the dreaded bachelor party

My FH didn't want a bachelor party. I told him he should have one and to use our free 2 night stay in Vegas! I trust him, not crazy about his one single friend but I'm not marrying his friend. I think the best thing is to talk to him about it and express how you feel.

I do have to say I do agree with Aimee as too.

They should probably be worried about the bachelorette parties more, LOL

we women get way crazier than the guys do...don't u watch Bridezillas!

LOL, my girls are already talking about the craziness that will happen at my party, and I know for sure there will be a stripper involved.

And as a passion consultant, I've had hostesses have dancers at the parties and the women get wild when a naked man is involved.

I have several close guy friends and from what I've heard most bach parties are them sitting around drinking, playing games, and smoking cigars....yes the occasional stripper, but most women strippers have strict "no touch" rules.

male strippers have NO rules!!

Well I am not worried about it at all I trust him to the fullest and of course you will have that in the back of your head who wouldn't but if you know he wont do anything that's all that really matters relax take a deep breath it will be ok

Sorry you are so worried, girl. Please don't let this make you not want your wedding! I can see how you would be worried about the drunk girls at the bars planting kisses all over your man because they know it is his "last night". I know you don't want to hear it, but those friends could be urging him on other times too. The typical drunk girls are at every bar, and I am sure your man will act the same way he does every time and will be faithful. I know you trust him, so try not to think of it as a dreadful night. You could talk to the guys taking your man out and let them know how you feel. Be confident in what you say and don't make it sound like you don't want your FH to have a good time. You could have a small girl's night out/in the same night to keep your mind a little at ease. Good luck!

Sorry you are so worried, girl. Please don't let this make you not want your wedding! I can see how you would be worried about the drunk girls at the bars planting kisses all over your man because they know it is his "last night". I know you don't want to hear it, but those friends could be urging him on other times too. The typical drunk girls are at every bar, and I am sure your man will act the same way he does every time and will be faithful. I know you trust him, so try not to think of it as a dreadful night. You could talk to the guys taking your man out and let them know how you feel. Be confident in what you say and don't make it sound like you don't want your FH to have a good time. You could have a small girl's night the same night to keep your mind a little at ease. Good luck!

I was a little worried, but just b/c I didn't want him getting trashed b/c his friends don't care... I was able to trick him into thinking that fishing would be a great trip... so they are going on a shark fishing trip for the day... and my dad is going... I'm not worried at all now lol

Im not worried about Fh's party at all. I think he is more worried about mine (crazy MOH). Weve talked about a joint party because we all get along great so theres no point to split.

Kellea...Date twin!

I think you and FH need to have a serious talk about all this..from your other post I am getting the feeling your not 100% sure he is or will always be faithful.

P.S. I would tell your friend about her SO cheating on her if you know for a fact its going on. Even if you dont know her well, you do know...so how can you just not tell her? If everyone but her knows I think she has a group of really crappy friends for not telling her!

FH and i are doing a joint party he doesnt like strippers so i hired one for the guys room just for a laugh we are going to a casino we are taking a party bus there and staying over night and then the party bus is taking us home we are both looking foward to it cant wait to see his face lol

My FH just got back from his Stag 3 days ago. I totally 100% trust him, and there were points in my weekend that I had thoughts going through my head of "what if"......but I kicked them out of my head right away....because I love and trust him. my FH had guys on his stag that I know in the past were not faithful to their partners, and are a bad influence....but I trust my FH that he would NEVER go by anything that his stupid friends could have possibly said. So FH came home from his stag, told me that he had the best time ever with his friends, but he MISSED ME TERRIBLY! If you are as supportive as you absolutely positively can be of his stag, let him know that you are excited that he is excited, it lets him know that he can go out, have fun and not worry that you are worrying. Try to relax....nothing will happen

We're doing ours on the same night...i made that VERY clear to my MOH and his BM...his BM is his brother n my MOH is his sister...although he is more worried about my bachelorette party since his sister is in charge and my cousin...they are both party people and if you met them you'd know why hes worried haha but he trusts me n i trust him

I'm not worried my FH would ever cheat, but the whole idea of going to a strip club has always made me uncomfortable. I always had the mindset of, "are you so unhappy with what's at home that you have to go and pay to see that?"

BUT, I'm sure there will be a stipper or strip club for his bachelor party (and probably my bachelorette, too). He says he doesn't want one, but I know our friends! I try not to dwell on it and I'm sure we'll set some ground rules prior to going out. It definitely shouldn't make you question the wedding. Has trust always been an issue or is it just that friend? I think everyone knows that guy. We have one and, yes, he'll probably be at the bachelor party causing a ruckus. My FH and I both know that he is not, nor would he ever want to be, that guy.

We are having a combined party. His brother and some friends are the ones I worry about. Poor FH is to nice to tell people to get the *bleep* away soooooo the solution is party together.

I'm not worried about it in the least, because I think they'll drink, smoke cigars, play poker, and take a lot of ridiculous pictures. That's what they did at the last 5 parties. Maybe have a stripper, but as some of the ladies said, that's harmless.

But that's besides the point, because clearly you are worried. I think if people want to cheat they just do. With or without a bachelor's party. And honestly (without ANY intention of making this sound as "if you don't trust him you shouldn't be marrying him"), do you think his friends have that much of an influence on him? Because if you do, that would worry me more than just cheating. Do you think your friends could *make* you cheat on your FH?

If he still wants to do it, is there any version of a party you would be OK with? I don't necessarily think a bachelor's party means they have to go to a bar and get wasted.

I didn't read all of the posts, but seriously if your FH thinks these things are ok because it's his bachelor party, he's going to find another excuse for them later. You either need to trust him and grow up or you need to figure out your jealousy and work on whatever ridiculous issues you have before you get married.

I think we're doing ours together. We haven't decided yet.

If he were going out on his own - I completely trust my FH and would not be concerned about him doing anything he shouldn't.

CONT. If he can hide it so well, what about my FH?

WT??? You question whether or not he would cheat but your engaged to be married??? You're issue isnt the friend or the party, its with not being confident he will be faithful. You need to have a SERIOUS talk with him to find out why this is. I would say most marriages end b/c of lack of communication. Dont become statistic!

I was worried about the Bach party a little bit- but then I spoke with his Best man. I had a serious conversation with him (even though we normally joke around and waht not). I explained my concern and he told me that I had nothing to worry about- that he is planning an "All star Sports" theme. NO females will be present at all- just his boys. :-) He also said that he knows how much FH and I mean to each other and that even IF they had decided to do something "typical" that he would have never allowed anything to happen that could jeopardize our relationship. That made me feel a ton better. Maybe you can talk to the BM and tell him that you are concerned and tell him kind of what you are expecting. I also spoke to FH and told him my concern and he told me that he wasn't looking for anything "typical" like a strip club or a bar- he said that it would all be pointless. He wants to go to a sporting event or golfing or something. He loves me. <3

I worry about my FH's bachelor party but in reality, haha, he should really be worried about my bachelorette party!

@ Gina I agree with you as well they need to be worried about ours lol