The "it's my day" phrase

I think it IS your day, but you kinda suck if you don't want your friends and family to enjoy themselves and be happy on your day

I think I uttered it once, and I didn't like the selfish, bratty taste it left in my mouth, so I don't really use it.

My parents, our families, and our friends will be doing a lot to accommodate and celebrate with us, so while I won't be allowing any negativity to dominate the festivities, I'd like to think of it as "our" day. A day for everyone to celebrate our love and commitment to each other.

It's your day.....as long as you don't take the phrase literally.

I like to use it as a short way of saying "your wedding day". But some ladies forget the grain(or entire Morton container) of salt that should go with it.

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I think that it is you and your FH day. Of course you are going to make sure family and friends are taken care of, but if they didn't want to be there they wouldn't be. No one is pushing them to spend money on you and your FH it is what they want to do. Of course the food and drinks are for them too, but the people that come to a wedding do so because they want to share your special day with you not because they want something from you.

It's my day and I will have what I want. Which means if I want rainbows and unicorns and a designer dress while my guests eat crackers for dinner, then so be it. My opinion is the only one that matters! Oh, and I think my parents should pay for the whole wedding, even if it bankrupts them...JUST KIDDING.

There are lots of brides who I feel get the attitude above. I think its okay to say its your day for some things, such as the theme and colors. However, you should be a good host/hostess for your guests. After all, many of them are spending money to come to your wedding, whether it be on a gift, travel, clothing, etc. You should provide them with good food, drinks, and entertainment. They are your dearest friends and family - you should be good to them!

Gawd—I loathe that phrase. Whever I hear it said by a bride, I cringe.>

I think there are 20 - 30 minutes about you--that would be the ceremony. But even that includes everyone else because it's not just bringing you together as a couple but merging families and lives. The reception is for the guests and it’s your first host and hostess job to make sure they have a good time. Again. Not about you! So IMO it’s never just about you. It’s a little about you and your husband/wife but mostly about other people.

Then again, I think most of life is that way.

After all the stuff my and fhs family have put us thru over this wedding..its OUR day. They don't like it oh well

It is my day and I use that saying atleast once a day sometimes more. and who ever has a problem with it can go fly a kite.

FMC, in your case, I agree.

I just think that the term is overused, much like, "bridezilla."

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Soon to be Mrs. C: lmao with the rainbows & unicorns

I am totally agreeing with everyone. Being snarky & selfishly declaring it ME day is wrong because guests are spending money (esp if OOT traveling) to see you, spending more money on gifts, people investing their time (DIY help & whatnot). So they deserve to have a blast & feel welcomed.

I do think there are situations where it is totally appropriate for the "it's my day" card to be played. Like if someone wanted to comment on my dress not being white - it's my dress! Or, if I end up getting comments about having a pagan ceremony - it's our vows! When people intervene their opinions rudely then yea I would pump out the phrase.

But I agree that family & friends are there, it's an all of us day

I'm not a fan of the phrase at all....It is a special day but every day that I wake up and I am alive is also a special day. At the end of "Your" day, regardless of minor things that go wrong (and anything except injury/death is minor) you will be legally married....that's what makes the day and nothing else really matters

It is my day when it comes to deciding what decorations I want, where I want the ceremony and reception, what dress I wear, etc. The reception, however, is all about the guests - they are there at our invitation so I want them to be comfortable, full of good food and dancing the night away to good tunes.

I have yet to use the phrase. My Mom uses the idea of that phrase more than I do. I always ask her for her opinion and she always tells me that it's my day and to get or do whatever I want. I include my DH in mostly everything because it is Our day. I do think that alot of brides take the phrase in a literal sense and they forget that other people exist and that sometimes includes their FH.

It is your day.

Plan the wedding the way you want to, but take into account that guests need to have accommodations (i.e. feed them properly and treat them well).

Ultimately, it is your wedding, not FMIL, BM, FSIL, etc.

I think that it is all about your two families. I mean they are joining into one through the bride and groom and I think that a wedding with a high impact is one in which you are surrounded by your two families and are celebrating your new united family

This phrase makes my skin crawl. I am also not fond of "my wedding", "I did ___. It takes two to get married. It takes a roomful to witness your committment. It takes all of the above to celebrate the special day.

I think it is about me and my FH. At the end of the day (literally) we will be husband and wife and if nobody else wants to ever have anything to do with us, we will be doing life together as a team . now having said that, I think the celebration is a sharing of the deep love and affection we feel for each other with those we equally care deeply about in our family (and closest friends). True our guest will be spending money (if be it for a gift or just gas to get to the ceremony/reception) but we will be spending money as well to insure they have a good time. HOWEVER, if none of them decided to show up, it would still be the two of us, sharing our love. that's how I feel about it. It's not right, it's not wrong, just how I see it. Just as those who view it as an opportunity for others to show their support of us, I view it as an opportunity for us to share the joy with them. Semantics- PotAto, Patahto :-)

I don't mind that as much as "you deserve to feel like a princess" - I heard this at one bridal shop I went to. I have never in my life wanted to feel like a princess and the last thing I want to feel is something that is not me.

My parents are approaching our wedding as 'it's your day' and you know, I really appreciate it. We are only having 20 people and the last thing I want to hear is how I should feel obligated to make this a family reunion. It's our money, our wedding..ya, our choices.

Also, I have had a couple of very close people to me get married and they didn't have a reception at all (one we even all got together and went on their honeymoon to Niagra Falls) and not once did I feel like I was owed something b/c I showed up or bought a gift for them. I was just happy to be a part of THEIR DAY