Stupid Questions Thread

3Lol I'd give them a week.

@3Lol i would give just a few days. My venue got back to me within a couple hours and it made me feel like I was a priority. And if a venue takes a long time responding i would be worried if i book them and have questions it would take a week to recieve an answer.

Lil Bee, I wonder the same thing! We're getting married at a campground (they rent the whole place out to one group, so our guests will be the only ones), and booked it for a couple more days. Our reception will be like 1-4. I don't know what happens at 4. I want to have a defined endpoint so anyone who is going home that day doesn't feel like they're rude for leaving, but what do we put on a schedule. Going to take a newlywed hike? I feel like we'll probably want to take a nap at that point, but I feel like if we say we're going to take a nap now everyone will get dirty mental images!

ETA: I've been to weddings where the bride and groom party on the dancefloor until the end though! I think you could leave early if you wanted a cool exit with sparklers or something, but otherwise just enjoy yourselves as long as you want!

Is it really the end of the world if I use labels to address everything? Will people really be offended that I didn't hand write out all 200 invites, plus return address, plus rsvps?

Yea we personally want to stay till the DJ shuts down but I worry guests will feel like they should stay later than they would. When I attended weddings that did the exits, guests used that as a cue to leave as well. We don't mind if it ends up just being the two of us as long as the guests don't feel obligated to stay.

@Rachel I don't really think anyone notices the envelopes and what was used for their labels. The envelopes are in the trash between the mailbox and my living room so I never really noticed it. We need a very small amount of invites and our printer is doing the adresses on the envelope for free. If not, we would have done labels since we both write like toddlers.

Thanks, lil bee!

Also, I pick up my dress next Saturday (yay!) But do I ask about undergarments there? My consultant didn't give me that info...

I don't even know how to word this into a question. Hahaha. I'm so stressed about addressing our invitations. I've googled the correct way to do it. But we have married couples. Some family's. Some women who are widows. Singles. Then married couples but where maybe we only really know one of the people out of the couple. Do I send it to parents/BP. Ahhh I know. Sill questions. That I'm just overthinking. But I'm 98 days out and ahhhhh!!!!!

I have a strange question as well... my brother in law is the officiant and I asked him what he's going to say... his reply was "whatever you give me to say"... Should I be supplying the verbiage for this? If so, where would I find that?

Btw @sydsmom .... I have addressing issues as well and I was told: married=mr&mrs; single in serious relationship =you +guest .... anyone under 22 is to the parents address (unless married or living together in serious relationship ) idk if that's the proper way...

My question: Should I tip my hair stylist on the wedding day? I only ask this because I usually tip my hair stylist.

@Sarah: I tipped my hair stylist on my wedding day.

Jacquelyn, professional officiants will provide their ceremony script. Since you asked a family member, you will probably have to do it. I would look online or follow Celia Milton on Pinterest, she has a bunch of stuff on there!

Jennifer: our dress is Sottero and Midgley. It's just a different line. It says it's higher end, but really that just means it's more expensive... I think it's the same quality!

Another addressing question! We have one couple that were married, got divorced, and then got back together. They haven't remarried, but they live together and both go by the same last name. Do we added the invite to Mr. and Mrs. SameLastName? Or what?

@Rachel M, literally every wedding invitation I've ever received had printed labels on it. I didn't even know anyone expected them to be handwritten until I joined WW. I can assure you that as a guest, I have never been offended by printed labels. Lol

I have a question about BM dress fabrics. FSIL chose a mesh dress from DB. FSIL 2 lives out of state and is going to go dress shopping on her own... I wanted her in the same color and fabric, but style of her choice. However, the problem is now she wants a dress with sleeves because she is self-conscious about her weight and arms...but BM dresses with sleeves are not that easy to find. Can I open up the option to not only mesh, but also chiffon, to give her more style choices? Or will those two fabrics look weird together in photos? (ETA: DB also sells a bridesmaid wrap/shawl in our color, but only in chiffon. Would that look weird paired with a mesh dress?)

Is it weird to be announced as Mr and Mrs -FHlastname- at the end of the ceremony/reception intro even if legally, i'm only going to hyphenate at most (if i legally change it at all)?

I like the idea of sharing last names socially and being announced as mr and mrs, but because of my line of work, my last name is kind of recognizable and important to my business so I refuse to drop it entirely. I'm torn on whether its too odd to be announced by a name I have no intention of legally changing to.

MzRosalu, I think it's fine. There was someone on here, can't remember who it was, LizzyS, maybe? I don't know but they had a mix of mesh and chiffon for their bridesmaids! I think they are pretty similar fabrics. But don't go by just me! Let's see if someone else chimes in!

Sugar: totally fine!! You get to makes the rules on that one and if you want to go by Mr. And Mrs. Doe socially, I think it's absolutely normal to be announced that way. Plus no one will remember that after your wedding day if you decide not to legally change your name.

Mz! It was chasity! Here's a thread:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/dresses-are-in-pics-included/44ebd2f31932cd6b.html

Thanks @JerseyJen. They do look sort of similar to me as well. Plus, I already have my brother as Man of Honor in a tuxedo, so maybe they can all just be mismatched and it will be fine lol. ETA: just saw the link. I can't even tell the difference! :-)

@sugarunicorn, I was thinking about this as well. I'm going to hyphenate my name, and I think I will keep my original name at work. But socially, I think people are going to start referring to me as Mrs. FH's last name anyway. So at our wedding, I want to be introduced as Mr and Mrs. FH's last name.