Stupid Questions Thread

I'd just specify the collar type & potentially the cuff type. Collars are the thing that can differ the most, so having a consistent collar will unify the look. Also, depending on the guys, you may need to remind them to have the shirt freshly pressed and/or cleaned. No joke, I was hemming a GMs pants 30 minutes before a wedding once because he didn't realize he needed to get them done.

Hmm, if there's that many guidelines, it might just be easier to buy them a $30 shirt! It might be a place that it's just not worth the energy to be cheap lol.

@MissGeek, I would prefer the larger area. I get anxious when I'm packed into a place! And especially at a place like a chapel. You can't change the amount of pews. I would think you had a small turnout at an outdoor wedding with lots of empty chairs (because you have control over how many chairs get put out) but I wouldn't have that same thought at a religious building with a preset amount of seats.

I hope you saw my answer MrsGeek

Do my address labels need to match my invitations?

Question: Can I feed my early guest something? We have a 6pm ceremony on a Friday in a venue at least 20 minutes from the closest person and 20 minutes from any type of food. If the ceremony is inside, it'll be next to the kitchen. I was thinking of doing on type of finger food for the guests to snack on before 545. My concern is that the bite or so to eat will actually make people more hungry than they were before. I'm planning to have a schedule up with the times for everything so everyone knows what to expect for the night. If I was a guest I would be early and would enjoy the snack (along with the spiked coffee bar) but my mom thinks it's unnecessary.

Twas very helpful Jersey Jen Especially as neither of us has been in a chapel that wasn't absolutely packed so it's been difficult to visualise empty vs people having breathing space for a guest's standpoint.

Adotetamm, not at all!! Only one wedding invite out of the dozen or so we've received have matched.

@Natassia, We don't have groomsmen, but both sides have men standing on them and they will wear the same things. I think it's fine.

@almost, I think you could go either way. If I was super hungry, I would appreciate a snack. Is your ceremony long? If it's not long, I wouldn't even worry about it! The last wedding we went to served champagne for guests that were early. That was nice

@nastassia, yeah, I think it would look nice if they matched the guys! It would keep a more cohesive look overall!

Jersey Jen: I think that it is fine for them to wear their own shirts, barring it is fresh (and not dingy looking) and has a consistent look.

Adore: What do you mean by match? I would go with the same feel ie formal, rustic etc, but I don't think that they have to match per say.

Almost: I don't think that that is necessary. Typically ceremonies aren't that long, and I'm pretty sure they would be able to hold off for an hour total between driving time and ceremony time.

Nastassia: they absolutely can wear the same thing. Typically ppl have them wear something different if they want to be sure to differentiate sides.

Thanks everyone. We choose the venue for us and the drive is a lot for some of our guests (though they are building an Inn on the property as we speak!!) and I just want to avoid hangry guests. I think we'll skip the snacks.

Oh. I got a dumb one that's been on my

Mind. So...after you change your name, do you actually have to call your doctors and such and be like "hi, I'm married now!"

Or do people just go with the flow when their apts come up....

I just update it as I go to each none essential business.

@Emily, I legally changed my last name in middle and we just updated as we went to appointments and such.

Fh and I went to visit our venue( did a pop in with FILs last week) and we were asked if we wanted to talk to Eric the manager. We didn't need to at the moment but it made me a little nervous because the person I've been talking to is Mariann. I emailed Mariann on Monday and haven't head anything back. I called the venue on Wednesday and still nothing. We were wanting to set up a tasting, but now I'm a bit worried about it. Am I being irrational in this situation?

Oh and our venue is a golf course so while the course is closed the banquet rooms are open. If I wait to contact the venue until the course is open it would be late March.

@joroka @almostamrs

What a relief.

Thanks!

@Childress, Perhaps there's a manager and a planner/coordinator/wedding person? I'm working C who is the coordinator for our venue but L actually owns it and does the prep work for the reception since she's the chef but she doesn't do much for the ceremony aspect. Maybe see if you can figure out if Eric is listed on the website as anything specific?

Super stupid question but for those that had a DW wedding - Did you do a 'exit' (where the guests send you of) from the reception venue or did you guys stay with the reception till it shut down? We're staying in the venue with some of our guests and the barn is about a 3-5 min walk from the b&b/inn where we are staying. I think it might be odd to do an exit ahead of the guests when we'll all be then headed that same way. Is it weird to hang back and just leave the reception with everyone else?

Almostamrs- Mariann works for a management company for the golf course and Eric runs the actual golf course. It just worries me that I haven't gotten a response from either of them.

How long would you give a potential vendor to reply to an initial inquiry email before you write them off as being unresponsive and unreliable?

I contacted my preferred makeup and hair artist earlier this week and haven't heard from her. She is my number one choice by a long shot, but just wondering if it's time to start looking elsewhere.