the dreaded bachelor party

Maybe the best option would be to just either go out all together to the same place or have a party at home with drinks and light refreshments. I think you need to have a serious convo with your FH about this. If it upsets you this much, I think he needs to know. Voice your concerns. But, if you trust in him as you suggest, but just have issues with his cheating friends, give him the benefit of the doubt. Ask him to be open about his plans, and to definitely not go to strip clubs, because you don't like the idea. Be just as open about your own plans. If he doesn't oblige, there may be issues that need to be aired. You are concerned about girls out at bars, in spite of the fact that you said he goes out without you often and you don't think he's cheating. This implies to me that you are a little more upset about him going out without you than you are leading us to believe. I mean, the bar women will be out regardless of whether he's with his buddies for a night out or a bachelor party

Not to make you panic more... but DH told me after we got married that women seem to be more attracted to men who are taken and/or getting married.

We didn't have our bachelor/bachelorette parties, though because we didn't have time before the DW. That was okay with us though. We took each other our on our honeymoon & had fun together!

It's important that you can trust in him. &If he's not willing to address your concerns in a satisfactory way, I think that might cause issues for you in the long run. Communication is essential! I hope you can work this bachelor party issue out in a way that makes you feel comfortable. I'd hate for you to not enjoy your own because you are wrapped up in his! Sending positive vibes your way.

Once again, I dont care about strip clubs, thats the least of my worries. And I dont care that he goes out any other night, I have the option to go, he always asks me to go but I work 2nd shift and dont get home til 11 on week days so I dont always like going out during the week after work. I dont want him not to go just because I dont feel like it. I trust him then, he usually texts me the whole time while hes out anyway. I guess its the attention it will bring when he is the bachelor and its his night. I know it will get the attention of other girls at the bars that night. Ive talked to him about it but he just always says its in my head and I have nothing to worry about and if he wanted to be with someone else he would just leave me. He was married once before and she cheated on him. I know that was very hard for him so im hoping he remembers how it felt.

My fh wants a wild bachelor party and i want a wild bachelorette party. i dont want to go out and cheat on him and he doesnt and wont cheat on me. we want to have fun and act crazy with our friends. ya some of his friends act like fools but so do some of mine. they cant talk you into anything you dont want to do so just trust him.

Sorry, must have misread. Just trying to be helpful. It sounds like you already have your mind made up about it; in that case I am just wondering why you are so torn up about it if you trust him and his judgment. Women throw themselves at guys all the time, ring or no ring. If you trust your guy, this shouldn't be an issue.