Staying apart on for the night before the wedding?

We're going to stay apart, but that's just because my best friend (moh) and I are going to do our thing the night before the wedding and he and his best man and his buddy are going to get together and do something. I'm going to stay at the hotel with my MOH and he'll probably go home. We've been together (currently just shy of 6 years, by the time we get married, it will be just shy of 7) for long enough that we didn't care if we saw each other or not, it just worked out this way.

Congrats on your impending nuptuals!

Lol totally not doing this, didn’t really realize people still did this. I’m going to be a nervous wreck, I can’t imagine not being with my fiancée….

I didn’t see my husband the day before the wedding. I stayed at the hotel and did some stuff with my bridal party even my little flower girls, like nails and lunch; plus I had my MOH coming in that same day. We had lots of fun. My husband had his time with all his brothers and our little guy at his moms house. We txt each other throughout the day just like we did in the beginning of our relationship and called each other to say goodnight. We met up the next morning for 1st look photos so we can have that moment just for us and it was perfect!

My fiance and I have been together for almost 7 years (it will be our 7 year anniversary in September). My mom is going to try to rent a suite in a hotel near our venue, and have her and I stay in the room the night before, my bridal party will get ready in the same room the day of the wedding, and then my fiance (then husband) and I will use the room on the wedding night.

I also have been with my partner for a long time (will be 12 years when we get married) and we are trying the knot about 30-45 minutes away from our apartment. All of our wedding party will be flying in, so the night before the wedding I plan on renting an Airbnb and asking my bridesmaids to join me there to get ready (they can also crash with me the night before, but they're married and will likely want to stay with their husbands). My partner will stay (with or without his groomsmen) in our apartment and will drive up to the venue. We don't plan on having a shuttle or main hotel, so we will probably come back to the Airbnb for our wedding night.

I personally wont be spending the night before with my fiancé! I like the idea of us anticipating it separately if that makes sense! Like knowing its our last night as an unmarried woman/man. Idk if that makes sense though! Ive known a lot of people who spent the night together and didnt regret it at all! Totally fine either way

For my 2020 wedding my plan was to wake up at home with him, drink coffee and tea, go for a walk a leisurely walk and then head over to venue that was 10 minutes away from our house. But then we postponed...


We ended up getting a new venue, a family members backyard and so we had to get a B&B to stay. A bunch of factors went into it but I ended up staying at my house and he stayed in the B&B and then we got ready separately and did a first look. We opted to do letters and small gifts to each other the morning of, so it was nice to open them by myself without him or anyone else around. (We are very private ppl so we weren’t around bridal party members either) I was super relaxed the whole morning, I loved getting ready by myself! My mom came to button my dress and the photographer came to capture that and some solo pics of me. He also went to grooms getting ready location and capture him w his parents.
So long story short, I wanted to stay with him the night before but since our plans changed and we ended up not... I’m really glad the way it worked out. It gave us some space and separation that we might not have thought we needed but it was good.

I am sleeping over my mom's house. It's easier to go get hair and make up done. I don't need to wake up earlier to drive anywhere.

View Quoted Comment I feel you. We live together, and I just feel like it will give us a little feeling of anticipation before the big day, and maybe a break haha.
Our venue is an hour away from home and everyone is staying at air bnbs. I'm staying with my parents the night before, and my fiance is staying in the place where we'll be staying on our wedding night. Are you staying in the same room that you'll be for the wedding night? Maybe to spice it up you could arrange to stay in a standard room when you get there, but move to an upgrade/honeymoon suite for the wedding night?

We're not separating... Seriously this was never something we've even considered, friends asked us about this and we were like "nope, not happening". But we are getting ready separately, I will stay in the suite and he will go to his Best Men's suite. We'll still get the whole "first look" excitement, but we really don't sleep that well when separated, so ditching that tradition.

Honestly, my fiance is staying in the hotel and I am staying at my parents house. Not for any reason other than he snores and I refuse to be woken up 10 times like I normally am the night before my wedding lmao.

We are staying apart because me and my bridesmaids are going up the night before and getting a hotel room together to have a little pamper day before the big day. My FH is going up to the venue the day off since men have a simpler time getting ready haha. We only have 2 Bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen so it’s easy to split up and hang out with our respective groups

I think the whole staying apart the night before the wedding is outdated. That being said my fiance and I will be spending the night before apart, mainly because I have several things I have to do the night of. Also a majority of our wedding party is from out of state so we decided to have him and and the groomsmen stay at the best man's house and all the bridesmaids will be at our house. This way we also get to spend a little more time with our friends who have traveled to see us.

I talked to my fiancé and he is absolutely against sleeping apart. I think it mostly has to do with our 2 year old daughter and feeling better sleeping wherever we are. Honestly, it is whatever you prefer. You can always sleep together and then separate once you wake up.

My fiance and I are choosing to not see each other the night before, and it's really one of the only traditions we are sticking with. We want to see each other for the first time when I walk down the aisle to him.

I really think it's just something you guys need to decide on, and don't worry about whether you are sticking to tradition! This is your wedding and do what feels right in your heart!

Hi. We are staying apart. Me and my fiancé also live together and have been together for 4 years. Our ceremony and reception is an hour away from where we live so I reserved an Airbnb close to the reception place the day before our wedding. My fiancé and best man will be staying there and I am staying at home and getting ready at home.

View Quoted Comment I think that is so beautiful lol me and my FH are not living together right now. But we did before we had some rough times and separated but now we are in a better place and are here now which we are so happy to be. So we will not each other's dress attire until the day of our wedding. I can't to wake up with him again

My fiancé and I are spending the night apart BUT we are local so there’s no expenses occurred I’m just going to my sis house 😁

We’ve gone back and forth on this too. We’ve been together about 10 years now, the venue is less than 5 mins from our house and my dress has been at mom and dads the whole time. On top of that we’re having a Friday afternoon/evening wedding. Sooooo… I think we’re just going to have a quiet morning together at the house have breakfast and take the moment in. Then go get everything we need to get done separately till the first look. 🤞🏼 It works out well 😅

We are a little superstitious, I guess you'd say - we've chosen to stay apart and are not having a first look! I think both of us really wanted the first moment we see each other to be at the end of the aisle.

It's also why I want to wear a veil. I want the first person who actually sees me fully uncovered in all my glory (lol) to be my fiance when he lifts the veil!

Our plan is a relaxed dinner with our family/bridal party at a local pub. We've also told any of our friends who are down the night before to join us for a drink. We'll then go back to separate houses. I am staying with my two bridesmaids and having some friends come over on the morning of to get ready with me. He is staying with his groomsmen and his immediate family.

We also have a joint playlist of songs that make us think of each other, romantic moments in our years together, etc etc - and both of us plan on playing it as we're getting ready, so it will almost be like we are together!