haters" are a thing are either naive, or 15.

Oh she called my name!!!

Your comments got flagged because they violated the community guidelines, so why wouldn't your new post get flagged too?

LisaLee- EW since the origin of my lurking days has disclosed every dollar amount of every part of her wedding. I know more about how much her wedding costs than anything else.

Horrible!

Well this has all been very entertaining.

@LisaLee: Of course, if you'd been around here long enough to not be ignorant of @EW's history, you'd know that nearly every post she makes is talking about how much she's spending on whatever the flavor of the moment is. That's all good and well when someone ASKS for other people's ____ budget, but pretty braggy when it's pretty damn near the first thing you write every time you post.

Nobody here is jealous. Far from it. Disgusted is a much more fitting word. Ditto for you. You're an enormous hypocrite to criticize everyone here for actually trying to offer helpful suggestions to people who clearly are unable to host their plans with what they have, and instead you'd rather them break etiquette (which, having a black tie affair you should be WELL versed in, yet you seem to be completely ignorant of), than *properly* host their guests beyond the very minimum necessary to thank them and send them on their merry way.

That is the epitome of rude, of ignorant, and of what is wrong with society today. That is the crown jewel of entitled behavior, and your poor attitude and complete lack of common decency has been made crystal clear to all who have seen you here today.

This sounds like the plot of a comedy movie! I'm so sorry it was so bad!

LisaLee...breathe (air is free, after all).

You wrote, "GOD FORBID someone DARES to throw a wedding when they can't afford to feed all their guests...". Well, not everybody believes in a God who can forbid or permit anything, but we get it. Having a wedding when you can't afford to offer your guests anything more substantial than lettuce and bread is as ridiculous as the thought of me inviting you to my home for dinner and, after asking you to take a seat, saying, "Um, you see the dining table has that pretty centerpiece on it, right? Don't you love the tapered candles? See the plates and the silverware? The stemmed glassware? It looks great, right? In fact, pull out your phone, if you'd be so kind, and take a picture of my beautifully set, dinner party table and then email it to me so I can post it on Facebook. There is one problem, but it isn't huge...umm...the truth is, I couldn't afford to pay for the food that would make this a real dinner party, but I wanted the experience, the photo op, the ability to say that I hosted a beautiful dinner party because well...other people do, so why not me? My dinner party is food light, decor heavy...but it still counts. Here, have a Saltine. Lettuce leaf?"

You also wrote, "Do you have any idea how many people live at or below the poverty line and can't afford such a thing? Or people throughout the world who would feel lucky and blessed to have a free salad and lemonade?! BILLIONS! Yet all you privileged, whiny, stuck up, elitist people on this forum think people like this don't deserve a wedding." Yes, that's exactly what we think -- although I'm sure we differ on the definition of the word "deserve". Actually, I think a soup kitchen has a better buffet than what the OP was subjected to -- which was, in a word, outrageous.

I am not going to engage you on why people find themselves with more month than money. What's next? Everyone deserves home ownership because some people worked, planned their families, watched their credit, and saved their money while others....didn't? This isn't a social awareness site -- it's a wedding planning site. If you're living at or below the poverty line, then reason says, "I can't go out and buy a white lace gown, spend thousands of dollars on floral arrangements, linens, and a tent rental. I will have a cake and punch reception -- not a stylized wedding shoot, pictures of which will fool everyone who sees them because it all looks so real and so opulent".

Everyone is entitled to a wedding? Sure they are. Is everyone entitled to a reception with lots of guests? Well, before you start screaming at us, go ask your local wedding venue owner if everyone without money is entitled to a wedding at his establishment. They aren't. Do you know why? Because that owner PAYS for his property -- via a mortgage and property taxes. He pays his food suppliers, his linen company, his staff, his maintenance people, his insurance broker...he pays, and pays, and pays. So on what planet should he swallow the cost of charity weddings because, after all, everyone is entitled to a wedding? He shouldn't. The mere idea is beyond absurd. In fact, if that were the case, there would be no venues available for you to host your "black tie" wedding. They'd all be bankrupt.

And these "privileged Americans" that have you swinging from the light fixtures at your xenophobic best -- those "privileged" people (and how they acquired such "privilege") are not your business -- at all. Some of them have wealthy parents. Some of them received large settlements due to an injury or injustice. Some of them have multiple jobs. Some of them work overnight shifts. Most of them have been working and saving for several years to host a wedding with more than lettuce, bread, and lemonade (and by the way, the wedding the OP described was an abomination. You don't do that to people -- and if you do, you earn your review. How dare someone plan such an event with the idea, clearly executed, that guests are mere props -- with gifts in hand -- at your carefully staged wedding reception that was nothing but fakery. I'm surprised the OP's hosts didn't go the awful, "Fake Cake" route. It looks great in pictures, but a five tiered styrofoam cake doesn't digest well).

You wrote, "Not everyone is out for a free meal and free booze every time they go honor their loved ones at a wedding." I'm not out for anything, but I absolutely expect a meal and cocktails after I've spent hundreds to attend a wedding (and if you're really having a black tie wedding, you already know -- or should know -- what you're requiring your guests to spend on rentals and gown purchases to attend your wedding). Unless a wedding is "come as you are", "all gifts rejected", and it's two houses down from my house -- it ain't free.

Now, if you're so sorry about all of the poverty and destruction on this planet, join an activist group or donate the funds for your black tie wedding to three couples who can use that budget to host lovely, small weddings. Better yet, donate all of your cash gifts to a few "below the poverty line" couples who deserve, according to you, more than merely signing the papers. What you shouldn't do is come in here, guns blazing, and trying to make yourself some kind of social savior. You're not. You're just another bride, and it's particularly ironic that someone with a social conscience that screams so loudly that you probably have trouble sleeping at night, is going the "black tie" route with her own wedding.

Do people even hear themselves...or read themselves?

Literally LOLing at Alyssachu being poor or fat.

I would like to take this moment to thank LisaLee for bring a little WTFW to my Tuesday. I wont be able to be on much tomorrow and this was a nice addition to my afternoon. (And distraction from packing...my husband is like "get off WW!")